Tell us about your wedding!

My wedding dayS? Yes, I've had two.

The first one I spend the entire time thinking "what in heaven's name am I doing?". It was very simple. Got married in a small church, had a supper in a restaurant after for family and wedding party, and then a party at my parent's place for friends and everyone else.

The second one, simple again. Got married in his parents' backyard, lots of flowers, a big archway thingie decorated in flowers, 10 minute service, string quartet. It was 2 in the afternoon, so we just did some nice hors d'oeuvres and mingled and chatted and then we left around 5.

Of course, neither of them lasted, so it's probably a good thing we didn't spend thousands. ;)
 
My wedding was the totally traditional church wedding. I didn't even realize until I started planning how traditional I wanted to be. I thought my flowers were some of the most beautiful I'd ever seen for a wedding--my bouquet was a big mix of all kinds of flowers, with roses, Gerbera daises (my favorites), lilies, you name it. I only regret 3 things (but none so much that it keeps me up at night).
#1 I didn't plan on a way to save those gorgeous flowers. I gave them over to my sister (who was matron-of-honor) for her to find a way to have them dried or preserved in some way--she didn't do anything with them.
#2 I didn't have my hair done the way I wanted--I asked for curls and the hairdresser gave me ringlets--I meant soft kind of curls intead--so I should have done a test style a week or more before but was too cheap (or poor) to do so.
#3 I wish I'd had no bridesmaids at all. That was the biggest cause of grief in planning--narrowing the bridesmaid list (and therefore hurt the feelings of at least a couple of people who might have been good bridesmaids), picking a dress they all liked--the idea to have them pick their own is much better, etc.

But as others have said, the marriage is more important than the wedding!

Also, one non-trad thing about my wedding is we had a 10am wedding and a very informal reception after with finger foods (we even had pigs in a blanket--DH and I both like them, so why not?) Then after the reception, we changed and met our closest friends at a local pizza place for lunch. That worked great for us. Then we stayed in a local hotel that night and left for our honeymoon the next day.


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We had a small wedding at a chapel nearby. 30 guests. Reception at our home, in the back yard, with more guests. It was a catered cookout, basically. We aimed for a relaxed, not-so-formal vibe, even though we were dressed formally. It was my second marriage, his first. I wore a white gown <cackle>. We each only had one attendant. My MOH wore a dress out of her closet. It was a great, FAST day. The wedding was at 11:30 a.m.

What I would do differently: spend more time at each table with my friends. I didn't have time to talk to anyone.

Also, I would drink more water. I was very dehydrated by the end of the day.

I'm really glad we kept it small.

ETA: we celebrated 9 years this month.
 
Mine was traditional as well. Probably too traditional. We got married 2ce - once while he was on leave from Egypt for 2 weeks and once when he got home 6 months later. It was really weird. Like, 'hey, I know we haven't seen each other AT ALL for 6 months, and I won't see you for another 6 months after this, but uhhh...wanna get married'???

That being said, it was fun and the day FLEW by. I'm trying to include the pic....


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Carolyn
 
Ahhhh, thanks Shelley and TeTe. It was funny but that day I had my makeup 'professionally' done - which I think is code for 'how much makeup can we put on this girl's face??' It looked pretty good on the pictures but people who knew me kept giving me this 'is that really you' look! LOL! :)


C
 
Thanks you both, but I have to say, that was about 20 POUNDS ago!!! And to think, I thought I was fat then! What I wouldn't give to have that neck again!

That little girl is now 20 and the blonde on the end is my dear friend, Linda, whom I lost to breast cancer last year.
 
In 1983 I had the big traditional over priced Catholic white wedding.....it's such a blur to me...the marriage lasted less than 2 years. In 1987 I married the love of my life for $75, we went to the Justice of the Peace, his parents paid for a nice lunch for 15 then we had a party at our house, it was very casual...my husband hid the beer so everyone would go home and we could make the marriage official;-) After my first marriage was annulled my husband and I had the church wedding that he so dearly wanted at the same time that our 3rd daughter was baptised. That day is one of the happiest days of my life!

Take Care
Laurie:)
 
"my husband hid the beer so everyone would go home and we could make the marriage official"

That man was raised right!! ;-) Lucky girl!!!!
 
My DH and I eloped after a whirlwind 3 week courtship. :p We went to the courthouse and got married for $88 then spent the night at the Ritz Carlton on Palm Beach. My parents didn't speak to me for months, but I wouldn't have changed a thing!

Editing to add that we are about to celebrate our 10 year anniversary in a few weeks.
 
Thanks to all who replied! I am crying reading some of these stories and looking at pictures. I just feel in my heart that I have made some really good decisions -- about the wedding AND the marriage!

A few more details -- I think we will have about 30 guests, no attendants. My father lives in North Carolina, and he is a Baptist minister, so he will marry us. We are renting a big house on the beach, and my (then) three year old son will walk me down a long walkway to the beach, and then "give me away." We will have no attendants. Afterwards, we will have dinner at Barefoot Bernie's -- our favorite restaurant in Nags Head. Then a bigger reception once we return home to Harrisonburg.

I just can't wait....

Keep the stories coming!
 
My DH and I eloped . . . no, really eloped! We didn't tell a soul we were getting married. Contacted a justice of the peace in the same town that his parents eloped to. It was 108 degrees that day (not the norm for Wisconsin) and there we stood in an old log home in our t-shirt and shorts . . . 15 minutes later we were out the door and headed to an outdoor music festival/campgroud. Needless to say, it was so darn hot in that tent that there was no consumation of the marriage that night! And as most everyone has stated - wouldn't change a thing. Just celebrated our 12th in July. Best of luck to you!

Mo
 
I dated my husband for nine years before our wedding. I was healthy (if not a tad chubby) during that time. We didn't set a date, he simply proposed on Christmas Eve in 1997.

In 1998 I was VERY stressed - living with two fueding roommates, working two jobs, and going to school. My life became so chaotic. I (unwillingly, of course) developed an eating disorder during this time. By monitoring my food intake, I believed I was getting some semblance of order.

We were married in January of 1999. It was very impromptu. It took place in a courthouse with only our immediate family present.

I was hospitalized two weeks afterwards for the better part of the year. We never had a honeymoon.

People ask my husband, "Why on earth would you get married to a woman who was in the throes of an eating disorder??" He says he thought that if lived with me and was with me all the time, he could watch me and made sure I ate.

We're still married, happily, and I no longer have an eating disorder.

But I do think we should, someday, go on a honeymoon.
 
Fun thread! I love all these little weddings with just a few guests and maybe a party at home afterwards. Sounds perfect.

My first wedding was the traditional shebang way back in 1990. Catholic ceremony, 250 guests at the nice local country club - my folks took good care of things. And we did spend a tremendous amount of money on the photography and darn it, those pics are still beautiful! I look at them every now and then when the old anniversary rolls around just to contemplate the good that was there, how young and foolish we were, and how far I've come since then.

Been divorced for 7 years now. Happily.

Should I marry again (and I'd love to) SO and I are agreed on wishing for a no muss no fuss something small. My dream is to get married either on a beach with some kids and other folks big goofy dogs running around, or at the top of a mountain (a smallish mountain - don't want to get worn out before we even begin!)

(And yeah, I'll take a ring - not a diamond, just a symbol for the promises made)

Sorry to be long!
 
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