Asking DH for a separation

Stay strong - you are stronger than you even know. Good luck and make sure you have people who can get to you in case you need them. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
One thing you will find is that your self esteem my improve once you are away from him. That happened to me - they just bring you down, put you down, and keep you there. Once you are free, just let all of that go - never listen to those voices in your head repeating what he has said to you over the years. Know that you are strong - only a strong woman could do what you are doing - you are standing up for your kids, your dog, and yourself. And you WILL make it, and be even stronger and wiser. Take time to heal your new little family. If someone comes along, and it is right, you will know it and learn to trust again. I did - he adopted my daughter and no one would ever guess they are not biological. Having been in this situation (finding a true love), I find that I hear so many positive stories of people who also find happiness again. Just always remember that your life is worth living to the fullest, and you deserve happiness and joy - as long as you are feeling that, you will be just fine. Hugs and prayers - Shana
 
You are a beautiful, courageous woman and stronger than you know. What you are doing is for the greater good of you and your blessed children and it is absolutely right. We are with you in spirit as you stand at the crossroads supporting you when you need to vent or seek. Mostly we are eager to hear of the better days that are surely coming for you all. Blessings.

Thinking of you...

Take Care
Laurie
 
Anon, you are doing the right thing. I am so proud of you for taking this first, huge step towards freedom. When you have a moment to catch your breath you will see that this is the right choice. A difficult life without a poisonous relationship is vastly superior to any kind of life with one.

Please, please keep us posted.
 
I agree with the posters who suggested that you leave first--get you and your children to a safe place--and then tell him, preferably by phone, so the situation would not become dangerous for you. Perhaps you should consider a restraining order.

take care
Maggie
 
Sending you and your little ones {{{HUGS}}} and prayers, Anon! Please keep us posted on what happens tonight, and know that you have many friends here who care about you! You're a beautiful, smart, and compassionate woman, and I hope that you realize this again soon!
 
You did the right thing!

Also, being able to take such a huge decision is the first step to appreciating and even loving yourself for who you are and what you need and take a stand on what you think is best for you and your kids.

Don't give up!

Chris.

:)
 
Love and Hugs

I read this before I left the office last night and did not return to the forums to respond, but I have been keeping you and your little ones (including your puppy) in my thoughts and prayers. Please be safe and let us know how it went. You are doing the right thing for your children. As one who experienced this as a child, I thank you. As one who has battled my weight for a lifetime, I understand your insecurities. But you are worthy of being treated with love, honor, and respect. Not because you are fit and beautiful now, but because you are a treasure! Your worth has nothing to do with your weight or size. I wish you all the best. Love and hugs to you!

Blessings,
Heather B.

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV).
 
You didn't say exactly what had happen, but I feel I'm probably going through the exact same thing. I've never posted anything, I just felt compelled by your message. My husband has been addicted to internet pornography for the last five year. I've watch him spiral into a person that I can't even recognize. Just prepare yourself for what's on the other side. There will be more. I'm very sorry for whatever is happening and my heart goes out to you. You'll need to see a counselor and proabably your kids will too. Whatever he's doing he won't get better. I went the separation route. I thought he was getting help, but in reality as soon as I left he was with some other girl who was barely legal and two of her friends were living in my home. DO NOT LET THIS TAKE YOUR SELF ESTEEM!! In reality it has nothing to do with you. I'm sure you're a great person that didn't deserve this. I will definately pray for you.
 
Best wishes to you.
I think you're doing the right thing as well.
And I agree with others: get yourself, your kids and the puppy out before asking him. Make sure they are in a safe place so he cannot use them against you or threaten them. If possible, tell him in a public place, and/or have a friend close by.
 
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