Yet Another "People and Their Comments" Thread

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Two things I want to say: One: The series "I want those" are great!I don't do it as much as I used to, but i still feel those exercises! I have to do the whole thing to fill my 2h workout:D it's is in fact a great way to begin.Also, it might be immature, but whenever that kind of conversation begins, I brag about how "good I am" or whatever they say... I just love to see the look on peoples faces when I say there are no excusses to not be healthy. And I often refer to many of the ladies here who work full time and have kids and all that jazz...(I don't have any kids...makes it easier).
Any ways... I always find inpiration here
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RE: Yet Another

A few years ago I lost 45-50 lbs. and I wish I had a dollar for every time someone said to me "You look so good; how did you do it?" When I would tell them I tried to eat just about half servings (mostly because I was eating 1+ servings before) and I was exercising about 1 hr. almost every day plus walking my dog about 2-3 miles/day, they immediately looked disinterested because it wasn't as easy as a pill or a diet drink or lipo! I think people want a quick fix because they can't stick to a program for a very long time and don't decide to make the permanent changes it takes to be successful. I'm sure they're envious and they react this way to cover up their possible past failures.

;) Doreen
 
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I liked the expression "food bully" so much that I wrote it down. I never thought of it in those terms, but it is perfect.

Dysfunctional people, regardless of the precise nature of their dysfuction, cannot stand to be around people who obviously demonstrate that they are functional.

The very few times, back in the late '80s and early '90's when I wound up at work social functions, booze was the norm. (And I had quit drinking alcohol in July 1987.) The number of people, including those whom I'd told that I strictly abstained from alcohol, who tried to push "JUST ONE DRINK" on me was not to be believed.

When a person refuses a drink among drinkers, she's gonna catch h*ll. When a lean person refuses fattening food among fatsters, she's gonna catch h*ll.

Just the way it is, I guess, and thankfully there are forums around where the leansters can vent.

A-Jock
 
RE: Yet Another

I liked the expression "food bully" so much that I wrote it down. I never thought of it in those terms, but it is perfect.

Dysfunctional people, regardless of the precise nature of their dysfuction, cannot stand to be around people who obviously demonstrate that they are functional.

The very few times, back in the late '80s and early '90's when I wound up at work social functions, booze was the norm. (And I had quit drinking alcohol in July 1987.) The number of people, including those whom I'd told that I strictly abstained from alcohol, who tried to push "JUST ONE DRINK" on me was not to be believed.

When a person refuses a drink among drinkers, she's gonna catch h*ll. When a lean person refuses fattening food among fatsters, she's gonna catch h*ll.

Just the way it is, I guess, and thankfully there are forums around where the leansters can vent.

A-Jock
 
RE: Yet Another

Don't point out what I'm *not* eating and I won't point out that you're eating a cake wedge the size of hiking boot.

I love this! I'm a petite small-framed woman and I always get comments on how I "need" to eat ____________. You can put in there whatever high calorie food you want. I agree that I think that when people see someone living a healthy lifestyle they feel guilty and instead of confronting their own feelings they try to make the 'healthy', 'good' person feel like their not normal.

I used to work for a grocery store and I would get these comments all the time. A co-worker of mine who was very thin(she was actually recovering from an eating disorder) always got these comments. She used to say that one day what she wanted to say when someone told her she needed to eat a big plate of spaghetti, was that they really didn't need to be buying that ice cream!

I think it is completely rude and inappropriate to comment on anyone's weight or food choices, regardless of what they may be.

JMO.
 
RE: Yet Another

Don't point out what I'm *not* eating and I won't point out that you're eating a cake wedge the size of hiking boot.

I love this! I'm a petite small-framed woman and I always get comments on how I "need" to eat ____________. You can put in there whatever high calorie food you want. I agree that I think that when people see someone living a healthy lifestyle they feel guilty and instead of confronting their own feelings they try to make the 'healthy', 'good' person feel like their not normal.

I used to work for a grocery store and I would get these comments all the time. A co-worker of mine who was very thin(she was actually recovering from an eating disorder) always got these comments. She used to say that one day what she wanted to say when someone told her she needed to eat a big plate of spaghetti, was that they really didn't need to be buying that ice cream!

I think it is completely rude and inappropriate to comment on anyone's weight or food choices, regardless of what they may be.

JMO.
 
RE: Yet Another

I can totally relate. Now, I just shut my mouth since nobody seems to understand what I say. I just let them think it's ALL in the genes -- I was born to look good... I didn't work for it at ALL.
 
RE: Yet Another

I can totally relate. Now, I just shut my mouth since nobody seems to understand what I say. I just let them think it's ALL in the genes -- I was born to look good... I didn't work for it at ALL.
 
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I get a lot of grief from overweight friends for always watching what I eat and working out like a fiend. When I started weight watchers a few months ago to take off a few pounds I put on over the last few years, one of my overweight friends said "what do you need weight watchers for, you're so thin?" Well, I felt like telling her that it is because I never let my weight get out of control that I am still thin. I've always thought its easier to take off 5 than 50.

I get really peeved when I hear overweight people complain about how fat that are. Yeah, losing weight is harder than b*tching about it but not nearly has rewarding.

Buffy
 
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I get a lot of grief from overweight friends for always watching what I eat and working out like a fiend. When I started weight watchers a few months ago to take off a few pounds I put on over the last few years, one of my overweight friends said "what do you need weight watchers for, you're so thin?" Well, I felt like telling her that it is because I never let my weight get out of control that I am still thin. I've always thought its easier to take off 5 than 50.

I get really peeved when I hear overweight people complain about how fat that are. Yeah, losing weight is harder than b*tching about it but not nearly has rewarding.

