high school reunions... ugg.. should i go?

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wendygurl

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Well, i'm coming upon my 25th high school reunion. I hate these things. I still live in my hometown so I do get alot of pressure from local people I graduated with. Don't get me wrong, I had GREAT high school experience. I had lots of friends and was in alot of activities. But I like to remember it this way. I already dislike some people I graduated with based on the crap they post on facebook. Is it wrong to just not attend these things when you live locally? Seriously, I am tormenting over this. And to make matters worse, I have an awful memory for faces and names and just know I will forget someone or hurt their feelings. Thoughts? Anything would be great!:eek:
 
Gosh Wendy, it's hard to say but I bet if you go, you'll have a really good time. I think everyone who goes to their reunions is nervous about not remembering faces/names so don't feel like you are the only one with that problem. I have my reunion coming up next month. (my 39th...we are combining 3 classes this time and just calling it our 40th.) I've always been nervous before all my reunions but never have I not had a great time! Since you live in town, maybe you can have a good friend you care about hang with you so you don't feel alone? Good Luck and if you go, hope it's a blast!
 
I didnt go to my 10 year reunion, because the people I was friends with in HS, I am still friends with now, so I didnt need to go to a reunion to see people I didnt like in school. And with Facebook, it's funny, because all the people I was not friends with try to friend me on FB and I always deny them, because if we weren't friends then, we are not friends now and don't be nosy!
But that's just my thought. :)
 
Wendy, I've been asking myself this very question lately. I'm in the same boat as you....I still live in my hometown and my 20th is coming up this Fall. Like you, I also had an INCREDIBLE AWESOME HS experience. Today, I don't have constant contact with anybody other than my BFF who lives across the street from me but whom I didn't even KNOW in HS (she graduated a year after me). lol I'm waffling too. I'm leaning toward NOT going, because I simply can't stand the gossip scene, which I know I'll be one of the topics (recent bad breakup with another 'popular' local jerk....I mean 'homie'. :p).

Somebody else mentioned Facebook. I'm on the other end of that opinion, though. FB, for ME, has proven to be a great way to reconnect with people from HS now that I'm an adult. I've become friends with several wonderful women that I was only acquainted with in HS but now we chat, hang out, get the kids together, etc.

In a nutshell, I guess I'm saying there's no need to go unless you WANT to, whole-heartedly! THERE........I just made up MY OWN mind! :D
 
I've felt ambiguous about attending mine, but I've been to three of them and had a great time. It's not easy (or cheap) for me to go -- I live far from my hometown and have to fly and get hotel reservations. Still, I haven't regretted a single time and I'm glad I've gone.

You may go and have a good time (ignore the people you dislike), but if you don't go, you may regret missing the opportunity. And since you live close by, you can always leave if you're miserable.

Let us know what you decide... and if you go, let us know how it was!
 
nicolegadino said:
I didnt go to my 10 year reunion, because the people I was friends with in HS, I am still friends with now, so I didnt need to go to a reunion to see people I didnt like in school. And with Facebook, it's funny, because all the people I was not friends with try to friend me on FB and I always deny them, because if we weren't friends then, we are not friends now and don't be nosy!
But that's just my thought. :)
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ITA!!! Same here. I still live in my hometown and I had NO desire to go to my 10 year reunion. It was too pricey, esp for where it was being held, plus I really didn't feel like being bothered with the people I didn't associate with/like at that time. From what I heard, cliques hung out with cliques and no one mingled, so why would I go spend money on that when I can do it for free with the people I still talk to?
 
Well, for what it's worth, and I am sure everyone's experience will be different, I found that people can and do change after graduation. I found many people to be much friendlier and fun to be around compared to high school. I didn't find the reunions to be competitive like high school...guess you could call it maturity? But, like I said, it might be different at your reunion. If you decide to go, I hope you have a great experience.
 
Debbie, I've found the same thing, too. These ladies that's I've reconnected with-we never hung out in school because we just weren't in the same 'crowds' or cliques. I was the student athlete jock in the honors classes, though, and that allowed me to associate with both the athletic crowd AND the incredibly smart ones. I LOVED HS....I just wish some of those folks who I KNOW will be at our reunion, weren't going. Ah, heck, I should just go cuz they ARE going! ;)
 
Gayle, I say go and hold your head high! And, GF, while you're at it, show off all those muscles & the hard work you've done! You look amazing! :)
 
I say, whatever you decide to do, do it without regret.

I've only attended one reunion so far: the 10th. My 35th (yikes! how can that be? I'm not even that old, LOL!) is coming up this fall, and the events (bowling, drinks in a bar, a dinner) don't look at all appealing to me (and it's the weekend right before classes start, so bad timing) so I won't be going.
 
Wendy - It sounds like you've gone to some of them before. No need to feel like you have to go to every one! I have never been to any of mine and just missed my 25th. I'd like to go to one someday, but judging by the pictures I saw of the 25th, most of the people I knew and were close to, weren't there. It's harder for me since I don't live in the town where I went to school.

Never feel like you HAVE to go! If it's causing you this much strife, I think that's a clear sign you should skip this one!
 
If you really don't want to go, don't let anyone pressure you into going just because you live nearby.

I agree with Nicolegadino's post. I didn't go to my 10year reunion either and have no regrets whatsoever. I'm probably the only person on the planet who's not on facebook so i wouldn't concern myself with whatever's going on there either.
 
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