Ladies ,I have a REAL problem .I'm so bummed!
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lesliemarie
Cathlete
((((((((((((Marry)))))))))))))) I am so sorry that you are going through this, but I do have one bit advice, BE CAREFUL!! my brother was meth addict and married, his wife finally left him because his paranioa became so bad that her safety and her baby's safety was at stake, Meth is a very bad drug, I believe it is way worse than a cocaine addiction, My brother would go on what they called "runs" would do that drug for days and then crash for days, and when woken, he was very violent, he has since beaten the addiction but while in the grips of that drug "Meth" it was a very scary things. So please, if you can get him to go into rehab do, I hope and pray the best for you and your family, and your hubby. If you would like to know more about what all happened while my brother was on that drug you can always e-mail me, at [email protected]
Mary, yes it is a long haul, yes its going to be hell, and i will tell you this, most addict dont even reach sobriety the 1st time around!! All of the post here will cheer you up and might make you feel better for a while but the truth is this, your living with an addict who is addicted to the worst deamon out there right now!!
so you NEED TO SNAP out of the "poor me" "i am in a depression" bull crap and shap up yourself not just for you but for your kids.... THEY ALLREADY HAVE ONE SICK PARENT THEY DONT NEED TWO!! I hate to be so harsh but you know what, the truth is you need to be the mom and dad the everything in your house until this fixes itself.
there is hope... really... might seem like the world is crumbling and there is no way out but there is. Your story happend to me, it happens to so many (sadly). the posted site at the end of this email helped me through my sad time. Educated me on meth, the side effects and all. go there educate yourself if your not too sure of what meth really is.
It was a long haul for me, my husband went to rebah, relapsed then sobered up. but by that time, you can imagine all the damage that was done to my children myself our finances everyone is affected.
I am happy to say he is sober 3 years now, BUT ONLY BY THE GRACE OF GOD. if you want to email me personaly okay with me, i would be glad to share my story with you. all i know is that the long haul is worth it, however you cant help someone if they dont want help for themselfs 1st, that is the key he needs to want to change for him, not for you or even his children, but for him 1st then with alot of hard work and support all will fall into place.
Andrea
http://www.kci.org/meth_info/meth_letters.htm
so you NEED TO SNAP out of the "poor me" "i am in a depression" bull crap and shap up yourself not just for you but for your kids.... THEY ALLREADY HAVE ONE SICK PARENT THEY DONT NEED TWO!! I hate to be so harsh but you know what, the truth is you need to be the mom and dad the everything in your house until this fixes itself.
there is hope... really... might seem like the world is crumbling and there is no way out but there is. Your story happend to me, it happens to so many (sadly). the posted site at the end of this email helped me through my sad time. Educated me on meth, the side effects and all. go there educate yourself if your not too sure of what meth really is.
It was a long haul for me, my husband went to rebah, relapsed then sobered up. but by that time, you can imagine all the damage that was done to my children myself our finances everyone is affected.
I am happy to say he is sober 3 years now, BUT ONLY BY THE GRACE OF GOD. if you want to email me personaly okay with me, i would be glad to share my story with you. all i know is that the long haul is worth it, however you cant help someone if they dont want help for themselfs 1st, that is the key he needs to want to change for him, not for you or even his children, but for him 1st then with alot of hard work and support all will fall into place.
Andrea
http://www.kci.org/meth_info/meth_letters.htm
Mary, you've gotten a lot of good replies. Just wanted to affirm that he needs the drugs he can only get in rehab that will let his body taper off slowly from the meth.
I don't know what I would do in your shoes. Hold on tight to the friends who will support you either way. Nobody but you knows all the factors you have to consider. It's easy for some to say they'd hit the highway, but I know I stayed in a horrible situation hoping against hope for a long time, because of two little children and being financially dependent among other things. Wanting to keep my vows yada yada. He is long gone.
Can I just preach here. My faith, take it or leave it:
God sent Jesus to die for your husband's sins, you don't have to die for your husband's sins. You can have compassion for him but not throw your own life away trying to save him.
Take care Mary.
Bella
I don't know what I would do in your shoes. Hold on tight to the friends who will support you either way. Nobody but you knows all the factors you have to consider. It's easy for some to say they'd hit the highway, but I know I stayed in a horrible situation hoping against hope for a long time, because of two little children and being financially dependent among other things. Wanting to keep my vows yada yada. He is long gone.
Can I just preach here. My faith, take it or leave it:
God sent Jesus to die for your husband's sins, you don't have to die for your husband's sins. You can have compassion for him but not throw your own life away trying to save him.
Take care Mary.
Bella
merrybaker
Cathlete
Thank you all for your support.I will let you know how things go. Hugs
Aquajock
Cathlete
I must emphasize the importance of Lesliemarie's post. Meth is a tremendously virulent drug, and it can take a person six months to a year of intensive rehab (presuming the rehab facility is skilled at treating meth addiction, which is not always a given).
Mary, you have my best wishes and hopes, and of course you know you have the support of the participants on this forum. You also desperately need to take care of yourself, and I would suggest seeking counseling as a partner of a meth abuser. Chemical addictions have some common characteristics regardless of the substance, AND they have marked differences because of the substance, and from what I've read, meth is the most dangerous substance out there so far.
In hopes that you will come out on top -
Annette
Mary, you have my best wishes and hopes, and of course you know you have the support of the participants on this forum. You also desperately need to take care of yourself, and I would suggest seeking counseling as a partner of a meth abuser. Chemical addictions have some common characteristics regardless of the substance, AND they have marked differences because of the substance, and from what I've read, meth is the most dangerous substance out there so far.
In hopes that you will come out on top -
Annette
Hi Mary,
Sending you hugs and a shoulder to vent on. You do have a long haul in front of you. Helping your hubby through this will take it's toll on you. Your children will need comfort and all those numerous things that only a parent can do. Stay strong and never fail to come here or to your support group for uplifting words. Above all, remember that you have to do for yourself. People tend to give it all away in times like this but you have to help yourself in order to help others.
Thinking of you,
jordan
Sending you hugs and a shoulder to vent on. You do have a long haul in front of you. Helping your hubby through this will take it's toll on you. Your children will need comfort and all those numerous things that only a parent can do. Stay strong and never fail to come here or to your support group for uplifting words. Above all, remember that you have to do for yourself. People tend to give it all away in times like this but you have to help yourself in order to help others.
Thinking of you,
jordan
Jordan just wanted to jump in here with what my cousin told me.
It's just like the put your oxygen on first before your kids, the same thing. You need to take care of yourself so you can help the others.
I never could do that pamper yourself, just not me, but the oxygen mask analogy helped me a lot.
And don't worry about working out now. It's highly unlikely you will have much to put into working out now. I took a year off and am pretty much back after 12 weeks so you won't loose it for ever.
It's just like the put your oxygen on first before your kids, the same thing. You need to take care of yourself so you can help the others.
I never could do that pamper yourself, just not me, but the oxygen mask analogy helped me a lot.
And don't worry about working out now. It's highly unlikely you will have much to put into working out now. I took a year off and am pretty much back after 12 weeks so you won't loose it for ever.
