What my ex-husband said to me this past weekend

Dani,
All I know about this guy, and probably all I need to know, is that he was married to the most sweet, nice, big-hearted, caring, cute, adorable, well-liked, all-around wonderful woman in the world and he managed to lose her. That makes him a LOSER with a capital "L". And he probably knows it and that's why he's acting like such a world-class ignoramus.

No wonder his wife is uncomfortable. Unfortunately for them, that's not your problem. }(
 
Dani, PLEASE go to the game, and make sure you look EXTRA fabulous so that the wildebeast is uncomfortable as possible!! Be sure to smile and laugh and be TOTALLY UNCONCERNED with either of them. It will make her nuts!

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Marie
 
Spinnin!!!!!!!!! I'm laughing so hard right now at that picture. I can't even stop. OMG!!

THANK YOU! ALL OF YOU! I'm going to the game and I'm going to smile and be nice. My DH can't make it. He has to work, but a good friend of mine is going to come with me. We're going to laugh and smile the whole time.

:)

Whenever I see the wildebeest, she smirks at me with her nose up in the air. She makes me sick. They both do.
 
>Spinnin!!!!!!!!! I'm laughing so hard right now at that
>picture. I can't even stop. OMG!!
>
>THANK YOU! ALL OF YOU! I'm going to the game and I'm going to
>smile and be nice. My DH can't make it. He has to work, but a
>good friend of mine is going to come with me. We're going to
>laugh and smile the whole time.
>
>:)
>
>Whenever I see the wildebeest, she smirks at me with her nose
>up in the air. She makes me sick. They both do.


I knew you would get a kick out of it!!

I hope it made your day better!
 
Nancy, that was so sweet, it made me teary eyed. Thanks so much. :)


You all are great and made me feel so much better! You made me laugh too. I love you guys!

:)
 
He
>said since I'm short (I'm 5'1'') I should not have long hair.
>Long hair doesn't look right on petite people.

well first off we are the same height and i look much better with longer hair, and so do you!!!


>He told me I could have done so much better than my DH now. He
>kept asking me why I got married. "Why did you marry him? You
>could have done a lot better than him you know? When are you
>getting divorced?"


you could have done so much better????!!!!! you sound like one of the most happiest married woman here. why does it matter why you married him? as long as he is good to YOU what the heck does it matter. what an a$$.
>Whatever. BTW....he's married (got married 1 month before
>me..when he heard I was getting married he got engaged right
>away). He married the wildebeest he was cheating on me with.

sounds like he is having regrets about his relationship. my dad did the same thing when he and stepmommy started having problems. realizes he lost a good thing.

>Oh, and he doesn't want me to come to the next basketball game
>because his wife is going to be there and she'll be
>uncomfortable if I'm there.

oh whatever, that is YOUR son not hers, tell her to get over and go take a lap to look as good as you do. relay signature below to him;-) ;-)

you are so awesome, i think he is jealous you are doing so well and he might be having troubles of his own and he just wants to bring you down. good for you for not letting him do that.

kassia

When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be
disappointed to discover they are not it -- Bernard Bailey
 
Hi Dani,

I rarely, if ever respond to personal posts preferring to respond to fitness/Cathe subjects only. So this is rare, if not a first.

From what little I know about you on this public forum I have such a respect for you, what you have accomplished in your life (and some of the greatest achievments are as a result of adversity-like divorce)and the woman you have become. I would just like to add that I don't know the first thing about your husband (current) but I can tell by the pictures that he loves you and sees what we all see.

The only judgement that matters is the ones you have of yourself. I would suggest that you have compassion for your X, as clearly he has not grown in his journey. You have moved on, and he appears to be stuck in his immaturity (how sad for your son).

Do what is best for you, your husband and your son with full confidence!

X
 
Dani, you're one of the nicest, most sincere, most helpful, sweetest people I know, and you don't deserve that kind of treatment. That's your son, not the wildebeest's, so I don't see why you shouldn't be there.

Your ex doesn't know what he lost and how much, and in that regard, he IS, like Nancy said, an ignoramus.

Your current DH, from what I can tell, loves you with all his heart. I don't think there are many men out there who'd run part of a marathon with his wife then stay in the sidelines as she runs through the finish line because it's HER moment. You deserve nothing less than that.

And btw, I'm also petite and have long hair, although yours is more gorgeous, like in that photo of your most recent marathon.:p Everyone I know loves my hair long. Sour grapes don't look good on insecure men.

Pinky:p
 
Dani...everyone one here said pretty much what I wanted to say and they said it so well!! YOU are such a beautiful girl, inside and out. Personally, I think it sounds as if he has a lot of regrets over being really stupid and losing you. He should!! Hold you head high at those games!!!
 
Oh, Anne! It sounds like your ex is a real piece of work too. How could he say that? "HIS problem" What a jerk!

My guess is that when our sons get older, they're not going to want to visit their fathers all that much.
 
Hey Dani,
I think you are a DOLL and that he is really jealous that you are so happy with your dh!! I can't believe he would request you NOT to go to YOUR SONS basketball game because his wife is uncomfortable around you. That is HER PROBLEM not yours:D She can miss the game not HIS mom!!

((HUGS))

~Nicole
 
Awww. Dani so nice to read all these posts! You really have made a positive impact on so many folks. That's great.

Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Sorry it's so tough. The really great thing is you are NOT putting your son in the middle of it, which is GREAT. I've seen so many cases were people with bad divorces put the poor kid in the middle and you are not.

Funny I'm getting to be really close with a guy at work and he is friends with his soon to be ex (like me with mine) when I hear stuff like this it makes me appreciate that even more.

- Robyn
 
Next time I would tell him to f**k off but that's just me}( . Btw I think you have gorgeous hair and you shouldn't cut it.
 
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