I talked to SO about this tonight re: the prada bag saying I would not lie to his employees and I was concerned about his lying about this after we had a conversation re this last week and he got so mad at me. He turned around and told one of his employees on the spot that he lied about it while he was on the phone with me...basically mocking me and my concern.
Then he went on that all the people he spoke to about the matter of him letting me believe his shipment would be "free" thinks its crazy that I got upset over it. So now he took back his apology from last week saying that he doesn't see my point of view or why I was upset in the first place. He thinks I'm creating unnecessary drama, making a mountain out of a molehill and he feels he doesn't even know me anymore...he's disturbed by this side of me he seeing. I said "You don't understand why I'd be upset when I hear one story one week and a different one the following week". He says "No" and now thinks that we are not as compatible as he thought because he was just joking around and he was not going to walk on eggshells for anyone and not going to change and then said we should take a break. So....we broke up and I've been crying for the last hour. He made me feel like everyone he talked to (whoever that may be) thinks I'm crazy and I'm making up drama for no reason.
So in a nutshell...he lied and then broke up with me for it. ?????
GOOD RIDDANCE! That's what I'd say. I know it hurts now, but you just be strong, girl!!!! I only wish you'd been the one to break up with him!
Or at least said, "I was starting to think the same thing," when he said that he didn't think you and he were as compatible as he thought you were. I would've liked to have been a fly on the wall to see his jaw drop if you'd told him that. That would've been the last thing he expected.
I find it soooooo idiotic that he's trying to make you feel bad when he's the one with the problem. And it sounds like he has keeping-up-with-the-Jones's disease...you know, where he wants everyone to think he's all that and a bag of chips even though he's only a fried pork rind. He's got "Low Self-Esteem" written all over him. Show him what high self-esteem looks like and give him the cold, I-don't-need-the-likes-of-you shoulder.
YOU GO GIRL! I've been where you are and it does get better! Spirits up!
Oh, and one more thing: I think you hit the nail on the head when you said in a later post that he was manipulating you. Sounds like a little controlling mental abuse to me...you know, trying to keep you down and under his control. When you spoke up and said that his lying bothered you, and he reacted the way he did, I would venture to say he was doing that to get you to come back around under his dominion. I wouldn't be surprised if his "breaking up" with you isn't just another controlling tactic, as in he wants you to come crying back to tell him that it's okay that he lied and that you were wrong to question him about it -- you'll be a
good little girl from now on, just don't leave me again! Don't fall for it! You deserve to be happy, and happiness means not compromising your moral fortitude and judgment.
