Does youth end at 35?

I'm 41 and I still get carded. Yes, I still pass for someone in their 20s. This is a result of good skincare (microdermabrasion is your friend), a good eating program, and Cathe's workouts. :)

Yes, I do find I have more injuries. I am learning that I need to do less higher impact and more weight training. In fact, I'm not using any risers when I do impact step workouts. I'm finding that I keep injuring my left foot when doing higher impact. I still get a great workout, but not the stress to my body.

I'm in better shape today than I was in my 20s. My skin looks great even though I have some fine lines. My energy level is high and I still have no problems keeping up with everyone with outdoor activities. So, no, 35 is not the end of youth. Look at Cathe and her crew. Everyone, with the exception of Jai, is in their 40s. They all look fabulous!!! :D
 
OMG Vicki, how sweet are you? Thank you so much--fortunately I have a very flattering camera. The closeups are not pretty. :+

Keli, I gave up on online dating long ago. Most of the emails I was getting were from men 50-65. And they were freaks. It was most definitely not worth the subscription.

In fact, something else I've noticed about dating after 35--& this literally happened almost overnight--is that I am rarely approached by men my age range & when I am they're married & looking for a fling. Otherwise they're wealthy men 60+ YO. Now, I have no idea what it is about being over 35 & single that makes married men think you'll be their piece on the side, or that makes older rich men think you'd be willing to date someone whose breasts are bigger than yours. :eek: But they clearly do. x( I'm living proof.
 
Yeah ummm Lorrayne, I've met you, & you have skin like a baby's bottom. Minimum sun exposure, good genes, or both, you're a cutie patootie. :)
 
No, youth doesn't end at 35!!!!

I'm 46 and have never felt better. I have been blessed/cursed with oily skin so I very few wrinkles. I have no aches and pains except for DOMS every once in a while and very few injuries. I still push myself in my fitness pursuits, probably harder than I did in my 20's. In my mind, I'm 16. I can't even fathom that I will be 50 in 4 years. That is screwy.

As far as the fellows go, I have been told by a couple of 20-something guys that I'm hot.

It's not only about the outside but what you feel and think on the inside. If you think you're old, you will be. It's as simple as that.
 
Laura,

from this male perspective.... 48 yo

I'm not in the "market" but I would want someone who is relatively close in age with me with at least a common history. Age is what you make it.

Laura I work with some younger males who were discussing "cougars". It seems that younger men are still looking for "Mrs Robinson". Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher the older/younger thing works two ways
 
Cathe's in *her* 40s. Look what it brought her! :D...

I'm 40 and don't feel any different than I did ten years ago. Hopefully, I've grown up a bit since then, but I don't feel physically any different - in fact, I know I'm in better shape!

Susan L.G.
 
I have more aches and pains now, but but I also have a lot more responsibility and stress, and I suspect that has a lot to do with it.
 
Laura, Laura, Laura! No, youth does not end at 35! I'm 46 and still a kid. (or maybe I'm just immature.) Age spots - go get'em lasered. Aches and pains - are you doing your stretching? Maybe you should get evaluated by a personal trainer or physiotherapist and get yourself checked for muscle imbalances. Anytime I get aches or pains I do this, and they get me fixed up so the aches and pains go away.

I do mostly Cathe workouts, and she definitely has a certain "style" - it's very easy to build up lots of muscle mass and lose your flexibility unless you put extra effort into it. As long as I am in balance (as in weights vs. stretching), I have zero aches, pains, stiffness, etc.

Stebby
 
It definitely ain't over at 35! I am 50 and I look great, feel great, and am in the best shape of my life. Sure I have age spots and
spend a lot of money on anti-aging creams! I am no celebrity and have no money for surgery, which I would not do anyway. But guys stare at me every day and women ask me when I'm going to have more kids (not now, that's for sure!). I teach at a university and see the college guys checking me out - that's until they see my chicken neck up close, ha ha. Just makes me laugh.

I was depressed for a while too about aging skin and achy parts all over. Now every time I get an achy problem (for example feet, back, whatever) I work on that specifically, using weights and stretching. I always work through it. If it's tough, there's ibuprofen and massages. Or, just taking a break and healing.

Take care of your skin, read everything you can on aging healthfully, eat clean, work out with weights, cardio and flexibility, and you'll be just fine. My husband says I am "hotter" now that I was when he met me.

And the guys who use 35 as a cut-off - forget 'em. There are guys out there who are not so shallow. And life without guys is quite wonderful as well - I have spent plenty of time single. My husband is 6 years younger than I am. My best friend, who is 63 and looks like she is 55, is living with a guy 15 years younger than her!

Go girl! Walk proudly, work out hard and wear great clothes. Let your energy shine through. That's 90% of making it all work. Listen to your body; if you don't feel energetic some days, rest and relax.

Sorry to go on and on here - I just want you to know, it ain't over at all! It's whatever you BELIEVE it is.

~ Ann ~
Aim for nothing, and you'll hit it every time!
 
