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brigitterenee

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I am so upset i feel sick right now! I called most my friends, and no one is available at the moment... so i will release my anger here if you do not mind.

I had brunch with a girlfriend this morning. Now she was not always a woman. She knew someting was wrong and that she was just not a man... so had a sex change in Europe years ago (she is 42 now). Now she is so beautiful and quite happy with her decision. I guess if you check her out really close.. there may be signs that she was a man (who cares anyway!). She is very tall with broad sholders and a deepish voice. She also had lot's of plastic surgery to soften her features. She is also the most creative wonderful person you could possibly be lucky to know!

At brunch, there was a table across from us with 6 women in their early 40's if i had to guess. They kept making loud rude comments.. like "is that a woman or a man.. giggle giggle" and "shhhh, be quiet so we can hear it's voice", "oh.. look at her feet...heee" and so on. They called her an IT!!! My girlfreind was trying to ignore it but they were just so nasty i could tell she was getting VERY upset. She was trying to hold back tears. I said to her let's just leave.. as we went to get up and pay (did not want to wait at the table any longer). I went back to leave a tip on the table and as i did one of the women said to me "so... is that really a man or what" the nerve!! I will not repeat here what i said.. but i went all out about how the heck are they to judge anyone and so on. I said they were one miserable group of hags.. I then walked out. My friend was so upset that she was shaking and had to get to work that way.

I cannot beleive that people can be so closed minded and rude. They kept going on and on and doing it so loud. Why would any one want to be so mean to another person. I just do not get it. It seems that some people just cannot see the beauty in people that are different and i find that sad as they are missing out on making some wonderful friends and living a good full life!

Sorry.. had to get it out! Ugh!
 
Good for you for standing up to them! So many people would've just skulked off without a word.

I'm interested in your response though. I'm curious to see if it was as foul & nasty as mine would've been. }( PM it to me please just for fun.
 
Oh, ack. I'm so sorry for you and your friend.

Just the kind of closed-minded bats I wish I could I-Dream-of-Jeannie-BLINK off the planet.

When will people get a grip and reallize that gender and sexuality are fluid and not either "this" or "that"? It's such an interesting topic.

We had a FTM transgendered woman at our barn who stopped coming around. I was so sad because she (now he) was a really neat person but she decided to leave us because she was afraid of the ramifications it would have on the owner's business.

Isn't that sad? I've never met him as a man. I felt like a lost someone who could've been a pretty good friend - male or female.

Susan L.G.

P.S. No! Tell us all what you said! :p Just **** the naughty words!
 
HORRID encounter with humans at their worst. As hard as it may be try to show those women pity vs anger.... The anger is hurting you - they will never be phased by it. I feel badly for people who choose to live life so narrowly in thinking but I feel pity for people who are cruel like that...its just an outward sign of how much they despise themselves. Your friend is very lucky to have you in their life....
 
Sounds like some people never get past the playground mentality of having to do whatever their group does, no matter how cruel it is.

When they asked you if your friend was a man or a woman, I wished you had reminded them that, above all, she is a human being, with genuine emotions and feeling...not some pack animal like those hags who were making those comments.

I am so sorry that you and your friend had to go through this. Whatever you said to them was probably nicer than what they deserved.
 
I feel so bad for your friend right now! It is such a hard thing to be true to yourself and good for her for doing so. Those women or should i say girls had no right and the fact that they had to discuss that as their conversation means that don't have much to offer in a normal conversation and are very VERY UNHAPPY people (I feel bad if they have children learning such disrespectful behaviors). If they are afraid or don't understand (which is usually the basis of making fun either that or insecure themselves) they should address in a much different manner. i hope your friend doesnt take to heart there ignorance. the fact that she had to go to work after too aghh. people are so cruel with all the problems in the world they should focus on addressing their energy on helping not hurting. sorry that made me feel so sad for your friend but as lauramax said good for you for standing up to them!

Erin
 
You should have told them to watch Bambi and pay particular attention to a little furry rabbit.

I tell my kids that if you have to break down another person you need to look inside yourself to see what is broken in you.

I'm sorry for your friend, but how wonderful to have a friend like you.

Cheryl
 
What's that old saying that "People should act their age and not their shoe size"...I agree, good for you to stand up to them...:)
 
Unfortunately there will always be cruel people. I don't know how people can live with themselves by hurting others like that. My sister goes through this type of hatefulness everyday. Even when she was a little kid in elementary school she would come home everyday crying because she was constantly made fun of for who she was. (She was always a tom boy and still doesn't wear makeup or dresses). Good for you for sticking up for your friend! If only there were more people like you.

Barbara
 
Unfortunately, Brigitte, there will always be one in the crowd. It's unfortunate you found the whole crowd. But, at least you were able to blast them all at one time. Good for you x(
 
That's just horrible! Why do people have to be so nasty! Brings back a lot of bad memories from high school. Sounds just like the little "popular girls" clique trying to put someone else down just because they are different. Good for you for sticking up to them. I'm just so sorry your friend was hurt by them. Wish I had been there... Would have given you some back-up. ;)
 
What is it with women in groups? Seriously, they turn into human vultures. Are we socialized to be nasty b*tches, or what?
 
Hi all,

Oh, that felt so good to get off my chest. I felt so bad on my way home. Thank you all for such kind responces! What a great group of women here! I truly beleive that people are good and i am lucky to know so many.. but the bad apples sure do know how to ruin a parade! I will never uderstand the reason why people would want to hurt another... makes me feel so sad for them. I wish people would see that there is a wonderful world out there and that we are not all the same... but maybe someone who is so different from you can offer so much to your life. I am the worlds worst speller.. so sorry for all the mistakes!

Have a good day!

Brigitte
 
Oh Bridgette I'm so sorry that happened. But I wanted to thank you for being such a good friend for your friend. What happened to folks having any awareness of the feelings of other people? Hang in there and take some comfort in that fact that not everyone is like that. Ohh - but if it ever happens again - have a pen and paper in your purse and when you approach the group, ask if you can get all of their names please, because your friend will be pursuing a law suit for intentional infliction of emotional distress! LOL. Of course I HATE the over abundance of law suits, - but wouldn't it be fun to see the looks on their faces!!


Lorrie

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How sad. This reminds me a bit about what happened today and I felt bad...I was sitting with several friends at lunch today and a guy walked in with a purse over his shoulder. Someone at our table commented and we ALL turned and looked at the same time just in time for him to see us staring. I was sooo uncomfortable as I figured he knew what we were talking about. Long story short, a few minutes later a gal and her lil' child met up with him and sat down so it was HER purse (I am assuming she took the lil' one to the restroom.) But still, I felt so bad as I didn't mean to judge him, it was just instinct to turn and look when it was mentioned. Sorry, went off there a bit...Good for you for being such a good friend. She's lucky to know you!


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