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[Braille]

you are right I do not intend to drag you in this drama.
My message was addressed to @Lady Vol Fan
in response to this below:

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I do not see anything wrong with that message. Taken at face value, I agree with it.

You don't have to respond to what I'm going to say, but it comes from a place of genuine concern. My dad has PTSD, my mom and my son... they are both bi-polar. I love them ALL dearly, but there are times when their view of the world is very negative, because their mental illnesses make things challenging. Also, I know from personal experience (survivor of emotional/mental, physical, and another kind of abuse that I'm not yet strong enough to talk about) that our past or what we're currently going through can skew our world. We have fight or flight (or in some cases "freeze") instincts that kick in whether something is real or perceived. We all have an instinct for self-preservation. For some reason, that instinct seems to be on high alert right now. That's not necessarily a bad thing. It just IS - it's your body/mind's reaction to something that's going on in your life. I can't speak for those you've interacted with, but I will speak ABOUT them. They've said nothing wrong. I think you're using this site to escape something that needs dealt with in your own life. You're angry, and our choices aren't good when we're angry or scared or overemotional. It looks to me (as an outsider looking in) that you are overwhelmed and overreacting and lashing out. That is NOT meant to be an insult - I had friends that had to tell me that myself when I was recovering from something really bad. I have no way of helping you, but I just thought maybe an outside opinion would be helpful if you're receptive to it. (I was not strong enough to be receptive when I was making choices out of fear). Can you take a 24 hour break from the forum? Take a bubble bath, a hike in the woods, a yoga session, and some time to think. Let your fight or flight response deflate. I think it's controlling you right now... and take it from me... you don't want that. You are seeing these women as your enemies, but they are really great ladies. I'm sure that you are a good person too... you've cared enough about a total stranger (me), to send me links and respond to a concern that I had. Your reaction and responses on this forum have changed over the last few days though, and I can't help wondering if something is bothering you, and it's causing you to lash out? I know I'm sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong, but I want to help if I can. So many (including you) have helped me. I don't always like the answers I receive, but they are generally what I need to hear and what's best for me, even when I don't want to hear it. I'm trying to do the same for you.

 

[Kellyro77]

Is it possible there's a bit of a communication break down from language and cultural barriers?

ie: Not everyone here is from the U.S., and English isn't everyone's first language.

 

[FitSaxe]

Is it possible there's a bit of a communication break down from language and cultural barriers?

ie: Not everyone here is from the U.S., and English isn't everyone's first language.

I do not think there is a cultural issue. I am opened to be proven wrong if there any issue.
May be there is an ego issue!

As to the language, any misunderstanding can be addressed to avoid drama.

As i stated before everyone here is entitled to interact, share opinion and knowledge.
When necessary, We shall all agree to disagree.

Hope all this is clear.

 

[FitSaxe]

Repeatedly using angry reactions to member posts is ALSO a form of harassment and intimidation

Have you got fact for making such statement above. Repeatedly!!! When? and for what? I have sent a message once to user debinmin and aqua. so repeatedly sound an exaggeration to me!

 

[Braille]

Have you got fact for making such statement above. Repeatedly!!! When? and for what? I have sent a message once to user debinmin and aqua. so repeatedly sound an exaggeration to me!

FitSaxe, I'm not great with technology, but I believe Lady Vol Fan is referring to the emojis that one can put at the bottom of another's comment (the happy, sad, angry, etc. faces). And Kellyro isn't trying to cause conflict... she was trying to be helpful by looking for a reason that you're misunderstanding people's comments. Nobody has to prove anybody wrong, and I haven't seen any comments that indicate that anybody that's been commenting on your posts have an ego position. Please tell us what's wrong - maybe somebody can help. I don't know if you realize it, but you're making things worse. Nobody is trying to hurt you, so it's very confusing as to why you're so upset. This is normally a friendly forum, and the comments I've read from you seem one-sided in being not friendly. Is there anything we can do to help you feel better? You're going to hurt someone's feelings if you continue, and there's no need for that. This is a safe place for many of us, so I'm sorry you're not feeling that, but I really think you're misunderstanding something, and if we could clear that up... there would be peace on this site, which would benefit everybody, which includes you. You are hurting yourself by lashing out at others. I don't want to see anybody hurting. Is there anything we can do that would help you to understand that people on here do not mean you any harm? They just want peace, as I'm sure you do as well.

