nice on ice
Cathlete
I agree that she should have picked a different color because it's the bride's day but some of you are reading too much into this picture without knowing the circumstances or the people involved.
Mother In Law wearing white dress at the wedding?
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kathryn
Cathlete
>Also, even if she wore white it didn't have to be with lace
>and beading like a wedding dress. If she'd worn a white suit,
>for example, I can see it looking more acceptable. But that
>number is chiffon, with beading, and lace!
>
>
I'm with you on this. If the bride didn't request this (which was the only POSSIBLE way I could imagine it happening), then it's almost like MIL wants to relive HER wedding day! Very strange, IMO. Very, VERY strange!
>and beading like a wedding dress. If she'd worn a white suit,
>for example, I can see it looking more acceptable. But that
>number is chiffon, with beading, and lace!
>
>
I'm with you on this. If the bride didn't request this (which was the only POSSIBLE way I could imagine it happening), then it's almost like MIL wants to relive HER wedding day! Very strange, IMO. Very, VERY strange!
kathryn
Cathlete
>I agree that she should have picked a different color because
>it's the bride's day but some of you are reading too much into
>this picture without knowing the circumstances or the people
>involved.
>
Let's read even more into it!}(
MIL is secretly jealous of new DIL, and has a perverted possessive relationship with her son, wishing that SHE were his bride instead! bwa ha ha!
>it's the bride's day but some of you are reading too much into
>this picture without knowing the circumstances or the people
>involved.
>
Let's read even more into it!}(
MIL is secretly jealous of new DIL, and has a perverted possessive relationship with her son, wishing that SHE were his bride instead! bwa ha ha!
dani21496
Cathlete
>I agree that she should have picked a different color because
>it's the bride's day but some of you are reading too much into
>this picture without knowing the circumstances or the people
>involved.
>
Actually, I know the bride from the wedding planning forums I frequent, and she was very upset about this. She was the bigger person though and didn't say anything.
>it's the bride's day but some of you are reading too much into
>this picture without knowing the circumstances or the people
>involved.
>
Actually, I know the bride from the wedding planning forums I frequent, and she was very upset about this. She was the bigger person though and didn't say anything.
darli ann
Cathlete
(I always go by the rule "Never wear all black or all white to a wedding.")
Is it a rule to never wear all black to a wedding? I've done it and wasn't alone. In the summer I've seen gals in gorgeous little black dresses and I wore a long black velvet dress to my son's wedding at Christmas time. Please don't tell me I screwed up?????
Is it a rule to never wear all black to a wedding? I've done it and wasn't alone. In the summer I've seen gals in gorgeous little black dresses and I wore a long black velvet dress to my son's wedding at Christmas time. Please don't tell me I screwed up?????
dani21496
Cathlete
>(I always go by the rule "Never wear all black or all white
>to a wedding.")
>
>Is it a rule to never wear all black to a wedding? I've done
>it and wasn't alone. In the summer I've seen gals in gorgeous
>little black dresses and I wore a long black velvet dress to
>my son's wedding at Christmas time. Please don't tell me I
>screwed up?????
>
You didn't screw up. More and more people are wearing black dresses to weddings these days. It's very common nowadays, to see black bridesmaid dresses too.
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>to a wedding.")
>
>Is it a rule to never wear all black to a wedding? I've done
>it and wasn't alone. In the summer I've seen gals in gorgeous
>little black dresses and I wore a long black velvet dress to
>my son's wedding at Christmas time. Please don't tell me I
>screwed up?????
>
You didn't screw up. More and more people are wearing black dresses to weddings these days. It's very common nowadays, to see black bridesmaid dresses too.
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SteppingFool
Cathlete
I do think she's a BIG person for biting her tongue... kudos for her!
Hi Dani! Not only isn't it appropriate, but it even has BEADS!! She looks terrible in it & looks like she's trying to upstage her own daughter too. Certainly black or even a deep rose color or navy blue color would've been more appropriate & she should've picked another style dress that would've been more flattering to her figure. This did nothing for her & her hairstyle!! Just terrible. What was she thinking? Kathy
I think that the MIL probably is rather naive and without fashion sense. I feel sorry for her since maybe she didn't know any better. she may be lacking in social graces and I'm sure she would be embarassed to see her picture here. A close relative should have kindly talked to her before the day of the wedding. Maybe it was the only nice dress she owned. Just my two cents!
dani21496
Cathlete
>I think that the MIL probably is rather naive and without
>fashion sense. I feel sorry for her since maybe she didn't
>know any better. she may be lacking in social graces and I'm
>sure she would be embarassed to see her picture here. A close
>relative should have kindly talked to her before the day of
>the wedding. Maybe it was the only nice dress she owned. Just
>my two cents!
