Guys dig chicks with scars?

ellesan

ellesan

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So I was watching Letterman the other night (don't know if it was a repeat) and the beautiful Padma Lakshmi was on from Top Chef. She was in a car accident when she was 14 (I think?) and she has a huge scar on her right arm. She says she's proud of it and likes to show it off, that it's part of who she is... Got me thinking since I have a new and very obvious scar that I've been trying to hide/cover up.

Last night I was at work and my (guy) co-worker said, "I think it's cool, guys dig chicks with scars." Well that just made me smile. Even though it's only been 4 weeks since my surgery I'm starting to make peace with my scar and maybe I'll think it's cool too.

Do you have a visable/obvious scar? How do you feel about it?
 
Sandra,

I have about a 2 inch scar on my forehead from having a area of skin cancer removed. It does seem more obvious now but nothing terrible. I wear my bangs down so that does cover it for the most part. I would love to have people ask though to give me the opportunity to share about the risks of the sun!! :D

Also have a small scar right about my lip in the center , bit by adog when I was a child. Only ever had one person ask about it though. Eventually they just become part of you & you don't even notice them any more!
 
I have a scar from the middle of my neck all the way across behind one ear , from a fairly radical thyroid cancer surgery , and several small ones (also on my neck). At first I tried to hide it all the time. When it was very new and still red and very obvious I got a lot of looks and people staring. One lady in Walmart actually walked up to me and asked if I was attacked by a vampire !!!!!!!!!!!! I kid you not ! She didn't laugh or smile either, so I think she was serious !:eek: I can't even remember if I answered her I was so stunned !
At first it really bothered me, (stares & comments) but then I started thinking that what does it matter ??? Who cares about a scar ?? I'm alive and it's nothing really, just a mark . I don't even remember it's there anymore . It's faded and yes, you can still see it and occasionally I see someone staring but it doesn't bother me a bit anymore. I just don't think about it.
If guys really dig chicks with scars I better watch out !!! ;):p:D

Becky
 
I have a big circular scar on my right leg from when I burned my leg on a motorcycle exhaust pipe :( I hate it, but it's funny because guys who ride motorcycles recognize it right away, lol!
 
I have two scars on my left ankle - I broke it and had to have surgery to repair it. It's an interesting "accessory" when I wear high heels which seem to draw attention to it. However, I like my scars and its an interesting converstation starter so I've never bothered to try to hide it.

Lisa
 
on my face. when i was 2 my sister dumped my out of my carriage (she was so jealous) and the muscles around my lower lip were split (or something like that). when i was a teenager my father wanted me to get plastic surgery, but my pediatrician told my mother they were nuts. i'm so glad it's never been touched, it's just part of me and i can't imagine being without it now. the strange thing is that i have very vague but accurate memories of this event and a surgery i had at 6 yrs. i guess some traumas never leave you.
 
Sandra - I have a scar running across the top of my right wrist from a surgery years ago. I was a teenager when I had it done and I was SO self conscious of that scar. People always teased me about having a failed suicide attempt (which I did not find humorous at all). It's still there, but has finally faded out. Doesn't even bother me anymore. I have actually met a number of people who have noticed it and told me they had the same operation done (ganglion cyst). So at least it's a conversation piece. ;)
 
I've got a 2 1/2" scar on the front of my right shoulder from my rotator cuff surgery. It has faded somewhat but people still notice and ask about it. When I tell them it was the result of a sparring match at karate, they back off;)

It bothered me at first especially when wearing sleeveless tops but now I don't really think about it.
 
I have a scar right across the bridge of my nose where glasses would sit.

When I was 3 years old, I fell, hitting the bridge of my nose on the metal edge of a table and split it open. It required many sutures and was a pretty nasty looking scar for a while. I've had it my entire life, so I don't even notice it. It has faded to almost invisible over the years, but when I think about looking for it, it's still there!
 
I have a scar on my upper back from a cyst removal - which when I got it fully taken out the second time I thought it would give me a small neater scar - but alas - a nice bigger one...

I just tell people it was from a stab wound... lol... gets their attention...
 
