The Pesky Ex Rears His Pointy Head!

sparrow13

sparrow13

Cathlete
So, yuck, an ex-boyfriend has tracked me down on facebook. This is a guy who broke up with me *twice,* the second time he didn't even have the decency to actually break up with me! He said he had to cancel our weekend plans to do work and then I NEVER heard from him again. I saw a mutual friend for the first time in ages at a wedding last year, and later got an email from the friend saying the ex wanted to know if he could send me an email to say hi. I said no thanks, I wish him well but not really interested in communicating. Recently I let my sister talk me into facebook (which is actually neat, I'm now in contact with a lot of old friends) and he sent me a "friend" request, which I can accept, ignore, or send him a message saying "go away."

DH wants me to tell him to go away, but I am thinking of clicking "ignore." Does anyone know, if I click "ignore" will he know that I did?

Sparrow
 
If you hit "ignore" he will never find out about it - I mean, they won't send him a notice. But depending on how bright he is (or isn't) he may figure it out. I can't believe he would want to contact you after the way he broke up with you... I don't know if my vote would count, but I say tell him to go away too, that's way more fun! ;)

Missy
 
Sparrow - If you click ignore, I don't think it sends him any kind of a message or anything. I could be wrong though. If it was me, I would probably send him a message that said something like your husband suggested - "GO AWAY". ;)
 
My daughter ignored me and I did not get anything. Now I give her a hard time about it, because her friends have asked me to be on theirs....I understand though, having your Mom is lame.
 
Thanks all!

While it would be fun to send him a "geez, go away" message I'd rather just not even deal with it but I didn't want to spark anything if he got an "ignore" notification. Good to know that won't happen.

Off to click the appropriate button....:D

Sparrow
 
Your hubby's right!

I think you need to go with your husband's wishes, and tell him to "GO AWAY." Send the ex a message. If an ex-girlfriend tracked down your husband, wouldn't you want him to do the same? But if your husband said "gee, that's kinda harsh and I don't want to hurt her feelings, I'll just hit "ignore", you'd wonder why.
 
Govtgirl said:
I think you need to go with your husband's wishes, and tell him to "GO AWAY." Send the ex a message. If an ex-girlfriend tracked down your husband, wouldn't you want him to do the same? But if your husband said "gee, that's kinda harsh and I don't want to hurt her feelings, I'll just hit "ignore", you'd wonder why.
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Lol, we think alike! If some ex-chick tried to track down my DH and he didn't tell her to buzz off, I'd be ticked. A simple "ignore" wouldn't be good enough for me! ;) I'd want her to know in no uncertain terms to leave him the *#$# alone. :rolleyes: lol
 
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dorothyrd said:
My daughter ignored me and I did not get anything. Now I give her a hard time about it, because her friends have asked me to be on theirs....I understand though, having your Mom is lame.
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Dorothy, my daughter ignored me too!!!! LOL but alot of her friends asked me to be on theirs. My daughter told me I was to old for facebook
Karen
 
silbow said:
Dorothy, my daughter ignored me too!!!! LOL but alot of her friends asked me to be on theirs. My daughter told me I was to old for facebook
Karen
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I got the big Ignore from my boys soo... I do understand in that it might be the coolest thing... and I do tease them about it around others of course. LOL they just roll their eyes... teenagers... :)
 
Liann said:
Lol, we think alike! If some ex-chick tried to track down my DH and he didn't tell her to buzz off, I'd be ticked. A simple "ignore" wouldn't be good enough for me! ;) I'd want her to know in no uncertain terms to leave him the *#$# alone. :rolleyes: lol
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Hee hee. I would be ticked too if a chica contacted DH! But DH knows my desire to "ignore" it's not because I care about hurting this ex's feelings, it's because I want no contact with him whatsoever. I'd rather leave that door closed entirely, ya know?

Sparrow
 
I vote ignore...

but I wouldn't ignore any of you if you want to be my friend! :p (I'm already friends with some of you... :D)
 
My daughter was wavering the other day in front of her friends. I said, oh no you don't, I like to tease you! I know, I know, I am bad, but how else to put a 15 year old in her place?
 
ROFLMAO at all the kids who have ignored there moms. Been there, had that done to me!

Sparrow, ignore. If he persists, tell him to buzz off.
 
pink_fortitude said:
If you hit "ignore" he will never find out about it - I mean, they won't send him a notice. But depending on how bright he is (or isn't) he may figure it out. I can't believe he would want to contact you after the way he broke up with you... I don't know if my vote would count, but I say tell him to go away too, that's way more fun! ;)

Missy
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I wondered about that. I joined Facebook after Sean O'Malley asked his followers to join so he could pass us info and some guy I've never heard of sent me a FRIEND request. I hit "ignore" because I didn't know what to do and it freaked me out.
 
sparrow13 said:
Thanks all!

While it would be fun to send him a "geez, go away" message I'd rather just not even deal with it but I didn't want to spark anything if he got an "ignore" notification. Good to know that won't happen.

Off to click the appropriate button....:D

Sparrow
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Ignoring him is better than engaging in any kind of dialogue with him. He'll interpret a response as you being unable to resist him. Didn't he leave you hanging? There you go.
 
I think if you send him a message through Facebook, he'll have access to your Facebook page for 30 days. Better to just hit ignore in this case.

Erica
 
There is a option in the settings that will you allow to block certain people from searching for you....because if you do ignore him, i think he might still be able to request you as a friend again and again and again.....
 
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