 

[FitSaxe]

FitSaxe, I'm not great with technology, but I believe Lady Vol Fan is referring to the emojis that one can put at the bottom of another's comment (the happy, sad, angry, etc. faces). And Kellyro isn't trying to cause conflict... she was trying to be helpful by looking for a reason that you're misunderstanding people's comments. Nobody has to prove anybody wrong, and I haven't seen any comments that indicate that anybody that's been commenting on your posts have an ego position. Please tell us what's wrong - maybe somebody can help. I don't know if you realize it, but you're making things worse. Nobody is trying to hurt you, so it's very confusing as to why you're so upset. This is normally a friendly forum, and the comments I've read from you seem one-sided in being not friendly. Is there anything we can do to help you feel better? You're going to hurt someone's feelings if you continue, and there's no need for that. This is a safe place for many of us, so I'm sorry you're not feeling that, but I really think you're misunderstanding something, and if we could clear that up... there would be peace on this site, which would benefit everybody, which includes you. You are hurting yourself by lashing out at others. I don't want to see anybody hurting. Is there anything we can do that would help you to understand that people on here do not mean you any harm? They just want peace, as I'm sure you do as well.

ok this below here in bleu is what I would qualify as being out of order! Why would someone state willing to read review coming from me bloc me. I am struggling to make sense in such attitude. That is all I have to say.
I did not send any more message. In fact I have not got any intention whatsoever to send her any message. Please do not make things up! Since she is into transparency, let show my bullying messages!!!! We know who is the real bully!

 

[Braille]

ok this below here in bleu is what I would qualify as being out of order! Why would someone state willing to read review coming from me bloc me. I am struggling to make sense in such attitude. That is all I have to say.
I did not send any more message. In fact I have not got any intention whatsoever to send her any message. Please do not make things up! Since she is into transparency, let show my bullying messages!!!! We know who is the real bully!

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But there's no bullying in those messages. Both ladies are making choices that work for them. One... to leave the site (which I hope she doesn't do) and the other to "ignore", which is a valid choice if she's feeling uncomfortable. You should also do what feels comfortable for you to keep your peace. If you choose to avoid something by blocking or "ignoring" it is because it's good for YOU, right? It's not intended to hurt others. These ladies making choices that are best for them is not an attack on you - it's not bullying. Have you thought about what you yourself need to be happier on this site? Stop worrying about others - you're reading too much into it. Figure out what YOU need. That's all they are doing... they are figuring out what THEY need. You're a Cathlete, so you know that fitness is not the only thing we need to worry about to stay healthy. We need to take care of other aspects of our health too - including mental health. When people decide to "ignore" or block... that's what they are doing - they are maintaining a calm, peaceful life. It's not an assault on others. It is their strength showing - their ability to set and maintain boundaries. It's a good thing. You need to find what will make you feel calm and at peace too. We all deserve to be in control of our own happiness, don't you think? You're not happy right now, but only you have the power to fix that. If you have time today, try doing something for yourself that makes you feel good - for me... that's a bubblebath and a piece of dark chocolate (okay, I'll be honest... maybe a glass of red wine is involved too lol). Do something for yourself that helps you feel good about yourself. When we take care of ourselves, we're happier and we can see things in a more positive light.

 

[FitSaxe]

But there's no bullying in those messages. Both ladies are making choices that work for them. One... to leave the site (which I hope she doesn't do) and the other to "ignore", which is a valid choice if she's feeling uncomfortable. You should also do what feels comfortable for you to keep your peace. If you choose to avoid something by blocking or "ignoring" it is because it's good for YOU, right? It's not intended to hurt others. These ladies making choices that are best for them is not an attack on you - it's not bullying. Have you thought about what you yourself need to be happier on this site? Stop worrying about others - you're reading too much into it. Figure out what YOU need. That's all they are doing... they are figuring out what THEY need. You're a Cathlete, so you know that fitness is not the only thing we need to worry about to stay healthy. We need to take care of other aspects of our health too - including mental health. When people decide to "ignore" or block... that's what they are doing - they are maintaining a calm, peaceful life. It's not an assault on others. It is their strength showing - their ability to set and maintain boundaries. It's a good thing. You need to find what will make you feel calm and at peace too. We all deserve to be in control of our own happiness, don't you think? You're not happy right now, but only you have the power to fix that. If you have time today, try doing something for yourself that makes you feel good - for me... that's a bubblebath and a piece of dark chocolate (okay, I'll be honest... maybe a glass of red wine is involved too lol). Do something for yourself that helps you feel good about yourself. When we take care of ourselves, we're happier and we can see things in a more positive light.

@Braille Thank you. trying to help and understand is a kind approach. I am grateful. They can block me, they have done it in the past. i have blocked some user because of bullying in the past. Some here know what I am talking about and some have sent me private messages because they did not have the courage to face them openly. I am talking facts.
One user, a regular user i blocked because bullying in the past, is still around and I am fine with that. she has not created any more drama and I am happy with that.
I will take time to decide whether to block or not. i won't let the bullying dictate what type of training I should support, who instructor i should support etc.....I disappeared for a while and I won't go anywhere. I will carry on interacting with anyone willing in a respectful manner.

Oh, yes I am very much into chocolate....But it has to be the best, our Belgian chocolate which contain at least 70% of pure cocoa butter .Yes a glass of pure neighbours wine.... France is also what I enjoy