My dad is dying.....
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So sorry Janice. My mother who was a long time smoker is also has lung cancer and had most of one lung removed. It is very tough to go through it. Prayers and kind thoughts to you - keep your strength up and let us know what is happening.
Melissa
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Melissa
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andtckrtoo
Cathlete
Janice - Oh, my heart goes out to you! How tough! You and your parents will all be in my thoughts and prayers. Please get a second opinion on your mom. Her doctor could be absolutely right, but if he's not and something needs to be done, then you need to get it done right away.
HUGS! I hope you have better news soon!
HUGS! I hope you have better news soon!
lisaannjam
Cathlete
Janice..I too am so very, very sorry. You are your family will be in my prayers. May God be with all of you.
naughtoj
Cathlete
Thank you all for your kind words!! One thing I am really glad about at the present time is that I have a month off of nursing school to get it together. I just started a new job so I have to keep focused for that I suppose.
I know a few of you had personal stories with the same diagnosis.........if you have anything specific you can share with me other than what you already have (eg., how long your loved one lived post-diagnosis) I would love to know. My email is [email protected]. It would be most helpful to help me understand the road I have ahead of me. I am very, very sad that I am going to lose him so early but I am so much more scared of what is going to happen to him/what he will go through before he dies. I don't know if I have the strength to watch it. Docs said w/o radiation for his brain his mind will go before his body does. So, hopefully the chemo and radiation will shrink the tumors down enough so that he doesn't have to experience that. But eventually, won't he anyway??
And I will push my Mom to not only QUIT SMOKING, but to also really push to find out about that spot on her lung/adrenal. WebMd lists "adrenal adenoma" as a NON CANCEROUS tumor, but how do they know if they did not biopsy? And further then, what is the spot in her lung???? Hmmm.
Thank you. I appreciate any prayers you all can say for my father. I will look into hospice and how that all works. I know I want him to go peacefully (sob)....;(
I know a few of you had personal stories with the same diagnosis.........if you have anything specific you can share with me other than what you already have (eg., how long your loved one lived post-diagnosis) I would love to know. My email is [email protected]. It would be most helpful to help me understand the road I have ahead of me. I am very, very sad that I am going to lose him so early but I am so much more scared of what is going to happen to him/what he will go through before he dies. I don't know if I have the strength to watch it. Docs said w/o radiation for his brain his mind will go before his body does. So, hopefully the chemo and radiation will shrink the tumors down enough so that he doesn't have to experience that. But eventually, won't he anyway??
And I will push my Mom to not only QUIT SMOKING, but to also really push to find out about that spot on her lung/adrenal. WebMd lists "adrenal adenoma" as a NON CANCEROUS tumor, but how do they know if they did not biopsy? And further then, what is the spot in her lung???? Hmmm.
Thank you. I appreciate any prayers you all can say for my father. I will look into hospice and how that all works. I know I want him to go peacefully (sob)....;(
purple_magada
Cathlete
I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
Janice...I'm trying to email you, but it's not letting me get through on Cathe's site for some reason. Shoot me an email sometime so I have you in my address book....we have an updated system and I lost yours. [email protected]
I have been and will continue to pray for you and your family. Keep us posted and email anytime.
Briee
I have been and will continue to pray for you and your family. Keep us posted and email anytime.
Briee
cathykazbar
Cathlete
Janice,
I am so very sorry. My FIL was just told that his colon cancer has metasticized to his lungs. We, like you, are not sure how much time he has left. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me. My sympathies to you and your family. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers.
Cath
I am so very sorry. My FIL was just told that his colon cancer has metasticized to his lungs. We, like you, are not sure how much time he has left. If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me. My sympathies to you and your family. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers.
Cath
buffettgirl
Cathlete
My heart and prayers go out to you and your family, Janice. It's so hard to lose a parent. Best wishes.
gidget1978
Cathlete
Just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. Life certainly is not easy.Cherish the moments you have left with your dad.
Lori
Lori
JAFitMama
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Janice-
May I send my sincere condolences to you and your family. Having lost my mother to a brain carcinoma in a short amount of time, I can empathize with you. However, I can offer no medical advice. Just keep asking questions of both your parents' doctors.
And really make special the time that you have left with them.
