OK I think I have a problem, help me!

M

Maximus

Cathlete
There's this kid at the gym, he's one of the trainers & he is absolutely adorable. He's 24 years old. He keeps hitting on me. It's making me crazy, not b/c it's annoying but b/c I am SO TEMPTED..........I mean, an old lady can only take so much temptation, right?

I guess I need to take all that discipline I put into my diet & exercise & use it now, but man is it hard! I don't want to go to jail or hell. Any advice?
 
Hee hee hee... I bet that makes you feel amazingly good;) But don't you have a boyfriend already?

I would take it as a compliment but not doing anything about it. And I don't think you'll go to jail. He's 24... isn't he?:p
 
Hey -

He's 24 - you won't go to jail!

Take that temptation and go! Because you know, the best way to get rid of temptation is to get rid of it.}( Hee-hee.

Susan L.G.
 
jail!:eek: he's perfectly legal! And besides, you aren't old! if you really want to get rid of him though, just tell hime to buzz off. i know you have it in you!:p


jes}(
 
Laura,
Are you married? If not, and you're attracted to each other, I wouldn't let the age factor discourage you. Several of my friends are w/ much (>5yrs.) older guys and it's working out well for all of them. Of course, if you're married, acting on your attraction only makes things worse (my opinion).
Valerie
:)
 
If you are even comtemplating it's a sign that you're digging him as well. So...the choice is yours, just don't do anything you may regret.

Keep us posted!! This is good stuff...


~Marietta
FITXME
 
You're not old! You do have a boyfriend though, so it is a no no! Don't do something you would regret later. But if you and the boyfriend have that kind of relationship then go for it! ;-)
 
speedy fingers! we must have all been posting at the same time! there's your help Lauramax!


jes
 
I have a 51 year old friend at work who is dating (and I use the term loosely) a 33 year old. By all accounts, the sex is great but I don't think her husband appreciates it x( . Oh, but you don't have one of those.

It's only a problem if you make it one :)
 
Okay, I have to tell you. I married the man of my dreams 2 years ago. We went out for 6 years before that. I've never been so happy in my life. He's 13 hears younger than me!

Margaret
 
UGH! The guy is hot! And he's so darn sweet.......I don't know, I do have a BF & I am wildly in love with him, I'm so tempted to go for it but I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to live with myself. It's such a quandary! I mean, there are certainly worse problems I could have, but still.........
 
24 is perfectly legal. Do it!! }( }( }( }( }( }( }(

BTW - You are NOT old. I'm only a year younger than you and I'm NOT old, therefore you're NOT old.:D
 
My SO is ten years younger than me, so the age difference isn't a factor for me. The boyfriend thing is. If you are truly madly in love with him, then I don't know that you'd be contemplating this.
 
Ummmm I hate to say it but if your thinking about it maybe your not so in Love ... I so would go for it .Oh my it makes me think theres a few of my sons friends( 21 or so) That I would jump in a second if I could x( Darn I'm married x( LOL ... No really if your single do it !!!! Let us know how it goes LOL..A little boy toy for ya !!!!You could teach him a few things LOL How fun would that be !!!}( }( }( Nice and sweet !!!!
 
Oh no, this has nothing to do w/the BF, it is purely a physical thing. I can't even imagine having a relationship w/a guy who's 13 years younger than I am, what could we possibly talk about?

It wouldn't be so hard if I only saw him once in a while & we just flirted a little, but I see him every damn time I'm in the gym & he's constantly flattering me.

I think I'm starting to understand the men who cheat & tell their wives it didn't mean anything, it was just sex. Not excusing it mind you, just kind of seeing the POV.

BUT, I am a woman & woman are much stronger than men. I will resist this! I will!
 
Good girl. Because throwing away the amazing thing you have with your BF on some 24 year old from the gym you just have a physical attraction to would be a huge mistake, IMHO;)
 
I agree with Shelley. I think the problems it would cause would outweigh any benefits to this relationship. And they ALWAYS start out incredibly sweet...until you go out with them!!}(



Angie
 
Who said anything about going out with him? }(

Yeah I know, I have some girlfriends who keep telling me to go for it, I really needed a reality check from you guys, thanks. I know how stupid it would be but it's still pretty tough. It's like having peanut butter fudge sitting in front of you, & someone saying if you have that peanut butter fudge you can't ever have pizza again. :eek:
 
The truth is, we all get tempted. Giving in is easy (like eating too many Hot Tamales). ;)

You really seem like a strong woman. You've got much more to you than to give in too easily to a physical attraction. But if it get's really difficult, before you give in, make yourself imagine how you'd feel if your relationship with your bf was gone forever. If that isn't a big deal just do him the courtesy of breaking up with him first. I know it's boring and old fashioned, but I still believe we should be careful how we treat others -- take care of him the way you'd want him to take care of you.

I'm sure you've been tempted before (who hasn't)? And you'll be tempted again. But, you have to live with yourself.

Marla
 
OK...Reality check. I am now 50 (now that's really old!!) and I really regret not seizing opportunities presented when I was single and with a boyfriend. You are not married. Go for it and you will not have regrets. Your boyfriend may not be 'the one' in the end so find out now, rather than when you are married.
 
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