I NEED your SUPPORT loss of job!!

intensitylisa

intensitylisa

Cathlete
;( Hi Cathe friends! I haven't been around much this past week because last Thursday I found out I am no longer employed. So, as you can imagine I went through pure H ---- for the first couple of days. I ended up at the doctor's with a nervous breakdown! I couldn't eat, sleep, shaked and cried all the time! No reason for letting me go, just goodbye and you can collect unemployment. I was very skeptical of the new boss we got in July as I had heard she had let someone else go out of unfairness. The sad thing is I never saw this coming as my boss was so nice to me (too nice), backstabbing witch in disguise! No warnings, no nothing, just pack your things! I was on probation for a year and had absolutely no rights because of this being a state job! I am on some serious nerve medication to calm me down and it actually has a sedative in it. I am the sole provider of our family as my husband has been on workman's comp for 4 years. I had just bought a house this past September. The engine to my care blew up, so I had to sell it for a loss! Needless to say I had lost all interest in everything I love including Cathe workouts! Jobs around my area are very scarce and there are still layoffs taken place daily. I have decided to go to Florida during spring break to look for work. The good thing is I am in the medical field and already have 3 interviews set up. I can't stand the thought of leaving my family in New York, as I am especially close to my grandmother who is 84. I take care of her and know she will probably die of a broken heart, but we have to survive, and I see good things for us in Florida! I hope you will all give me support on my new venture and thank you for listening. I am so scared at this point in my life!
 
I am so sorry to hear this. I know each state is different, but do you have a union rep that you could speak with. I know government positions in CA require that you document and give an employee probation reports. At least you could know how you are doing in your duties. I want to wish you luck on your interviews. I hope you get the job you want.

Terri
 
OMG I am so sorry to hear this:( It just breaks my heart to hear your story. I will pray for you and your family. I know it has been a tough world with everyone losing their jobs. My mother loss her job this past summer and she is 64 years old almost close to her retirement. Just take it 1 day at a time. Im sure your grandmother will be ok and hopefully understand. I know it is hard at her age. Does she have anybody around her to be close to her? I hope so for your sake. I think your grandmother would want you to do what is best for you and see things work out for you. I know it is a tough situation but just try and let things fall in it place as the day goes by and try and take it 1 day at a time. Don't let your mind run a head of you. Please try and take care of yourself and try to at least do some excerise because that does help with all the tension you are feeling right now. I know when I went through a rough time after my father pass away 2 1/2 years ago I had to take medication for my nerves because I was shaking, nervous, crying and it went into severe panic attacks that when I started excerising it did help some of the tension but it took time before I felt 100% better. Let us know about your job interviews and keep us posted.
 
Lisa:

I am giving you a huge hug right now: can you feel it?
This is an awful time for you, so much anxiety. I can quite understand how you might have fallen apart sudddenly. Take a few days to relax and calm down. It's a shock, you are in shock: you need to demand nothing of yourself for a few days, surround yourself with caring people who can help out with the family for a bit, while you asimmilate this.

I am thrilled for you that you have three job interviews already lined up. It is fantastic and it means you have not lost everything, things are not beyond repair. Your mind is already capable of seeing possibilities, making new plans, albeit tentatively.

Things will pick up and you will emerge stronger. I hope you can take comfort in that.

You have all my support as you embark upon building new ventures for your family life. Remember: things are not imposssible: take courage, you can make good things happen.

All best wishes,

Clare
 
Hi Lisa,
I too am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your job. We are having 'interesting' times on the farm, so I can feel your pain. DH had a heart attack about a month ago, all from stress and worry. They told us that sometimes we think of all the horrible 'what if's and they become so real, that it blinds us of finding the solution. And the fear is most always worse than what will actually happen.
Just like the excellent advice from the girls' posts above, one day at a time has it's own anxieties. Tomorrow will come and you deal with it's problems. But to worry about what tomorrow will bring, or won't bring, is wasting energy on what you can do to help today.

I ramble and sometimes make no sense. It is wonderful that you are experienced in a field that always needs help. And Florida.... that's kinda nice. :) Would there be any chance that once you got situated in Florida that Grandma could come there?

Anyway, by posting on this board, there are some great minds here. (I'm not including myself in the great mind catagory) but you might get some ideas that you hadn't thought of yet. Have faith everything will turn out for the best.
My thoughts are with you. ((hugs))
 
I am so sorry about your job loss and nervous breakdown. I experienced something similar once (well not job loss) but severe nervousness and it was so horrible. Being in the medical field, I bet you find something you like even better! And I'm sure you're grandmother will understand that you have to take care of your kids first. I have come to find that most times when something bad/scary happens, it was a blessing in disguise. Maybe this new move to Florida and a possible new job is going to end up being the best thing to ever happen to you. I know it's hard to think that way right now but one day you may look back and think "boy am I glad I ended up in Florida".

