I am soooo mad this morning

Have you tried talking to your husband about how this really hurt you? Have you told him about the benefits of execise and how unhealthy it is to carry around extra weight? I do not know your past history,I don't walk in your shoes,so it is not my place to tell you to go for divorce. But I would tell him that if he really wanted this marriage to work that you can both go to counceling together. BUT , if he does not want to make things right, then you may consider doing what you think would be best for you and your children. But remember emotional and psychological abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. I wish I could be there to hold you and dry your tears away, do you have a close friend or family member that you could talk about this? I do think he needs counseling to get to the bottom of the issues that he has. {{{HUGS}}} and {{{LOVE}}} to you.;-) ;-)
 
RUN do not walk out of there. There is something really, really wrong with this picture, and violence only escalates.

God, I'm not sure what I would have done.

I'm so sorry for you. And I'm sorry to say this, but he sounds like a complete rageaholic.

Good luck. Please get some help.

Marie
 
Carrie, I'm so sorry for you to have to go through this. My dh too, is very jealous and insecure. That being said, we are seeking help. Whether it helps or not, is beyond me. But I'm willing to at least try. I went and googled abusive relationships at one point before seeking help. This is the website that I found that cleared everything up for me. www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm
Please look at it.

Kathy
 
Carrie-

I agree with everyone else. There is no way I would put up with that. He has some serious issues.

Joanne
 
Oh my goodness that is awful!!!! I'm so, so, so sorry. :( I don't know why he feels that way. He has some serious issues and needs help. My husband likes when people look at me.

How would he feel if you did this to him? Destroyed something of his. Something that means a lot to him?

I think this is horrible! This scares me.

I'm so sorry.
 
I used to date a very jealous guy in high school. Needless to say, it made me hate him. I still hate him.

All men look at women...it is like nature to them or something. I bet your dh looks at other women (don't worry, they all do;).

Your dh sounds crazy. I would make him replace all of the dvd's and then get help. Otherwise, I would be gone!

Good Luck!!!!!

Sara
 
I just want to come back and say that a lot of men have problems with insecurity and jealousy, and so do women. It's how you deal with it that counts. My extreme recommendation was less based upon the fact that he is jealous than that he destroyed something you loved and cared about, and that he displayed such violence. That may have been obvious, but I just wanted to clarify anyway.

-Nancy
 
Even if he replaces all the DVDs he destroyed and asks you to forgive him, pack up and go...

I'm sure it's easy for me to say - harder to do.

I'm so sorry about this...

Susan L.G.
 
Another mouth hanging open here...
There is so much good advice above...
you should be gone by now (even if you think he might get professional help for his problem)!

Take care,
bhappy
 
I am very sorry for you and what you are going through and perhaps what you are going to go through. Please document everything for your own protection. Take pictures of your smashed discs and write EVERYTHING down. You need to take care of yourself and that may mean removing yourself from this situation until you are sure you are safe. My prayers are with you during this difficult journey. I hope you have outside support.
 
Wow, this just blows my mind. If my dh did anything like that I'd be gone. No questions asked. Carrie, you need to really think about your situation. It doesn't sound like a good one.
 
Hi Carrie,

I have to agree with the other girls here. My ex did something similar when I lost all my extra weight, he was very jealous and liked me being heavier so no one would take me from him I guess. I have a child by him so I stayed for a few more years but decided enough was enough and got out of that unhealthy relationship. It was very difficult because he didn't want to let go (thought he owned me). Now almost 4 years later I am happy and married to a guy that just bought me a club step, a high step, a nice medicine ball and the new Cathe series for my birthday!

I would be kicking his....ahem....hiney out the door, but thats just me.
 
Please realize that by destroying anything of yours that meant so much and caused so much positive change in your life, your husband is trying to destroy an important part of you, yourself.

Please get away from him.

Please keep us up on what's going on with you...from the other posts, I can tell that we are all so very concerned for you and your little one.

So many hugs to you.
 
ISSUES... is the word of the day with this man. i agree with others that it may be a form of control and possibly guilt and jealousy. if he can't be supportive that is fine but to resort to destroying property in anger, WRONG and ILLEGAL!!!! his butt can be on judge judy explaining that one away. believe me as someone said if i had the money i would buy you the whole collection, then i would crush his head.

dh agreed with me on that as well, while sometimes he may be jealous, he has to be supportive b/c it wasn't about looking good and getting attention(although if a man wants to buy me a drink dh has no problem with that FREEE DRINKS LOL) it was about health, and that should be the same issue here. but apparently he likes control and what somebody likes that hates, is when they can't have it so don't let him have it. controling ppl won't bother with strong ppl and i know you cna be strong.

kassia

http://www.picturetrail.com/ldy_solana

"And do what thee wilt as long as ye harm none"
 
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