Laura, I remember you, too. :) You were the one that had the awesome lean and tanned body. BTW, I was envious...

Thank you for the complements. I used to tan all the time but stopped doing this 7 years ago. It has taken a few years to get rid of the sun damage, but I think it worked... Also, my skin really improved once I started eating better and started incorporating flaxseed oil in my diet. My hair, nails, and skin really improved as a result of this.
 
Oh my!!! When I read the posts of those of you in your 30s I remembered back to those wonderful days ;) I'm 51 I certainly don't feel it. and I'm told I don't look it. I just say "This is what 51 looks like!" But, back to the question and this is such a cliche, but age actually *is* what you make it. I feel like my mom saying this, but someday you'll look back at 35 and think "how on earth did I think that youth ended then?!"

However, re: dating, I can't say, since I've been married quite a while, but it seems really unfair that men specify certain ages with the assumption that anyone outside of that age range has nothing/little to offer. Well, I suppose those are the kind of men you wouldn't want to meet, anyway.

When I read the posts on this forum, I assume youth, because everyone sounds so young :D
 
Hello Everyone,
Just a few thoughts from a 46 year old mother of six--ages 23,19,16,13,10, and 7.
I am in the best shape of my life thanks to Cathe. Three months ago I weighed 135 (I am 5'5"). Not what you would call overweight. But mentally and physically I was tired. Every afternoon I wanted to take a nap. And many days I did. I had worked out with Cathe in my early 40's and had been in the best shape of my life. Then I went on a little vacation to visit a good friend and I never got back into working out.
This past August-one month before my 46th Birthday I began running. I thought I would die. The first day I ran 2 miles. I spent the next 2 days lying on the couch with a killer headache. But then I started running just a little and then a little more and a little more. On my 46th Birthday, I got up at 6am and put in a Cathe weight workout and just did it.
For the last 2 months I have been running or doing step workouts 3 times a week and doing weight workouts on the other 3 days.
I now weigh 124, have gone from a size 12 to a size 8, and run 4 miles in 40 minutes (not super fast, but I am not paralyzed on the couch for 2 days either). I look forward to my workouts and have more energy than I did in my twenties.
So yes, I had lost my youth. But thanks to Cathe and making the decision to get off my butt and get healthy I have found it again.
A few side notes: many of you wonderful ladies have mentioned that turning 40 gave you the ability to stop worrying about what other people expect of you. Well, within the last 6 years I have stopped shaving-don't even own a razor, stopped wearing shoes-even when running and working out (I could never run wearing shoes. I would constantly get plantar phasitis and my ankles, knees, hips, and back would hurt so I would quit), and this past month I have stopped wearing a bra (read about it possibly contributing to breast cancer and I have always hated wearing them).
We are indeed fearfully and wonderfully made.
Thanks for listening to this long post.
God bless,

Heather
 
Hi everyone,

I just got home from a stressful day at work, and have just loved sitting down to read all the responses to this post! I turned 36 in August, and while I've definitely noticed more aches and pains the last few years (not to mention TONS of gray hairs -- thank goodness for highlights!), I was actually thinking the other day about how much better I feel about myself in my 30's than I did in my 20's. I feel like I've finally started to feel more comfortable in my own skin (which is not to say that I don't still OBSESS over my wrinkles), and I know that that feeling will continue to intensify.

One of my good friends who I've known since college is a couple of months younger than me, and she won't ever tell anyone her age. For her 35th b-day, her boyfriend even got her a cake that said "Happy 21st" on it. I know some people are like that, but, in my mind, getting older is so much better than the alternative!

Leanne
 
I'm 33 and hesitated to click on this thread at first but am glad I did. Your responses are so empowering...thank you! :)

Love the comments about the "cougars," Dave.

[font face="heather" font color=black size=+2]~Cathy[/font]
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In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 40:


60 Minutes Correspondent Andy Rooney (CBS)
As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.



If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting.



Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.



Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.



Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.



Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.



Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her.



Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal.



For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of him self with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.



For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!
 
Well, I'm 33 and I have days where I feel like old age is catching me early, but mostly I realize that I am the happiest and most fulfilled I've ever been in my life, and I only see that improving with age. I am also more confident and I know myself better, though like others have said, the more I know the more I realize how little I know, but I'm o.k. with that.

I am not one who can say she looks better than she did years ago (still haven't recovered that pre-baby waist--which in retrospect was ridiculously small, though I didn't appreciate it at the time), but I am working on improving my shape and fitness level (or will be working again when I'm healthy again). I've worked harder and more consistently on fitness this year than ever before, so I know that I'm not going to let old age catch me yet. (But what's with my knees and the snap, crackle, and pop all the time?)

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I guess it all depends how you feel and genes.

The females in my family have a history of looking younger for their age. Some people tell me I look younger.

Thanks to the fact that I exercise regularly and eat well, I also feel fantastic.

I have two girls and I feel even younger with them around. They sure work me to death, but their energy surely energizes me too.
 
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