Kellyro77
Cathlete
Yes, I wish my aging wasn't so traumatic, too. Western culture is so anti-elderly. I remember having my ear talked off and my mind crammed with "this is what happens at puberty!!!" messages when I was young and in school, but there's really not much out there for maturing and peri-menopause or menopause unless you advocate for yourself and do the time to research it.This reminds me... years ago I worked on a large college campus. We often had young women coming in who were at risk for eating disorders ... they were mourning their adolescent bodies & didn't like coming into full womanhood, with curves and fat deposits in places they didn't have as young, athletic teens. Most of them adjusted to their new bodies over time, some went full into disordered eating & body dysmorphic disorders. Entering into middle-age is sort of like that - the passing into another womanly phase ... we mourn what we are losing & not too sure about what's coming ... but it's better than the alternative and all a part of life.... Maybe we need some role-models on how to age gracefully ... I think I was blessed to watch my mother, aunts and their friends accept this stage of their lives .... hmmm, more "stuff " to reflect on ....
I'm just grateful I have a lot of women friends who are at varying ages, many whom are older than me who have been great in pointing out to me that I may be starting into peri/menopause based on my descriptions of what's been going on with me. Else I'd have been pretty clueless and outright frustrated for a lot longer than I initially was.
Not saying it's something I'm skipping around happy to be experiencing. Again, some of that is cultural conditioning that when women age we become obsolete. But some if it is just being fed up with insane mood swings, graying hairs, and new, confounding aches, brain fog, etc.
I do look forward to eventually no more periods, though - and therefore no more menstrual products.