>I know that I will not be able to eat another cow, pig, or
>chicken ever again. It has only been a weekend, but someone
>has already made comments to me, not so nice ones, about not
>eating meat and my family are big meat eaters so I know that I
>will hear it from them. How do you guys handle other's
>remarks tactfully and politely? I don't want to say what I am
>really thinking because I don't want to turn anyone away from
>this lifestyle and I would really like to see more people do
>it. Any advice there?
>
Ä great book that addresses this is "Vegan Freak." It's available from
www.veganessentials.com .
One dynamic that you will have to get used to is that your eating habits will be brought up by others (often at mealtime), in a way that THEY would be annoyed at having their eating habits commented on. Happens time and time again. And while their comments and even sometimes snide remarks often border on, or even go beyond, being rude, we owe it to ourselves to keep our cool. Otherwise, if you take the bait, you represent ALL vegetarians/vegans and are seen in a negative light ("Vegan Freak" really deals with that common dynamoic well, and I highly recommend it. As do some books by Carol(e?) Adams. There is also a book out with a title something like "being vegan in a non-vegan world" that would have some advice as well) It helps, I find, to see the words on the page, and know that I am not alone, and I am not the only one experiencing this. It's easier to blow off the comments.
The best way to handle things is just be a good role model. Don't push your diet on anyone (even if they ask, don't give them as much info as you'd like, unless they pursue it again, or unless they are asking about recipes, etc.) You kind of have to wait for them to come to you. It's hard, I know,, especially at first (new "converts" to any new lifestyle often are the most proactive in wanting others to convert). I try to do this myself,even though inside, I'm often thinking "how can you eat X, Y,Z? Don't you see how disgusting it is>" Or "you supposedly love animals, and are a kind and compasionate person. How can you not see that compassion should be extended to all life?" But I hold that inside. It takes a while to learn to be more diplomatic.
www.veganoutreach.com has some info as well.