I have a map of little white scars all across the knuckles of my left hand from where it got busted up in a car crash. The scars aren't as bad as the lumpiness under the skin (internal scar tissue), the skin redness (which comes and goes, but you never know when it's going to hit), and the wave of fine lines from where the skin was all stretched out from swelling that took a year to go down.

All those years I was fat the one thing I had going for me was beautiful hands. People couldn't believe such long slender fingers belonged to such a fat girl. And now the finger joints are big from years of factory labor... I have to remind myself all the time that there are women who've had their faces horribly disfigured so a mildly jacked-up hand is nothing to whine about. What's more, I should have died in that accident but wound up with only some severed ligaments. Blessed.

As an aside, I remember reading some magazine editorial, a round-up of men's opinions on this topic. One guy talked about the special appeal of a C-section scar on a woman. He said he thought C-sec scars were beautiful and reminded him of the strength of women, saying a C-section scar is like a statement "I've been through something important." So if any of you are stressing about that, know there are men who find your war-wound sexy. Nice, huh?
 
Thanks for sharing your story...

I've really enjoyed reading your experiences! You are all amazing women. I also had a thyroidectomy, my scar is not huge (less than 2 inches) but it's in a very obvious place in the center of my neck and still new (red).

My husband, of course, tells me all kinds of nice things and is great about the whole thing. He's reserved though and just tells me that next year I won't even know that it's there.

That same co-worker also said that he thought a scar on a woman told a story of her strength, that she'd also been through something and come out stronger. I like that.

Now I think I need to come up with a cool story...thyroidectomy just sounds so boring. :p Thoughts? ;)
 
Sandra, I started out with an ordinary thyroidectomy and at the time my kids said I should say someone tried to strangle me, or I had my neck slashed !:eek::(
I never used that, so I can't tell you how that worked for me.;)
A few years later I had a modified radical neck dissection , and THAT was the big one !

How are you feeling ? I hope you heal quickly and are healthy now .

Take care,
Becky
 
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I read something once that said [paraphrasing] : "Scars are proof that you didn't spend your life sitting on the couch."

I have two that are visible. One below my knee from ACL reconstruction due to a skiing injury. The other is a crescent shape above my right eye. I was siting in a rifle and when it kicked back the scope hit me in the forehead.

I like 'em both, and don't try hiding them. :)
 
Sandra I needed this thread today. I loved the title of guys thinking scars on gals are sexy and I feel re-inspired reading what others have had to endure and that our scars are badges of courage and endurance.
I'm 4 weeks post rotator cuff surgery and the PT took the steri strips off this morning. I could really see the scar for the first time. I was bummed even though I knew it was there.
My only other major scar is the emergency C section but with out it my 12 year old DS and I wouldn't be alive today.
Thanks for reminding me to be grateful for what I have ...and I have to give Cathe another thanks... the PT (which I begged to see 2 weeks earlier than the ortho wanted... ) says I'm way ahead in my healing time.
I wish everyone here a prayer for healing if you need one. :) Colleen
 
I have a rather long scar from the top of my scalp to under my ear on my head. No one sees it much now because I wear my hair long, but for years I wore super short hair and got many comments about it. I fell off my bicycle at age 6 and had a bone removed from the side of my head to relieve a blood clot. I LOVE to use the scar to remind children (and adults) how important it is to wear their helmets!!!!! Showing children the scar usually gets their attention ;)
 
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Becky, wow, what does your radical neck scar look like now? I am doing great, thanks! Something happened to my right vocal cord during surgery or intubation and I have a very weak/hoarse voice going on one month now. SO annoying. I hope it gets better soon. Otherwise I feel better now that my toxic thyroid is out!

Gayle, that's so cool that you wear your scars proudly.

Colleen, aww, I'm glad this thread made you smile. :D I hope you recover quickly!

Mary, I work at a children's hospital in intensive care and DAILY see kids come in that have to have emergency surgery and bolts in their skull for brain injuries because they were riding bikes, skateboards, etc. without helmets. Drives me crazy, most of the injuries--the worst injuries--are so preventable!! YES, everyone needs to wear helmets!! My son knows that no helmet = no riding and his toys will all be taken away. I even sent out a neighborhood email last year because I see so many kids in my 'hood not wearing helmets. They don't think it will happen to them...
 
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