do all men cheat? warning, kind of explicit

>Never see this jerk again, he is just trying to manipulate
>you. And no, not all men cheat. My husband never has and
>never will. He's just not interested in other women, he never
>even looks at them. Someone who really loved you would never
>present this scenario to you. You are worth way more than
>this and no, you should never feel pressured to do womething
>you are not comfortable doing. What an asshole.
>
>Clare

Awesome post!! I could have written this myself! http://www.chittielounge.com/forum/images/smilies/041.gif
 
I've been thinking about this the whole time I was doing P90x Plyo this morning, and I have to say I'm confused by the emphasis our culture puts on sex. It's like a wild sex life is the greatest achievment one can have in life, or something. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to say that I have no hang-ups in that particular area, I just don't understand the mentality of "I love you so much that I want to spend the rest of my life with you. What? You don't want me to have sex with total strangers? Well, it's so long goodbye, then." I guess for some sex with the multitudes trumps love? I just don't get it.

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
I was married to a cheater who tried to convince me that all men cheat, I am glad I had to courage to walk away, because now I found a man that loves me and respects me, and he is not into cheating. In fact very soon after we met, he told me that he wanted me to not see anyone else and that he would do the same. We have been together a little more than 3 years.

Do yourseld a favor, have the courage to let this Loser go and give yourself a chance to fing a man that respects and loves you.

Men that cheat have a serious insecurity problem, it is an addiction and they will not change unless he goes to years of therapy!
 
I haven't read anyone else's responses, but I have to say that your guy is absolutely NOT the norm. In fact, I don't think I've ever heard of this situation before and believe me, I've heard of and experienced LOTS! What a selfish pig. Dump him and be glad you did.

No, all men do NOT cheat. Find someone who is willing to treat you with the respect you deserve, not some idiot who just wants you around to keep his bed warm while he sows his wild oats all over town. Why on earth would he think that you would even be interested in that kind of relationship?

*shakes head in wonderment*
 
I don't want to sound judgemental either, but reading about this guy just made my stomach turn. My ex boyfriend was weird like that (always suggesting weird things in the bedroom) and he also cheated on me and I found out when I least expected. I dumped the a**h*le and I've never been happier. Not all guys are like that (I have friends that are in happy and committed relationships), but good guys are hard to find. Don't give up and I also think you should change phone numbers and locks. I can't imagine getting married with someone like that and I would NEVER have children with a sicko like that either. I remember thinking that I would never have children with my ex because I would always be afraid that something might happen to them. When your intuition tells you things like that you should never ignore them. Take care.
 
I agree kick Mr. Asshole to the curb. You deserve so much better. He is not worth your time or energy. There are good guys out there he is just not one of them. I'm sorry for your heartache.

Jenn
 
Amy,

God bless you for having the strength and courage of your convictions to do the right thing! No, not all men cheat!! I have in the past, tried to be convinced that they do by similiar type men as your ex. They are selfish and immature, and they are just trying to justify their motives. If they "need" to sleep around then they should just do it, but don't be selfish and want to hold on to a relationship with a warm, loving, wonderful partner.

He's playing head games...good you got out. I guarantee...YOU will be much happier and will be available now to find someone who truly loves and respects you and won't even want anyone else.

I, as many here on the forum, have been in your shoes. You did the right thing!!:) There is a much happier life awaiting you!!
 
Eh, no...while lots of guys cheat, I do not think *all* guys cheat. It seems your guy wants the security and benefits of a relatioship without any of the commitments. I wouldn't put up with it, not for one second. I lived with a guy for 4 years and found out he had been cheating on me the whole time (3 different women). I dumped him the next day and gave him 30 days to find a new place to live (I had some compassion, even though many told me he didn't deserve it). Then he was gone and that was that. Good riddance!!! I've never looked back since and am now with a wonderful man who I truly believe does not and will not cheat on me. YOU DESERVE BETTER - KICK THIS SOB TO THE CURB, SISTER!

Dianna

http://www.picturetrail.com/Luv2WorkHard
 
He sounds like a loser. All men do not cheat. If he understand how you feel about being monogamous and your uncomfort with some sexual activity, then why is does he want to stay with you? He sounds controlling. You dont need that. Take control of your life. There is a mature man in your future that shares your values. Dont miss out on him by sticking to this loser.


Carmen
 
Hi Amy,
You have been given some wonderful advice "Dump this loser a$$hole!! Not all men cheat. I'll be married 2o years this Wednesday to a terrific man who would never cheat nor I on him! We tell each other we love each other everyday and mean it!!! There are some great men out there and I'm sure when you least expect it, he'll be knocking on your door!! Have faith in yourself, Trust your feelings, no one who loves you would try to make you do something you are uncomfortable about! Good Luck and know this whole board is behind you!
Jen
 
Not all men cheat.

Dump him! Dump him! Dump him!! Don't look back. Stay far away from this loser. You can do much better.
 
What a load of crap!! There are many men out there who are perfectly capable (and willing) to be in a monogamous relationship.
Since he wants to have these other women on the side, here's an idea. Tell him that you are willing to stay with him under the circumstances, but only if you can have sex with other men! As many as you want!! I'll bet he won't be too thrilled about that idea.

Or.... just dump the jerk and find someone who actually respects you.

cristina
 
I thought my husband was one of the good guys, but he cheated and is cheating so we are now separated. We were to have our 20th anniversary in October. I never would have believed in a million years that he would cheat but he did. Either I have lousy judgement or a lot more of them cheat than you think.
 
No judgement everything is fine in a adult relationship IF BOTH adults are in to it but if both adults are not then something is wrong and you need to move on. If he is so CONTROLLED by his sexual needs you don't want to give in to doing something you feel uncomfortable with because there will ALWAYS been something NEW he "needs."

Move on and good riddance to this freak. Okay I have seen that R. Kelly video and while I a very open and progressive that is just Not Okay.


KIM :eek:
 
Had this problem with a dog. We neutered him.

You should send him packing. In this day and age penicillin doesn't cure everything. Your life is more valuable than his companionship.

dave
 
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