I think it's fine to have cupcakes/snacks for special occasions. And this comes from a mom of a child with Type 1 Diabetes. Even though I wasn't thrilled with the fact that he was eating something so sugary and his blood sugar would probably spike, I still thought that kids should get something like that on their birthday at school.
The kids also have Pizza Day as a reward, or this week they're doing Make Your Own Sundae.
And again, i don't have a problem with that either. It's fun for the kids! I really don't think it's these occasional treats that make for "bad" eaters and child obesity. It's at-home , take-out, drive-thru's, fast food and inactivity that is the problem!
On the other hand, I've also sent in fresh fruit platters for events, and have been present , and the kids chose that first and more of it than the cookies and junk food.
Our school lunches probably do need improvement, but they have improved in the last few years for healthier options and fresher options.
That's interesting about that woman, Jacmar. Sounds pretty scary!!