i went through pretty much the same things.i was picked on in gym with volleyballs thrown at me, harressed at my lockers,push arounds, then one day i just snapped and rammed a football players head in the locker. then the teachers were surprised that i could do such a thing, my grandparents stood up for me though, they understood then my last two years of high school were a little better.
in younger years grwoing up in jersey city it was bad b/c of all the violence of living in the low income areas. the only thing now is many of those bullies grew up to only sit in prision or become big bums and others i ran into years later said they were just wrong and were following the crowd.
i don't know what it is but i personally think its at home. i work at a high school and most teachers are afraid to take action b/c parents will get upset and threaten to sue. its bad sometimes,these kids think they can get away with alot, have no respect, and just talk back(it use to be worse but they now of police security). they don't really talk back to the kitchen staff anymore b/c we started snapping back(despite down town saying otherwise). when somebody stood up to them they were amazed and maybe a little intimidated. its bad when you have your own police force at high schools now. it seems to be the standard whether good or bad area. but amongst all the things in our enviroment i really think many of it starts at just not getting the discipline and boundries set at home for whatever reason.
i know some of you ladies have said your kids do not act this way, b/c of the boundries you set. i know my child acts much better then these teenagers, and to think she has a mental handicap. at least i don't see them push around the special needs kids. if i did i think i would be catching a charge myself. jmo.
ETA: i also think many are not taught personal responsiblity to be punished for their actions. its a shame when your idols are rap stars and socialites that get a slap on the wrist for serious offensne, sometimes even getting away with it, while others sit in jail for far less. not a good message portrayed. if everyone took more responsibility for their actions wouldn't it be so much easier.
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