Yet Another "People and Their Comments" Thread

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Sparrow,

New to the boards, but wanted to jump in to say I sympathize. I've lost over 20 pounds this last year, and now people are really beginning to notice. While I love getting the compliments and the acknowledgement that my hard work is paying off, I hate it when people start to (unconsciously, I think) try to sabotage me. It's like the more I lose, the more people are trying to push their pizza, candy, etc. on me. And the same thing, they give me all their excuses about their diet and health. Not to sound cold, but I don't really care about what they choose to do. Just because I'm losing weight, why am I suddenly the person who gets everyone else's confessions about what they ate that day? I am doing what I need to do for me; it is my personal choice and I don't believe in pushing people to change or trying to make anyone change just because I am. People will only make healthy choices and exercise when they want to do it for themselves.
 
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I got a good laugh outa this sparrow!

I have quit sharing my knowledge about fitness and exercise with people in situations like this....I usually just nod and smile, nod and smile:)

Michelle
 
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Sparrow-
Once again you have me ROFLMAO! Your rendition of lifes occurances should be in a book!
I am amazed at how we humans rationalize our actions and actually don't feel like a dweeb when these things come out of our mouth... "Worried about getting to big yet 50#s overweight".:7
 
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YUP YUP YUP....Hear this stuff all the time..LOL! I used to get a bit miffed when people would make comments like that to me, but now I just laugh and carry on..LOL!

I really think that the stronger I felt about my food choices and the stronger I tried to push the whole "exercise daily, lift weights" conversations...the more people just tuned me out or just got annoyed with me.
Now I just talk about my new Kick butt Cathe workouts and how much fun they are and how much I enjoy them, that seems to create more stimulating conversation and interest.
Also...Now when people ask me my opinion on workouts (ones that I think are not very intense, or ones that I think just plain suck) I tell them that they have to find the best workouts for them, because everyone's body is different and responds differently to certain workouts...people always smile because they are reaching for a good feeling place about working out, and they are looking for positive reinforcement. I no longer get the eyes rolling and bored dead stares when I talk about working out, now people actually ask me questions.

This year I have went through some issues physically and I was not able to workout like I once did, thus I had to find ways to change things up and work it out. In the experience of all of this I learned a lot and I have more understanding for the mere mortal..LOL! Not everyone is from Planet Cathe like all of us..LOL!!


:7 :7
 
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I know what you are saying. I feel like I live on another planet or something whenever I mention anything about eating right or working out. Like I speak another language that no one is getting.

Charlotte~~
 
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It takes alot of motivation, self-control, etc to get into a lifestyle of healthy eating and exercise. I'm not surprised that most folks can do nothing more than stare blankly when the topic comes up. They have no idea.

I would go on and off "diets" and exercise programs for YEARS before something finally CLICKED. Once it did, everything changed for me. :)
 
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What I find really interesting is that when people see how I eat (rather, DONT EAT CERTAIN FOODS) they always say something like... "Well life is just too short to deprive yourself..." I dont feel like I'm deprived at all. I LOVE eating clean and I LOVE not giving in to the gotta have dessert w/ every meal philosophy. Why do so many ASSUME thats its a "hardship" to workout & eat well?? I eat ALOT of food but its the best fuel for my body.
 
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25 years ago I started lifting weights. One of my sisters noticed my size was reducing and I was looking really good. She complimented me and asked what I was doing. I told her I had begun adding weights to my cardio. She said, Oh, that is great, but when you stop, it all turns to fat.

I looked at her and said"Then don't stop". 25 years later, I have not, and unfortunately, she is larger and softer than she was then<well so am I, but not a lot>.
 
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here is one for you. my DH the chef made a nice scallop and shrimp scampie(with pasta,cream the whole nine)he gets a smaller bowl and serves me some so i don't wind up over eating but my eyes see i ate a whole bowl. ONE bowl i was done, and just went for teh veggies from there. well i made the mistake in from of MIL to say "wow i am stuff, that was very satisfiying"(and i eat slow to savor the food how DH prefers it b/c he does take the time to get the flavors just right). meanwhile my MIL is INHALING(to the point where it looks like garfiled but much more disgusting!!!i mean more got on her shirt then her mouth and i am not stretching that one DH can tell you.) her second bowl, looks up and says "thats why i SOMETIMES like being FAT, i can hold more food!!!".

WTF!!!! you just got diagnosed with high blood pressure, your back problems are a rising AGAIN b/c of the weight gain, and you can't walk 15 ft without soudning like you are about ot have a heart attack. and with the family history of heart diesease and diabetes i was just floored. i didn't want to over eat b/c of weight gain, some of the ingredients DH uses are high fat and i wanted to keep those things in check b/c of MY family's history(of the same disease oddly enough). i better start picking up more knowledge about juvienile diabetes b/c DH and I are going to have to take care of his little 10 year brother b/c this woman is going to die of heart disease before she is 50 b/c of eating habits, drinking,smoking, and lack of activity.

those are the kind of comment, as well as the one sparrow pointed out about being "good" or "bad", that really get me.

sorry to hijack the thread sparrow but this post reminded me this most recent event at the in-laws ,ALWAYS something.holdiays are even more of a trip, i should film it LOL

kassia

http://www.picturetrail.com/ldy_solana

"And do what thee wilt as long as ye harm none"
 
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Thanks for all the support ladies! I know we all have been through these conversations. They really do seem inevitable. Makes me sad to a certain degree, to see so many generally decent women caught in this cycle of overeating/no exercise/weight gain/complaining about it. :(