I've talked to the bride on the wedding forums and this was not the case. The MIL went out and bought this dress for the wedding. The bride posted this picture.
>fashion sense. I feel sorry for her since maybe she didn't
>know any better. she may be lacking in social graces and I'm
>sure she would be embarassed to see her picture here. A close
>relative should have kindly talked to her before the day of
>the wedding. Maybe it was the only nice dress she owned. Just
>my two cents!
I've talked to the bride on the wedding forums and this was not the case. The MIL went out and bought this dress for the wedding. The bride posted this picture.
nice on ice
Cathlete
The rest of us do not know these people. I find it tacky, to be honest, that a picture of these people has been posted here for others to poke fun. Does your friend know that her wedding party picture is posted here and people are making fun of it?
I wonder if Cathe would approve of this on her site?
I wonder if Cathe would approve of this on her site?
dani21496
Cathlete
>The rest of us do not know these people. I find it tacky, to
>be honest, that a picture of these people has been posted here
>for others to poke fun. Does your friend know that her wedding
>party picture is posted here and people are making fun of it?
>
>I wonder if Cathe would approve of this on her site?
nice on ice:
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http://www.phpbbforfree.com/forums/images/smiles/wow.gif
Posting this pic is not tacky at all. My original post wasn't asking for people to poke fun. I was asking what people's thoughts are on the etiquette of the MIL wearing a white wedding type of dress along with the bride. The bride asked me to, and the bride is the most non-tacky person I've ever talked to. Yes, the bride knows and I'm letting her know what the responses here are as well. She's the one who posted this picture on the wedding site and she and everyone else on that site are saying the same thing as everyone here. She wanted to know if she was alone in feeling the way she did about what her MIL did. She wanted to know everyone's response and that's why she posted. I'm telling her what everyone said over here as well.
You're obviously pretty new to this site? We've talked wedding etiquette on this "Open Discussion" Cathe board many, many times before.
Oh, and you should see the responses on the other wedding chat board where I talk to this bride. The responses over here are very tame compared to those and the bride(my friend) is laughing about it. She feels better that so many people are supporting her feelings.
Also, everyone in that wedding party was put off by what the MIL wore. The bride pointed out (when she posted the picture) for everyone to just look at everyone's facial expressions in that picture. She KNOWS for a fact that her MIL did this on purpose and was being vindictive.
She was VERY upset about this and seeing these posts is making her at least laugh about the whole situation now. At least she feels better now and I don't see how that can be tacky. Sheesh!
>be honest, that a picture of these people has been posted here
>for others to poke fun. Does your friend know that her wedding
>party picture is posted here and people are making fun of it?
>
>I wonder if Cathe would approve of this on her site?
nice on ice:
Umm...Hey now! What?http://www.phpbbforfree.com/forums/images/smiles/eek2.gif
http://www.phpbbforfree.com/forums/images/smiles/wow.gif
Posting this pic is not tacky at all. My original post wasn't asking for people to poke fun. I was asking what people's thoughts are on the etiquette of the MIL wearing a white wedding type of dress along with the bride. The bride asked me to, and the bride is the most non-tacky person I've ever talked to. Yes, the bride knows and I'm letting her know what the responses here are as well. She's the one who posted this picture on the wedding site and she and everyone else on that site are saying the same thing as everyone here. She wanted to know if she was alone in feeling the way she did about what her MIL did. She wanted to know everyone's response and that's why she posted. I'm telling her what everyone said over here as well.
You're obviously pretty new to this site? We've talked wedding etiquette on this "Open Discussion" Cathe board many, many times before.
Oh, and you should see the responses on the other wedding chat board where I talk to this bride. The responses over here are very tame compared to those and the bride(my friend) is laughing about it. She feels better that so many people are supporting her feelings.
Also, everyone in that wedding party was put off by what the MIL wore. The bride pointed out (when she posted the picture) for everyone to just look at everyone's facial expressions in that picture. She KNOWS for a fact that her MIL did this on purpose and was being vindictive.
She was VERY upset about this and seeing these posts is making her at least laugh about the whole situation now. At least she feels better now and I don't see how that can be tacky. Sheesh!
nancy324
Cathlete
Definitely a poor choice. Fortunately, though, she doesn't hold a candle to that beautiful young bride, and the dress looks awful on the MIL, so that really helps.