I hope you feel better soon and good luck in your job search.
Wishing you the best,
Lisa
 
things will work out....this backstabbing boss of yours will get what she deserves in the end- things always have a way of coming back on the ones who do harm. this happened for a reason- hang in there. you may not know the reason yet but you will!!!
 
Lisa I wish you the best. And try to think that when "The Lord closes a door, somewhere he opens a window!" (This is from the sound of Music)
Perhaps there is a better job for you that you will find because of being thrown into this situation. I've gotta believe taht is the case.

Keep checking in with us! Your friends here care about you.
I'm your Upstate NY buddy remember the post about where we are from?
 
Lisa,
I am so sorry to hear of this. As you know, I am in Binghamton, and I understand how desolate the employment outlook is in this area. I wish you the best of luck finding employment in Florida. Please let us know how you make out.
 
Take heart, Lisa! And don't beat yourself up! Losing a job is a tremendous blow and from a psychological stand point, you may find that it makes you experience grief and go through many of the steps associated with it. Shock, panic, anger, guilt and sorrow are all emotions that may come up. But you went to your doctor and you've already taken steps by looking at Florida as a job market so hang in there and take extra special care of yourself as you work through this! You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope it all works out quickly and you come through this stronger than before! And get yourself a journal and write your feelings and thoughts out. It will help you to know what they are and will perhaps guide you toward a new and brighter future!

XX
Bobbi
 
Encouragement from a Floridian originally from Joisey:

- Home prices are still very reasonable. So good in fact, I bet if and when you sell the one you have you could get twice the house.
- Property taxes are very low compared to the Northeast.
- You won't need snowtires.
- Florida is great for the skin. Humid weather will keep you glowing.
- Traffic, for the most part, is not too bad.
- Lots to do, especially for children.

What area of Florida are you thinking of?

p.s. Could your grandmother come with you?
 
Hi Lisa, I can almost understand your feelings, about 5 years ago, my hubby went through the same thing. He workded for a Steel mill that was struggling to survive and he got layed off.
The story goes as this: we were living as a family of 5 in a two bedroom appartment and we tried for 10 years to get a home of our own and everytime it looked like we could he would get layed off again, Then came a day and we were able to get one!! we were so excited everything was looking up for us, the wham!! he permanatly got layed off just after moving into our new home. He has spiraled into a deep depression and could not get himself out of bed, talked to a doctor and they put him on some antidepressants and that helped, then he went to school and after completing after two years, but before completing school we lost all our unemployment benefits which made things tons worse for us because now we faced loosing our new house. Just when we both were loosing our hope, he got a great job offer!!! and yes we are back on our feet, so hang in there! there is a rainbow out there for you and your family! will say plenty of prayers for you and your family.
 
I am very sorry to hear about your situation. But I'm always hearing about how good your chances are of finding a job if you're in healthcare or the medical field, even in these trying times. I hope you get it all worked out soon. Good luck on your interviews. I wish you all the best.

Pinky
 
I'm so sorry Lisa!!! Just know that everything will work out in the end. You have great opportunities ahead of you. Sometimes we get so comfortable in our current situations that we never take risks by making changes unless we are forced to. You'll look back on this one day and be so grateful that it happened. Good luck!
 
Oh Lisa, I was so sorry to read this really bad news. You have a tremendous load on your shoulders and i can't imagine how hard it must be. I hope you can relax and take care of yourself through all of this. I will keep u in my prayers .. hugs



Candy:D
 
{{{{{LISA}}}}}}
I'm so sorry to hear about your job loss. Maybe there is a silver lining to this cloud? Florida may be just the thing for you.

I'm sending you lots of virtual hugs and positive thoughts.

Take care of yourself!
 
I'm sorry to hear about this, Lisa. I'm sending good vibes your way.

As hard as it may be, try to stay positive during this time, getting into a funk will only make things worse. Staying positive can help keep you open to opportunities that you may not have considered before. Take care.
 
:D I want to thank all of you sooo very much for your wonderful support! You have no idea what this means to me at this time! Your positive vibes make it so much easier for me to stay positive! I will be interviewing in Florida in the cities of Lake City, Destin, Jacksonville and Tampa. I will keep you posted! Again, I can not thank you enough helping me through this rough time. My grandmother is getting on my case now that she knows I will be looking in Florida. She is putting a guilt trip on me for leaving. I have offered for her to move with us, but she is stubborn and won't move! I'll have you all know I am printing all your replies so I can reflect back on all the positive vibes you have sent me when times get rough! I cherish each and every post! Thank you!
 
Hi Lisa! I am so sorry for your situation. Really, all things do work for good. Hang in there. Florida sounds good to me especially since we have an 8* chill factor in Ohio today! :7 You will be in my thoughts & prayers as you make your decision. Keep us posted and try to get in a few workouts each week to help with your stress level. THINKING OF YOU!!!

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