((( hugs)))
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May I send my sincere condolences to you and your family. Having lost my mother to a brain carcinoma in a short amount of time, I can empathize with you. However, I can offer no medical advice. Just keep asking questions of both your parents' doctors.
And really make special the time that you have left with them.
((( hugs)))
Judy "Likes2bfit"
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Janice,
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. My mother died when I was a teenager from cancer; she had been sick for years, but doctors could never find out why (they eventually managed to convince her she was suffering from psychological problems, and got her to spend a month at a mental hospital). She passed out one day, and after admitting her to the hospital, they found a spot on her lungs, checked further, and the cancer was everywhere, including her brain. She lived six weeks after that. She lost track of where/who she was near the end and, I know this sounds bad, but that was a blessing in many ways because she died peacefully.
You're in my thoughts,
L
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. My mother died when I was a teenager from cancer; she had been sick for years, but doctors could never find out why (they eventually managed to convince her she was suffering from psychological problems, and got her to spend a month at a mental hospital). She passed out one day, and after admitting her to the hospital, they found a spot on her lungs, checked further, and the cancer was everywhere, including her brain. She lived six weeks after that. She lost track of where/who she was near the end and, I know this sounds bad, but that was a blessing in many ways because she died peacefully.
You're in my thoughts,
L
Fit_mommy
Cathlete
Hi Janice.
I can't answer your question but I just wanted to say that I know what you are going through. I have had a few people in my family die of cancer, my dad included. He was only in his late 50's himself. This happened 10 years ago this month, as a matter of fact...very close to Christmas AND his birthday. Very sad.
I can't really offer much advice as everyone handles these things in their own way but but you will get through it. Do you have a good support system of people to lean on? You need that now. Don't be afraid to use them either!!!
Take care of yourself!
Wendy
I can't answer your question but I just wanted to say that I know what you are going through. I have had a few people in my family die of cancer, my dad included. He was only in his late 50's himself. This happened 10 years ago this month, as a matter of fact...very close to Christmas AND his birthday. Very sad.
I can't really offer much advice as everyone handles these things in their own way but but you will get through it. Do you have a good support system of people to lean on? You need that now. Don't be afraid to use them either!!!
Take care of yourself!
Wendy
milagrosepul
Cathlete
Janice I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers and love are with you and your family.
nancy324
Cathlete
I am so sorry, Janice. I lost my father last year to pancreatic cancer. It all happened so fast, it seemed like he was in perfect health one day and gone the next.
With my Dad, we went for a second opinion at Sloan-Kettering that confirmed the original diagnosis and course of treatment. The second opinion really helped to put our minds at ease, and let us know that we were doing the right thing. You may want to try it for your mother.
I didn't realize your father was so young. Again, I am so sorry. If I can help at all with my experience from last year, please let me know.
-Nancy
P.S. Janice, I just have to add something here: contact a hospice program as soon as possible. We waited too long to get my Dad involved in one, and by the time we did, he was too weak to leave the hospital. Hospice is such a great program; don't let your Dad miss out on it like mine did. In the hospital, it took 4 of us fighting day and night to get him the pain medications he needed. In a hospice program, we would not have had to fight at all.
With my Dad, we went for a second opinion at Sloan-Kettering that confirmed the original diagnosis and course of treatment. The second opinion really helped to put our minds at ease, and let us know that we were doing the right thing. You may want to try it for your mother.
I didn't realize your father was so young. Again, I am so sorry. If I can help at all with my experience from last year, please let me know.
-Nancy
P.S. Janice, I just have to add something here: contact a hospice program as soon as possible. We waited too long to get my Dad involved in one, and by the time we did, he was too weak to leave the hospital. Hospice is such a great program; don't let your Dad miss out on it like mine did. In the hospital, it took 4 of us fighting day and night to get him the pain medications he needed. In a hospice program, we would not have had to fight at all.
Carol_is_fit
Cathlete
Janice, I'm so sorry to read of your news. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Carol
Carol
MRSchultz
Cathlete
OMG! My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very trying time in your family's life. It's very hard to see a parent ill and not be able to help. They are the strong ones and are suppose to take care of us, not the other way around. We are here for you, please post whenever you need a shoulder and a friend somebody on here will hear you and listen.
Take care,
Marcia.
Take care,
Marcia.