HELP I can't put my baby down

My God...can I relate to your story!! My first born was a nonstop crier!! And he didn't nap. There were days I held him easily 14 hours a day...talk about ready to snap!!! People would tell me all the time that it would soon enough end and I swore that time was never going to come. It does, I promise. He finally around 2 to 2.5 months became willing to sit in the swing for a while, and by 3 to 4 months the crying had become much much better. He never really got the hang of the nap thing though...he was the king of the 20 to 30 minute nap. I swear had I not gotten unexpectedly pregnant with my second, my first probably would have been an only child as he had me that flustered about ever wanting to have any more babies...heehee!!

I had to put him in day care as well at 3 months and I was scared to death about it. But I have to say it was fine. Don't get me wrong he was definately the one in the room that kept the workers on their toes, but he did alot better than I thought he was going to do. Just rest assured and know that you are now on the down swing of all of that, things will start to get easier fairly soon. Also, just an FYI, my first had a pretty significant milk intolerance so this also contributed to his discomfort and irritability, until we figured it out.

Please take care, and try not to worry too much about everything...but I will be the first to say easier said than done on that one!!

Deni
 
DD loved to be swaddled and she also LOVED her bouncy seat. It was the kind that vibrated and had little fish that danced and played soothing music. It was her favorite!

I have to honestly say though that I think the transition to daycare is harder on the Mom than it is on the baby. I was a basket case, but she did great!

Katie
 
My daughter was the same way, we actually laid her on our chests so she would sleep all night! Now she is 4 and won't even snuggle with me unless she is sick. :-( So I agree with the other girls and say "Enjoy every second!" It seems as though it will never end but you'll be suprised how much you miss it when it does. :)

There is another great benefit from carrying your baby all the time--you get a great workout for your arms! Just be sure to switch arms. ;-D
 
Oh...I forgot to mention the vacuum...I swear as soon as we would run the vacuum near him he would IMMEDIATELY be quiet...it was crazy. They have CD's that have alot of that white noise stuff on them. I had a friend that discovered that the only place she could put her daughter down without having her cry was in the bathroom with the fan on. That's where she napped for the first few months of her life...heehee. Oh...and I've heard great success stories about calming babies by placing them on the dryer while it's running...of course this would require supervision :D .
 
Babies are very smart as well as resilient. He is communicating what he wants to you and you are giving it to him. It may or may not continue.

My daughter trained me also :) She always wanted to be held. It did get a little rough when there were things that I needed to do and couldn't do it while holding the baby. She also had perpetual colic, until she was almost 9 months old. It was rough!

It sounds like you are really concerned about this and I understand why you would be. I think the carrier and swing ideas are great! Also, I wonder if there is a website that could offer some recommendations!
 
Susan, OMG look at that little smoochable boy!! Too cute! I just love other people's babies....

Sparrow


Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
>Oh...I forgot to mention the vacuum...I swear as soon as we
>would run the vacuum near him he would IMMEDIATELY be
>quiet...it was crazy.

Oh yeah! I forgot about that. You know what else worked the treadmill. Boy, those were the days! I could run and run on that thing, but as soon as I turned it off my babies would wake up. lol Made for nice, long run! However, I do remember no work getting done, but was much more relaxed.

He's a little doll!

Dallas
 
I had this problem with one of my daughters. Always crying and always wanting to be held. At three months, we switched her to a soy formula and she was a different child, almost immediately.

I would still give anything to have those days back....crying and all. She's 20 now.
 
Oh......bring him here and I'll swaddle and smooch him for a minute while you switch the laundry!!!! Now I see why you *can't* put him down...he's too darn cute!

Swaddling with baby blankets...use 2 thin blankets. Lay one down and lay the cutie petutie down so that his head is up by the corner. Take a corner by the arm and wrap snug across and around his cute little body. Then, grab the bottom corner and bring it up to his cute little chest (so the burrito filling don't fall out.) Then grab other arm corner and wrap around. Take the second blanket and wrap it around him length wise to keep everything snug as a bug.

Once it's time to change his diaper...good luck finding it! Whole other post!;-)

Babies really do like the tightness because it reminds them of the womb...as does the swings and bouncy seats...after all, that is how they travelled for 9 months! Swinging and bouncing inside ya! The white noise reminds them of how they heard things in the womb...like they were hearing it under water...which they were.

It's a big transition for them and I'd be upset too! He needs you for comfort because he knows you the best...take pleasure in such a wonderful honor and make DH do the laundry!
 
What an adorable baby! Sarah says it perfectly! I used to swaddle my daughter like a burrito too and it worked wonders. Plus I did hold her alot and use a swing. When she was 8 or 9 ish years old, she would ask me "wrap me like a burrito, mommy" with her bedding when I tucked her in. We did her and her favorite stuffed animal! And come to think of it, now that she is just about 16 years old now, she is still the most affectionate kid we have at home. I have 2 other kids (step) that I have raised since they were 2 and 5 (they are now going to be 14 and 17 years old!) Anyhoo, I guess my point is that this is a critical period for a baby and I feel that holding them and swaddling them at this age is very important for them and fulfilling for the mom too! Good Luck to you and your precious gem!

Thomasina

ETA: fix my darn spelling, sheesh!
 
oh he is so cute!!! he's too young to be spoiled, that's for sure. i used a sling/baby carrier with both of my kids. my sophia was much more "high maintenance" than mark was, and she loved the sling. left my hands free to get stuff done, but she was still snug as a bug and content.
 
Awwwww, SCM. How lucky you are! There is nothing more precious in this world then cuddling a newborn...and yes, a two month old baby is still a newborn!

Take my advice...spend your time holding that baby and forget about the housework or the dinner or whatever else is waiting to be done. When DH get's home you show him how to run the washer and dryer. The newborn period goes so quickly, do try to relax and enjoy this special time with your son. YOU WILL NOT SPOIL HIM. I know, you probably have family/friends who are telling you to stop holding him so much or to let him cry it out...that's all crap and don't you listen to them.

One suggestion I do have for you is do you have a baby sling? I used one with all four of my kids and they are wonderful. I bf my kids so it was very handy to have them in the sling when nursing...and then when I wanted to stand up to do something they were snug asleep in the sling and were never disturbed by my movements.

Another gadget my kids liked when they were a little older was to sit in a vibrating baby seat while I was in the kitchen cooking. I never used the swings...I preferred to hold my babies and rock them then put them in a swing and let the machine do the job for me.

Your son will become less needy as he matures and you'll be wishing to have these days back when all he wanted was for his momma to hold him and talk to him. Don't rush the process, believe me, it's over all too quickly. Hold him and enjoy him and let all the other work around the house go. You'll have plenty of time for household chores later when he's crawling and doesn't want to be held anymore!
 
Okay, my DD is now 5 and I can't say I'd like those days back. (Ducking to avoid a binky pegged at my head!:) ) They were tough! I'd have to drive around the neighborhood to get her to sleep at night. And I had an 18-mo old, too, who was thankfully an angel.

Another device I used (besides the swing and the bouncy seat) was the johnny jump up seat (hangs from a doorway). You'll have to wait until he's old enough, but babies love it! DD would bounce like crazy! Luckily we had a double doorway to accomodate her wild ways.

Now she's a little girl who knows what she wants, can be stubborn one minute and have us rolling on the floor the next. Her vibrant personality is worth all of those zombie days and sleepless nights.
 
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