Disappointed in myself:(

punka274

punka274

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I dropped out of school(college) today:(.

It was just too much with the kids and everything:(

I just feel so bad right now:(
 
Don't feel bad. I go to night school and work full-time and could NEVER add kids to that mix which is why I would like to finish school. Don't say you quit say you are taking a break for a semester or two!!! This way you will keep the motivation to return when things are less hectic.

The fact that you are thinking of your family is why they are so luck to have you!!!
 
Amelia,

(((HUGS))) Taking care of your family is challenging enough without the added pressure of college. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you'll be able to finish when the time is right.
 
Oh (((HUGS))) to you Amelia. It's ok! It just wasn't the right time. I've dropped out of college more times than I can count. I'm back in an adult college program now (have been for 7 months) and I'm literally counting the days until I'm done (only 462 more...:(:eek: kill me now....)

PLEASE don't feel bad and do NOT get down on yourself. If you want it bad enough, you'll get it done some day. Right now just isn't the right time. And you know what? College isn't for everyone. Yep, that's right--I said it. ;) It's just not. If you're heart isn't in it and after some soul searching you come to the decision that you just don't want to go back that's fine.

Hang in there!

ETA: I agree with Erin--I work full time and go to school at night and there's NO WAY I could add two small children to the equation on top of that. Kudos to you for even starting and taking that first big step!
 
It takes a strong person to see their limits and make a tough decision and you did it for your family. Its very admirable. School will always be there next semester or next year for you. It's not going anywhere and you'll achieve what you want to achieve in your own time. (((((Hugs)))))
 
More {{{HUGS}}} Amelia! Don't feel bad about yourself. If you were feeling too overwhelmed you probably made the right choice. It may not be the right time for you. Maybe when your kids get a little older you'll have more time for yourself and you can start up again. Hang in there :)
 
punka274 said:
I dropped out of school(college) today:(.

It was just too much with the kids and everything:(

I just feel so bad right now:(
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Oh Amelia- Big hugs to you! If you really feel you did what is best for you & your family - BE PROUD! You'll go back & finish if its still your goal later- timing is everything. Life tends to work itself out perfectly.... I applaude you for making what was apparently a hard decision.
 
((((Hugs)))) to you Amelia! Don't be too hard on yourself. As others have said, if it just isn't doable now, maybe things will change later and you can go back to it. Don't beat yourself up...sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. And sometimes these things have a way of working out in the end. Hang in there...we're all here for you either way!
 
You are very strong for not just thinking of yourself and making a hard decision based on what was best for your family. Please try not to be to disappointed in yourself, we aren't! :)
 
Amelia, I've played with the idea of going back (I only went for 2 years). I thought maybe even an online course.

But then I look at my typical day with the kids, and how tired I am in the evenings. Even my dearly loved but simple hobbies cannot be enjoyed with any regularity. If I pushed school now, I could DO it, but I'd be miserable. And when mom ain't happy...

I agree with everyone else. You've made the right decision for you. And school will always be there for us, right?
 
Heck school will always be there. I promise you. In a few years school will still be there. Pat yourself on the back for taking care of your family. Your such a trooper and your family will appreciate it too.
 
Amelia

College will ALWAYS be there, your kids are only little once so enjoy & DO NOT feel the least bit guilty. I think you have your priorities right on track!! :D
 
(((AMELIA))) Sometimes we are just way to hard on ourselves and hold on to too much crap that we shouldn't. You did what you need to do and there is nothing wrong with that!!
 
Amelia,

Do not feel bad at all. It is much better to make the right decision now instead of floundering around between both school and family and causing both to suffer. Hugs to you.

Jean
 
Sorry you are disappointed, but it should only be disappointed that you were hoping it would work and it didn't. Don't be disappointed in yourself.

You have time with your kids, time to share with us, YIPPEE ! ! !, and college is mentally exhausting and time consuming. We all only have 24 hours in a day and have to make hard decisions sometimes. You chose your kids - GREAT decision in my eyes !

Now you have something to look forward to in the future too ! ! !
 
punka274 said:
thanks for the hugs....I needed them
Have a great day everybody.
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Adding in my (((HUGS))) too, Amelia. I keep trying to decide if I'm going to go back to school but haven't done it yet. It sounds like you made the best decision for you & your family!!
 
It took me 8 years to get a 4-year degree because the cost was all on me. If I had it to do all over again I'd have retired from the military (retirement at age 30, oh man), then I'd have gotten the job I now have (post office, great retirement benefits IF you participate). I would have worked nights and would have gone to school days. It would still probably take 8 years but, meanwhile, I'd have been fabulously "set" for retirement. I'm surrounded by people who had the foresight to do just that. One guy retired with postal/military retirement two years ago and he has plenty of money to travel and do lots of stuff. You can always get a degree and, unless your parents paid for it and you went right out of high school, it will probably take you forever, anyway so you might as well get an early start on your retirement savings (even now, with the bank failings). Please don't feel like a failure. I don't feel like a failure because it took me so long though, obviously, I could kick myself for not planning it all out better.
 
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