The MIL may just be clueless. If she's trying to steal the bride's thunder, she just isn't coming close! She just looks like a matronly MIL in a silly dress, and the gorgeous bride looks like a million bucks!
The MIL may just be clueless. If she's trying to steal the bride's thunder, she just isn't coming close! She just looks like a matronly MIL in a silly dress, and the gorgeous bride looks like a million bucks!
Okay, Dani, I have to ask a few questions, then, since you know this poor girl (hope you don't mind!)
Did the bride and MIL get along before the wedding?! I am just trying to figure out what the vibe was that caused her to think this dress was a good idea... I agree with previous posts - the MIL's dress is not the best choice for her (color, style, etc) so what made her do it? Was she trying to go with the color theme and just made a bad choice? Or was it a deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement? And if it's the latter, what the heck was the statement?
And how has married life been since the wedding? Were there any other issues at the wedding and after? I need details!!! : )
And, how did the groom handle the whole thing? (I mean, it IS his mother!!)
Thanks!
(Can you tell I need to get a life?:7 )
Did the bride and MIL get along before the wedding?! I am just trying to figure out what the vibe was that caused her to think this dress was a good idea... I agree with previous posts - the MIL's dress is not the best choice for her (color, style, etc) so what made her do it? Was she trying to go with the color theme and just made a bad choice? Or was it a deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement? And if it's the latter, what the heck was the statement?
And how has married life been since the wedding? Were there any other issues at the wedding and after? I need details!!! : )
And, how did the groom handle the whole thing? (I mean, it IS his mother!!)
Thanks!
(Can you tell I need to get a life?:7 )
dani21496
Cathlete
>Okay, Dani, I have to ask a few questions, then, since you
>know this poor girl (hope you don't mind!)
>
>Did the bride and MIL get along before the wedding?! I am
>just trying to figure out what the vibe was that caused her to
>think this dress was a good idea... I agree with previous
>posts - the MIL's dress is not the best choice for her (color,
>style, etc) so what made her do it? Was she trying to go with
>the color theme and just made a bad choice? Or was it a
>deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement? And if it's
>the latter, what the heck was the statement?
>
>And how has married life been since the wedding? Were there
>any other issues at the wedding and after? I need details!!!
> : )
>
>And, how did the groom handle the whole thing? (I mean, it IS
>his mother!!)
>
>Thanks!
>
> (Can you tell I need to get a life?:7 )
>
>
Hi there. No they didn't really get along all that well. She actually said that (bride's words here) "You can't tell in the picture but I am freaking out and asked her to stand farther away from me and she wouldn't. I bit my toungue as much as I could though."
Unbelievable!!!!
The groom was just trying to keep things PC.
The bride believes it was a deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement. They just got married on July 9th so as far as I know the marriage is going just fine so far.
>know this poor girl (hope you don't mind!)
>
>Did the bride and MIL get along before the wedding?! I am
>just trying to figure out what the vibe was that caused her to
>think this dress was a good idea... I agree with previous
>posts - the MIL's dress is not the best choice for her (color,
>style, etc) so what made her do it? Was she trying to go with
>the color theme and just made a bad choice? Or was it a
>deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement? And if it's
>the latter, what the heck was the statement?
>
>And how has married life been since the wedding? Were there
>any other issues at the wedding and after? I need details!!!
> : )
>
>And, how did the groom handle the whole thing? (I mean, it IS
>his mother!!)
>
>Thanks!
>
> (Can you tell I need to get a life?:7 )
>
>
Hi there. No they didn't really get along all that well. She actually said that (bride's words here) "You can't tell in the picture but I am freaking out and asked her to stand farther away from me and she wouldn't. I bit my toungue as much as I could though."
Unbelievable!!!!
The groom was just trying to keep things PC.
The bride believes it was a deliberate attempt to make some kind of statement. They just got married on July 9th so as far as I know the marriage is going just fine so far.
Well, I think it's fine to wear black to a wedding and black is also pretty common for bridesmaids (frankly I think it is sometimes very sophisticated and is far better than some of the horrors my friends have inflicted on me, lol)... but the MIL in the white wedding dress is VERY creepy. I would be a little concerned about her need to be in the spotlight if I was the bride, I think.
Of course, she might just be totally clueless...
Cheers,
Marie
Of course, she might just be totally clueless...
Cheers,
Marie