Kassia - now worries about hijacking!! Your story reminds me of this summer when, in a fit of socialbility, I went to bingo at the casino with my aunt and cousin. Both of them are severly overweight, my aunt also has breast cancer. I hiked from one end of Foxwoods and back looking for something relatively healthy to eat, and finally found a fruit/nut kiosk. Back in the bingo hall my aunt and cousin sucked down fried chicken and gave me the worst time for my food choices. I really had to hold my tongue out of respect for my aunt. And to top it off, I didn't win a dime x(

For the record, I like carrot cake. :D


My garden is filled with papayas and mangos
My life is a mixture of reggaes and tangos
Taste for the good life, I can live it no other way
- Jimmy Buffett
 
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>What I find really interesting is that when people see how I
>eat (rather, DONT EAT CERTAIN FOODS) they always say something
>like... "Well life is just too short to deprive yourself..." I
>dont feel like I'm deprived at all. I LOVE eating clean and I
>LOVE not giving in to the gotta have dessert w/ every meal
>philosophy. Why do so many ASSUME thats its a "hardship" to
>workout & eat well?? I eat ALOT of food but its the best fuel
>for my body.

Ditto. Very well said, Traci. I couldn't agree more.
 
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"Well life is just too short to deprive yourself..."
Dumb food choices that add to their girth make their lives even shorter, but they don't get that, or they don't want to admit it.
 
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>What I find really interesting is that when people see how I
>eat (rather, DONT EAT CERTAIN FOODS) they always say something
>like... "Well life is just too short to deprive yourself..." I
>dont feel like I'm deprived at all. I LOVE eating clean and I
>LOVE not giving in to the gotta have dessert w/ every meal
>philosophy. Why do so many ASSUME thats its a "hardship" to
>workout & eat well?? I eat ALOT of food but its the best fuel
>for my body.


This is SO TRUE!
If the masses would just give healthy food a try. It tastes better, you feel satisfied after eating it, and let's face it....it's so much prettier to look at!
My grocery basket is filled with the most beautiful colors...kiwi, strawberries, broccoli, carrots, pinneapple, blueberries, blackberries...you get the picture.
Oh give me Fage yogurt over ice cream any day!!! Want a warm cookie? Eat a bowl of warm oatmeal with hot raisins and apples!

Deprived???? I feel I'm loving and adoring this perfect machine God created.
I don't want to live longer, I just want to be healthy while I'm here. I don't want to feel crippled by poor food choices. I think an unhealthy lifestyle is DEPRIVATION. They are depriving themselves of all the good they could do or be with a healthy body and mind.
 
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You got sucked in Sparrow. Next time you hear these remarks just shrug and walk away. As Madonna once said "I'm not you b!tch, don't hand your sh!t on me!" ;-) ;-)
 
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I agree = bothersome!!

I started working at a new job last year and one of the ladies I work with is VERY VERY heavy - not just a little overweight but cannot fit into a normal size chair......

Anyways - people in the office always bring in donuts/cake/cookies ect and I usually pass unless its the boss's b/day......but the other gal NEVER passes on anything.....she misses countless days for doc apts and being sick.....and yet she is constantly telling me that the doctors cannot figure out what is wrong with her bc she doesn't have high blood pressure or cholestrol - -

its SUPER frustrating because I cannot believe a person could be in such denial about WHY you are constantly sick - - - its amazing what people don't understand or know about health!!!

Just like women being afraid of weights!!! WTF!!!! Are we that clueless!!! I think it should be in the news more and more and also taught more to our youngest children - - its sad to me how naive people are.......and you do have time!

I hate the excuse about time - wake up 30 mins earlier and go for a WALK! Instead of watching your six favorite tv shows during the week - GO FOR A WALK! Do crunches and leg lifts during commercials - - I always wonder how many hours of tv a week these people watch who claim they have NO TIME!!! (end rant)x( x(
 
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I've never met a one of you guys and I just love you! I'm laughing my bottom off over here!:7 :7

SO MANY food bully stories. And the irony is that we are bulletproof because we're the ones who feel great and look great! I so agree with everyone. But I've totally lost tolerance for that BS and I immediately (smiling, always smiling) and loudly announce the presence of a FOOD BULLY!}( Then I give their physique a quick but not too quick look with a raised eyebrow. Just so sick of the bullying - who needs it? My favorite is, "You're so good - I hate you!" I literally excuse myself from the table and walk off to do something more intersting.

We need to start a counter-revolution! Let's get some t-shirts made:
** "What? Jealous? Try it, you'll like it! Body by Cathe"

Help me come up with other ideas and let's suggest it to Cathe!!:7
 
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Sparrow, the kind of comments you got are some I used to get all the time, being a whole foods veg*n. I've tried to never make a big deal about what I am or am not eating (though I used to feel 'left out' a and bit bad because my choices meant that I wasn't eating what everbody else was...in fact it was just a few years ago that I finally realized there was no need to feel bad, because I didn't WANT to eat what they were eating!), but there have always been people like your 'friends' who make comments.

I've decided that those comments are a way for them to reinforce their behavior as the norm (even though they are phrasing it as a negative type of behavior, after they make the statement, there are probably others who pipe in and say 'yes, I know what you mean, me too" and bla bla bla, which gives them a sense of security by seeing that most others are like them....it's all unconscious, I think).

I think it helps to tolerate this when you see what the dynamic really is, and look at it almost anthropologically! I think sabatoging one's efforts fits into the same paradigm, and it is not just 'jealousy.' Maybe something imprinted in the brains we inherited from our long-ago ancestors (when being 'like everyone else' probably had a high survival value, and being 'different' was riskier...but also probably lead to the creation of the wheel, and other innovations.
 
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