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Eminenz2, Very thought provoking thread...what I always expect from you 
I've come back to this thread today after leaving it on Thursday and was not surprised by many people thinking Janice was being judgmental. Janice has always been very direct and frank on this forum and I think some women have a problem with that. Knowing this about Janice, I read only curiosity in her post.
Every woman either directly or indirectly chooses her path in life. We all have needs that are somewhat based on our past and somewhat based on our present. Those needs pull us toward our path. What a boring world it would be if we were all the same!
I have the utmost respect for every woman who chooses to be a mother, no matter how many children she has as long as it is a choice not the absence of planned parenthood. I realize that Oops' occur and are accepted with love in the right home. Putting the emotions aside, there is the real world of affording what we have. It puts terrible stress and strain on a marriage when the family cannot afford the basic necessities in life. That stress and strain is then carried on to the children. That is logic and that is reality. I will say that this is probably not the case of the women who attend this forum, but it happens. I see it when I go grocery shopping and there are Mom's walking around with four or five children trying to manage grocery shopping and manage the children who are running around out of control.
During my internship for my Psychology degree, I worked with adolescent pregnant girls who thought nothing of popping children out right and left and was appalled that they were just repeating the behavior of their mothers and grandmothers. For those of you who have not been exposed to that world, it is the inverse of the romanticized world of pregnancy and motherhood...and, it's happening more than you care to think about.
I've come back to this thread today after leaving it on Thursday and was not surprised by many people thinking Janice was being judgmental. Janice has always been very direct and frank on this forum and I think some women have a problem with that. Knowing this about Janice, I read only curiosity in her post.
Every woman either directly or indirectly chooses her path in life. We all have needs that are somewhat based on our past and somewhat based on our present. Those needs pull us toward our path. What a boring world it would be if we were all the same!
I have the utmost respect for every woman who chooses to be a mother, no matter how many children she has as long as it is a choice not the absence of planned parenthood. I realize that Oops' occur and are accepted with love in the right home. Putting the emotions aside, there is the real world of affording what we have. It puts terrible stress and strain on a marriage when the family cannot afford the basic necessities in life. That stress and strain is then carried on to the children. That is logic and that is reality. I will say that this is probably not the case of the women who attend this forum, but it happens. I see it when I go grocery shopping and there are Mom's walking around with four or five children trying to manage grocery shopping and manage the children who are running around out of control.
During my internship for my Psychology degree, I worked with adolescent pregnant girls who thought nothing of popping children out right and left and was appalled that they were just repeating the behavior of their mothers and grandmothers. For those of you who have not been exposed to that world, it is the inverse of the romanticized world of pregnancy and motherhood...and, it's happening more than you care to think about.
