TATOO AT 15!!!!!!!

celestialtimes said:
OMG...this is something my adopted mom would do...She is so good at buying ones affection.
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I'm sooooooooooo sorry to hear this happened. I couldn't even imagine. I think celestialtimes hit the nail on the head about it being about buying someone's affection. I have the same thing going on with my DS girlfriends parents. It irks me that they continue to insist and offer to pay for a tattoo for him. Even at 18 I don't think they are ready to make a decision like that either. My heart goes out to you.....I think kudos goes to your DD for telling you.
 
My heart is aching for you... please keep us posted and let us know how everything turns out.
If I could offer up any advice it would be that I personally would revoke all grandparent "rights"; this situation definitely warrants it and she has proved that she isn't going to have your daughter's best interest in mind. My daughter would not be left alone w/ anyone who has shown such irresponsibility and negligence, I don't care how they are related. I am so sorry... :(

Missy
 
OMG! That is just awful!
Your mother should be so ashamed of herself! REALLY!
I think your mother should pay for the laser removal. JMO.
That is just downright awful.
((hugs))
 
pink_fortitude said:
My heart is aching for you... please keep us posted and let us know how everything turns out.
If I could offer up any advice it would be that I personally would revoke all grandparent "rights"; this situation definitely warrants it and she has proved that she isn't going to have your daughter's best interest in mind. My daughter would not be left alone w/ anyone who has shown such irresponsibility and negligence, I don't care how they are related. I am so sorry... :(

Missy
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I agree...it would take me a looooong time to trust Grandma around my kids after a stunt like that. And I wouldn't let your daughter off the hook, either. Use this to open the lines of communication, but she betrayed your trust just as much as Grandma.

As for laser removal, it's my understanding that it can be very painful and lead to scarring. It's also expensive and may require several sessions.

If there's any silver lining, I did want to let you know that I used your example as an opportunity to talk to my middle schooler about issues like this. I doubt she'd ever get a tattoo, but we were able to talk about trust and how important it is to uphold the trust parents put in their children, even when the parents aren't around. So maybe a little bit of good can come from this.

So sorry you are going through this!!
 
Wow. That's all I can say is....Wow. If my mother EVER took one of my daughters to get a tattoo, I honestly don't know what I would do! I agree with poster above when she said that grandma rights should be revoked as she obviously can't be trusted. I'm so sorry for your situation.
 
You know, I'm pretty open minded, sometimes a little dippy, and usually TOO willing to give people the benefit of the doubt (according to my husband), and even I can't defend Grandma on this one.

I'm sorry your mom caused this trouble for you. The good news: Your daughter is obviously sorry and will learn a great deal from this experience. Hang in there.
 
Whooo-aa Nelly!

I just out of curiosity looked up what the number 36 meant too. That is just too crazy.

I don't know how this will be resolved, but I would say no matter what happens or who pays for it, she should have that tattoo removed, like, yesterday!

Even if you don't have it removed, there are ways that tattoo artists can turn it into something more benign, rather than something so blatantly sexual, and sexist.

I wish you the best in sorting this all out.
 
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Your mom was wrong. I would be freakin' livid. But, right now I would be more worried about your DD. My goodness, why would she want 36 tatoo'd on herself?
 
OMG, I'm speechless. Wow, that's just crazy. I could never trust her again. And she knew it was wrong, she told your DD not to tell you.
 
:eek::eek: My eyes are popping out with disbelief. I can't believe she did actually did that without your consent or knowledge. I am speechless!!!

I really hope you are able to resolve this with your mom.

I don't think my daughter would be spending the day with grandma again without me being there.

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OMG! I had to look up that number!:eek:

I can't believe your mother allowed her to put that there....to many emotions, and thoughts come to mind that I can't even put a complete sentence together.

This action would severly hamper my relationship with my mother. One because she went against your wishes and secondly that "tatoo.":eek:

I wouldn't be so eagerly to forgive my daughter right way, either. She knew exactly what that meant. I wonder if your mother did?
 
Can somone P/M me with what the 36 means? I've been trying to find it on the web, but I'm not having any luck.
 
Thank you to everyone that sent me a P/M as to what 36 meant.

I would kick my moms arse for doing that. Do you know if your mom had any idea of what that means? I don't blame you for being upset, I'd be furious.

EDTA: I'd have her pay for the removal too.
 
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My daughter chose the number 36 because one of her good friends from school passed away from cancer (lukemia) he was 16 years old. He was on the hockey team and that was his number. She was distraught by his death. She says that she would always see his number everywhere she looked so if she looked at the time for ex: it would be 10:36.
 
Oh my gosh, that's sweet. I mean...15 year old with a tattoo aside...that is really very sweet.

If you guys choose to leave it, tell her not to worry about the other questionable definition of "36." A lot of us had to look it up, so I'm not sure the majority of the population would associate the number with anything bad. Certainly not like "69."

Ultimately it's what it means to you and only you. My niece has GSW (her late father's initials) on the back of her neck. Younger generations always incorrectly assume "Gun Shot Wound." Older generations have no clue.

I have an "Om" on my shoulder blade, a beautiful ancient Sanskrit symbol. A lot of people look at it and see a fancy "30." God only knows what "30" would produce in the Urban Dictionary. :rolleyes:
 
That's a pretty hefty coincidance....36 and 36...however, that still doesn't make it right...I still think grandmom was buying effections that shouldn't be purchased and that is something that destroys relationships...

15 is too young to make a decision like that. tatoos are something that should be paid for by the person that is getting them so that they can be sure they want to spend that money...on that...and to be sure it's something they want for the rest of their life....tatoo's aren't easily removed...and I have friends her age that lied and got one...and at 36, they wished they didn't get it...and/or they wish they got it somewhere else.

I would question your daughters vailidity of that story...but that's me...

Did you get to talk to you mom and see what her story was?
 
OK, not finding the meaning to the #36 either. But I'm understanding right that she chose that # for other reasons anyway. As a mother I would be through the roof!!! :mad: Any words from her yet? A major apology perhaps would be a good start.
 
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