I think I need to leave this week; my husband just showed me how unstable he is, and I think this might escalate. I posted last week about what happened then; well, things have been alright this week. He was sad Monday, Tuesday better, and seemed fine by the end of the week. Last night when I went to bed, he came in to talk to me. It was the best conversation we had ever had: he said he was sorry for what had happened earlier in our marriage, that he was going to try and work on things with a counselor, that he wanted to be a better husband. It was very civil and rational; I felt better after we 'talked'. This morning, he was in a great mood, very helpful, sweet; we had a good conversation at breakfast, all seemed well.
I went shopping with my sister all day. He called when I was driving down to see her just to say that he loved me and that he thought I looked pretty today.
When I get home, however, he's looking like someone shot the dog-- dark circles under his eyes, a very intense odd look. As I put my things up, he keeps telling me how he got scared today and that he loved me more than anything. I can't get him to relax.
He follows me when I try to go to bed to 'talk', except this time he keeps repeating "Tell me what I've done wrong, If I do something wrong tell me." I cannot get him to stop; everything I say he keeps coming back to that or wanting to know why we can't talk. A pure hour of this. He also mentions that he wants to come with me to see the marriage counselor tomorrow morning (A-jock-- you warned me about this!!!!) He keeps at it until I snap and start crying. Only then will he agree to stop and go take a bath like he planned.
I lost it after that-- I threw a water bottle at the wall and came upstairs. Ten minutes later, he's followed me up here. I tell him to leave me alone, now is not a good time to talk, I'm mad. He's still got that nutty look. He's back fifteen minutes later. I've got the door locked at this point.
He's unstable-- I need to get out, soon I think, before this gets worse and believe me, I think it is. Do I need to get in touch with a lawyer asap? He's not going to be able to take care of the mortgage or anything, the state he's in. Has anyone been through this? Advise me!!!
I went shopping with my sister all day. He called when I was driving down to see her just to say that he loved me and that he thought I looked pretty today.
When I get home, however, he's looking like someone shot the dog-- dark circles under his eyes, a very intense odd look. As I put my things up, he keeps telling me how he got scared today and that he loved me more than anything. I can't get him to relax.
He follows me when I try to go to bed to 'talk', except this time he keeps repeating "Tell me what I've done wrong, If I do something wrong tell me." I cannot get him to stop; everything I say he keeps coming back to that or wanting to know why we can't talk. A pure hour of this. He also mentions that he wants to come with me to see the marriage counselor tomorrow morning (A-jock-- you warned me about this!!!!) He keeps at it until I snap and start crying. Only then will he agree to stop and go take a bath like he planned.
I lost it after that-- I threw a water bottle at the wall and came upstairs. Ten minutes later, he's followed me up here. I tell him to leave me alone, now is not a good time to talk, I'm mad. He's still got that nutty look. He's back fifteen minutes later. I've got the door locked at this point.
He's unstable-- I need to get out, soon I think, before this gets worse and believe me, I think it is. Do I need to get in touch with a lawyer asap? He's not going to be able to take care of the mortgage or anything, the state he's in. Has anyone been through this? Advise me!!!
