Hi Joyce!
Unfortunately, I do have experiences to share with you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January and believe it or not, my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer in December! My family really got hit! I've had the surgery, the chemo and will be starting radiation soon. My dad had surgery but didn't need the chemo or radiation.
As others have mentioned, attitude really does make a difference. You really need a good sense of humor going through some of this stuff but believe me, you WILL find the funny in a lot of it
That said, there will be days that being positive just won't be in the cards and that's okay, too! I found that sometimes I was trying so hard to be strong and happy for other people that it became draining for me, emotionally. Sometimes a good cry or even just a moment of feeling just a wee bit sorry about the situation you're in is warranted AND helpful. (as long as you don't stay there!) It sounds like you already have that under control
One thing that was very helpful for me was seeking out forums. I've been so forum oriented over the last 6 or so years with all the fitness sites I frequent. I knew that there had to be something out there for cancer, too and there was! The ones that I visit are geared towards breast cancer but do a google search and I bet you can find one for you, too.
Another site with some helpful info is
www.livingwithit.org. It may seem oriented just towards breast and lung cancer but go into both sections. There will be an opportunity to send away for a great cookbook (FREE!!!) called Eating Well through Cancer. They also offer free subscriptions to Cure magazine.
Feel free to pm me if you have other questions, I'd be happy to help!
Karen