Asking DH for a separation

I am so sorry you and your kids are going through this and I pray for your strength and safety. We all care about you and are here to lend a sympathetic ear, moral support and encouragement.

(((((HUGS)))))

JJ
 
Good luck, best wishes, and big hugs from me! I know it's tough and I hope you'll feel us with you in spirit. You said before something about not having friends, but I think you can count many of us as your friends, even if we have never met in person. We will all be thinking of you and praying for you.

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Yes, you are making the right decision. You and the kids and your dog all deserve much better. Yes, there are men out there that do not act and do things as you DH has been doing. When you look back a year from now, you will see the big turning point in your life and your children's.

I will definitely be praying for you and your children. I, also, agree with the posters who worry about your safety and for your children. Maybe you do not need to voice this to him. Just do it!

You are a wonderful woman who has many women who back you from this website. We might be cyberspace friends, but we are friends who do truly care for your well-being and for your children, also.

Please let us know ASAP how it goes for we will be praying for you.


Hugs to you and your children,

Cheryl
 
You and your children are in my thoughts and prayers. You will learn to like and love yourself again. I know this has been a difficult decision for you. God Bless!

A friend in fitness,
Shirl
 
Good luck anonymous! I know you can do it. Like others have said, I hope you have some kind of plan for dealing with the situation safely.

I know you're scared and stressed out, but just think, soon you will be on the path towards a happier healthier life for you and your kids.

(((HUGS)))
 
God will be with you and your little ones. It will be hard at first but you will get through it. I have an extra room if you need somewhere to go I am in Michigan.

Remember he is not your superior he is your equal and if he can't get that he never will.

Your heart will mend, your trust will be very hard to give and your guard will be up at all times but when the time is right. You should love yourself (FIRST). You are bright, strong, beautiful, caring and loving it is not you that the problems lies.

Good Luck and I will be praying for you.
beth6395

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Anon, good luck. Please be careful.

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Hi Anonymous,

I think you are doing the right thing & I hope everything goes well. You have made a courageous decision & I think you will feel much better, mentally & emotionally, after you get yourself & your kids out of that situation. It might take awhile but I also think you will trust & love again someday. Please be careful. I will be thinking about you & looking forward to seeing you post again soon. Sending big hugs to you & your kids (& doggie too).
 
My mind will be on you tonight. Stay tough, don't let him bully you.
You are only going upwards now.

Jennifer Claire 12/24/2005
Taylor Elizabeth 08/22/07
 
I'll be thinking about you and praying that it all goes well. Like so many others have said, just be safe. And let us know how it went so that we know you are OK. Emotionally, it will take time to heal. But how brave of you and strong of you to make such a big decision on behalf of you and your kids. That's not something a weak person does. You are a strong woman who should never feel bad about yourself. We're all here for you!
 
Sending some strength and prayers your way!! IA w/the others think safety first .. if you feel as though you have to "talk" before the big move ..get the kids to safety first then talk ..

As far as recovery and loving again ... My BFF that was abused for 13 years of her marriage . . recovered and discovered a strength she had forgotten she had .. she learned to love herself again .. and will never allow herself to be in that situation again .. and happy ending .. she did find true love .. w/a wonderful man that treats her w/respect and loves her unconditionally as he should!! Thank God she got out when she did .. I really don't think she would be here today if she had not gotten out!

So stay SAFE .. STAY STRONG .. you are a beautiful person inside and out .. and one day you will KNOW this w/o a doubt!!!

My prayers are going out to you .. May God keep you and your kids and animals safe!!!
 
I totally agree with several of the above posts. From what you've said about your husband I would leave first. Then maybe meet him in a public place to tell him you're leaving. Don't worry about what you may "owe" him and think you should tell him you're leaving before you do. You don't owe him anything. You owe it to yourself and your kids to get out of there. And don't let him try to talk you out of it by promising to change. They'll just be empty promises.

I'll be praying for you that God will give you the strength to do this.

Jacque
 
Hi

Just think of how many people are behind you on this and draw your strength from it if you need to. You have many wonderful friends here.

"He needs to know what it is like to not have a great wife and mother to his kids like I am" <--- he probably won't realize it anyways. The important thing is you and your kids (including the 4 legged variety) will be safe and YOU will know what it is like to be free, and not be treated the way he has treated you.

Will you ever trust again? Probably when you meet the right person. Not everyone is like him.

As for loving yourself, don't let him take you there. You have got to love yourself no matter what, even more so because of this situation.

If you need anyone to talk to, I will give you my number.
{{{ hugs }}}. We will be awaiting your next post.

Penny
 
I agree - get the kids and the dog out first - leave them with friends if necessary. Then, do what is going to be safest for you. I would get your stuff out when he's at work. Like others have said, if you can have a friend nearby or do this in public, please do. Protect yourself and your kids and dog first and foremost. As for self-esteem - you are demonstrating intelligence, courage and strength right now!! Hold on that and don't let it go!!
My thoughts are with you. Stay safe.
 
You are so brave for what you are doing. God bless you and your family tonight. Please let us know that you are safe and please tell someone close by what is going to happen and perhaps leave the kids out of it. They can be used against you when things go badly and you have enough to worry about without worring about their safety.
 
You and your kids deserve the best!! Life will eventually get better, just be patient. Good luck, I will be praying for you and your kids. Big hug!!
 
I will be praying for you and your kids. And I'll pray your dh wakes up and relize what he has done. You deserve better and you are making the right choice. Just leave don't explain. I don't want to see you on the news tomorrow.

Farrah
 
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