Buffy
 
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Step Queen - YES!!!! I get that too! Why is it that people feel the need to confess? I don't give a rat's derrier what you've had or how you need to exercise more! Just do it if you want to, and don't worry that I'm thinking bad thoughts about your eating habits as that's your choice not mine.
 
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Step Queen - YES!!!! I get that too! Why is it that people feel the need to confess? I don't give a rat's derrier what you've had or how you need to exercise more! Just do it if you want to, and don't worry that I'm thinking bad thoughts about your eating habits as that's your choice not mine.
 
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Sparrow,
Very funny!!:) I just have to say, when people make the comment to me, Oh your so good, it always makes ME feel like they want to make me feel bad. Like I'm in the wrong because everyone else is eating cake, pie, whatever and there must be something wrong with me that I'm not. Even when I'm thinking about the person who made the comment "you should be good and should put the cake down!"
Deanie:)
 
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Sparrow,
Very funny!!:) I just have to say, when people make the comment to me, Oh your so good, it always makes ME feel like they want to make me feel bad. Like I'm in the wrong because everyone else is eating cake, pie, whatever and there must be something wrong with me that I'm not. Even when I'm thinking about the person who made the comment "you should be good and should put the cake down!"
Deanie:)
 
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Charlotte - I want one of those T-shirts!!!

When I lost my almost 50 lbs last year, my IL's used to constantly make comments. It got really frustrating. I have learned to just ignore them. Now when people ask me how I stay so thin I just say "I eat less and move more". And I leave it at that. Once they hear that, they stop listening anyways.

Sparrow - most people want to make excuses why they CAN'T get in shape, not hear about the health benefits of losing weight, eating cleanly and exercising regularly. I'm sorry it got to you that day. I like Katheryn's comment about thinking of it anthropologically. It's an interesting way to look at those comments - almost like watching a Discovery channel special on primates - "Social Dynamics of Fat Humans".

Claude


"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Satchel Paige
 
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Charlotte - I want one of those T-shirts!!!

When I lost my almost 50 lbs last year, my IL's used to constantly make comments. It got really frustrating. I have learned to just ignore them. Now when people ask me how I stay so thin I just say "I eat less and move more". And I leave it at that. Once they hear that, they stop listening anyways.

Sparrow - most people want to make excuses why they CAN'T get in shape, not hear about the health benefits of losing weight, eating cleanly and exercising regularly. I'm sorry it got to you that day. I like Katheryn's comment about thinking of it anthropologically. It's an interesting way to look at those comments - almost like watching a Discovery channel special on primates - "Social Dynamics of Fat Humans".

Claude


"Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Satchel Paige
 
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Sparrow, I understand the need to rant, and I know you were just blowing off steam. I also totally sympathize with your first paragraph. But I just wanted to make one, no two, comments.

"Weight" is such a big deal for women in our culture. I think it is unrealistic to expect most women to avoid judging themselves to some extent, although I agree it is a shame.

I also just wanted to say that your exercise routine and eating habits seem easy to you, because they're second nature now, but it doesn't look so easy from the "outside" looking in. I had a serious weight problem when I was a teenager and it took me many years to learn how to manage my weight for the long term. I had many failed attempts and found that I had to learn so much about nutrition, exercise and, most importantly, my own psychology, and what worked for me. It's really SOOO much more than just going out and buying a workout tape.

In a way, I feel I was lucky to learn at such a young age. There are so many women who never had a weight problem until middle age. I keep meeting women who became heavy as a result of illness, surgery, motherhood, medication (the number of women with autoimmune diseases these days is staggering!) menopause, etc. and my heart goes out to them. It is not easy to change your whole lifestyle, especially when you're not a kid anymore. They suddenly find themselves faced with a problem they've never had before, and it is not an easy problem, especially because "weight" has so many emotional associations.

I absolutely agree that others should not be trying to make you feel guilty because of their problems. But remember: in the end, you're the one who is in good shape and who is happy with yourself, and they're probably pretty unhappy with themselves. In short, I recommend calling on your empathy and saying something kind and caring. Maybe when they feel a bit better, they'll be nicer, and you may find yourself less angry too.

Nancy
 
RE: Yet Another

Sparrow, I understand the need to rant, and I know you were just blowing off steam. I also totally sympathize with your first paragraph. But I just wanted to make one, no two, comments.

"Weight" is such a big deal for women in our culture. I think it is unrealistic to expect most women to avoid judging themselves to some extent, although I agree it is a shame.

I also just wanted to say that your exercise routine and eating habits seem easy to you, because they're second nature now, but it doesn't look so easy from the "outside" looking in. I had a serious weight problem when I was a teenager and it took me many years to learn how to manage my weight for the long term. I had many failed attempts and found that I had to learn so much about nutrition, exercise and, most importantly, my own psychology, and what worked for me. It's really SOOO much more than just going out and buying a workout tape.

In a way, I feel I was lucky to learn at such a young age. There are so many women who never had a weight problem until middle age. I keep meeting women who became heavy as a result of illness, surgery, motherhood, medication (the number of women with autoimmune diseases these days is staggering!) menopause, etc. and my heart goes out to them. It is not easy to change your whole lifestyle, especially when you're not a kid anymore. They suddenly find themselves faced with a problem they've never had before, and it is not an easy problem, especially because "weight" has so many emotional associations.

I absolutely agree that others should not be trying to make you feel guilty because of their problems. But remember: in the end, you're the one who is in good shape and who is happy with yourself, and they're probably pretty unhappy with themselves. In short, I recommend calling on your empathy and saying something kind and caring. Maybe when they feel a bit better, they'll be nicer, and you may find yourself less angry too.

Nancy
 
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