My dad is dying.....

naughtoj

Cathlete
Well, some of you may remember my post a while back about my dad being hospitalized. He had vein surgery and was experiencing this weird marked weakness in his legs. Anyway, it got progressively worse and he eventually went to the ER where they admitted him to the oncology floor. He was in the hospital for around 5 days where they ran every test under the sun. He was released and then went back for a brain scan the other day.


Anyway, he has Small Cell Lung Cancer, cancer that originated outside of his lung cavity apparantly (thought Lung Cancer had to start IN in the lung, but guess not). It has metastasized, they removed a golf ball sized mass from his lymph node for biopsy. It has metastasized to his pancreas and he now has four lesions in his brain.....one of which is one the back of his brain which was causing the unsteady gait and extremity weakness. Inoperable they told him, he is getting chemo and radiation therapy on his brain to prolong his life apparantly but no hope for cure. He is 60 years old and has been given a life expectancy of 2 weeks to 6 months. :-(


My mom's chest ct scan came back showing a mass still, in her lung and apparantly now also on top of her adrenal gland(s). Doc called it an "adrenal adenoma" and simply said that they needed to watch it and take another CT in 6 months. In light of what has happened to my father, and with them both having been long time smokers, I wonder if my mom will meet the same fate.

Does anyone know anything about either of these conditions? With my mom's, I wonder why they are just going to "wait and see". Won't 6 months be too long if it is cancer there? Considering she is a smoker, it seems so bizarre to me that the doctors would see a mass there and also see it on her adrenals, and just ignore it for now........???????

Wanted to update you all. I just found out today, kinda in shock. Guess I won't be having kids for my father anymore....:-(

Thank you all!
 
Janice, take some time to let it sink in if you can. It sounds like you are involved in your parent's daily lives already- I think that's wonderful for you to have that and be there for them. You all have some big things ahead. Love them now like you always have- completely and fearlessly.

We'll all be thinking of you. Please take care.
 
Janice: i am so sorry. your father's condition sounds very similar to what we went through with my grandfather. It is frustrating and maddening knowing there is nothing to be done. i wish you strength and courage. I hope his suffering is not long. you and your family and in my thoughts.

in your mother's case, i would definitely get other opinions.


jes :-(
 
my prayers for you janice

kassia



When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
I am so sorry about all you are going through~

I find it odd that they are NOT doing anything for your Mom! I would get a second opinion ~ fast
I am recovering from surgery for lung cancer, mine was the size of a tennis ball (they were able to cleanly remove tumor and one portion of my right lung) they found a spot on my xray in SEPT. I had the operation in NOV..... so they moved VERY fast, I was a smoker for too many years, and I don't know my history, I am going for Chemo for 4 months to make sure its taken care of............SO I really don't understand WHY they aren't doing anything for your mom.........

You are all in my prayers ~
 
Janice,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm worried about you. You've had several major stresses in the past few months with school, and job searches, etc. Please Janice, you need to avail yourself of every possible service that you qualify for. I highly recommend a hospice referral for your dad. They're a wonderful organization and can do so much to help your family bear this burden.

If you're skeptical of the treatment your mom is getting, please try to discuss it with her doctor (although s/he may not be able to talk to you because of the HIPAA regulations), or have your mom seek a second opinion.

I hope and pray you have a good support system of family and friends that you can rely on. Don't hesitate to lean on your friends--they would want you to and you would do the same for them.

Take care,

Michele
 
Oh my, Janice... I'm speechless. My thoughts and best wishes to you and your family. I wish I could do and say more than that...

Pinky
 
Janice--

I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. My father recently had his kidney removed due to cancer---- he also has battled prostate cancer and was told his right lung is now involved. I as you, have no idea how much time he has. If you ever wish to talk/vent/laugh (yes you will laugh) and cry-- please feel free to email me. I lost my FIL to asbestosis a few years ago. He was given a time frame -- as a matter of fact he lived to the final month they gave him. It was about quality and not quanity. Please know Im here-- your family is in my prayers. Don't forget to take care of you . Maybe a second opinion on your mom might make you & she feel better about the dx on her and tx plan. Just my two cents.

LOads of hugs coming your way--
 
I will keep you and your mom and dad in my prayers tonight.I am so sorry for you to get this news. I know there is nothing anyone can say but just know you have prayers that may ease your suffering as well as your families. Karen
 
Janice - I am so sorry. I went through this exact thing with my dad 2 years ago - small cell lung cancer. He was a smoker for 40 years but quit after his retirement so was smoke-free for 20 years before he developed lung cancer. My father's cancer had also metastasized to his kidneys and brain by the time they caught it. He was actually admitted to the hospital for pneumonia and it wasn't until they did x-rays and CT scan they found it.

I don't want to discourage you because it seems everyone's situation with cancer is different. Don't give up HOPE! Be there for your dad and ask as many questions of the doctors as you can.

Keeping your dad in my prayers...

Sue
 

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