When did opinions start to equal...

kirsten777 said:
And really, it's not just here or online in general - the lack of consideration for others is astounding - so many people just don't seem to give a rip about anyone else - we are definitely firmly ensconced in the "Me" decade.
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I hear you there ! Our world has changed so much in the last 1/2 century (my memories only) and it is hard for me many times to understand why people do what they do or say what they say a great deal of the time as I get older . . . :confused:
 
IMO people having just a 1/2 inch more respect for different opinions and points of view would go a long way towards solving the problem. I think somewhere along the line we (universal we, not just Catheites) got the idea that s/he who shouts or types the loudest :) wins the argument but in reality I believe the opposite is true. People who are secure in what they believe are able to put there hands together for the other person, say "let's agree to disagree" and bow out with grace. Bludgeoning people to death with the same opinion repeated over and over does not enhance that opinion, it just makes the bludgeon-er seem angry and insecure.

Just one girl's opinion.

Peace to all,

Sparrow
 
I know exactly what you are talking about. I've see those threads and agree that they can get down right nasty. Delivering ad hominem attacks do nothing to bolster an argument, but that doesn't stop a handful of folks from using them. When I see a reply by the few people who tend to do this I just skip their contributions all together. I mean, if it's not edifying then I'd be wasting my time spending even one second considering what they have to say.
 
Is this post intended for this forum? I haven't seen much of that over here but I have witnessed and been attacked on other forums that i will not mention by name. Its terrible that a simple fitness/nutrition question has to be negative and put someone down. Everyone is different and everyone has the right to do whatever fitness routine or diet out there. There is no one way so it does erk me to get responses (on other forums) telling me what i'm doing or eating is stupid. Like i said i have not experienced this on this forum which is why i love you all so much:)
 
kariev said:
Is this post intended for this forum? I haven't seen much of that over here but I have witnessed and been attacked on other forums that i will not mention by name. Its terrible that a simple fitness/nutrition question has to be negative and put someone down. Everyone is different and everyone has the right to do whatever fitness routine or diet out there. There is no one way so it does erk me to get responses (on other forums) telling me what i'm doing or eating is stupid. Like i said i have not experienced this on this forum which is why i love you all so much:)
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I have never experienced this personally because I don't get involved and stop responding in a thread once it turns negative. But unfortunately, yes, this post is intended for this forum. Thankfully, it doesn't happen often and it seems to be limited to the political/religious/sensitive issue threads - I know the advice is to just ignore those threads, but I enjoy reading other people's opinions - sometimes it makes me think of something I had not considered before, but like I said once it turns nasty I skidaddle.
 
Well, I have to tell ya, everyone who posted to this thread is doing a really good job on listening and giving their opinions beautifully. This is good, wish everyone can get along so well everywhere else.

I have noticed from all the postings I've done during the years, that sometimes not everyone behaves well, but I think the majority tries hard to give a respectful debate/opinion. It's hard sometimes to write what you mean and get it across the way you meant to. Like someone said here, you don't see their eyes, or expressions, or hand movements. And we're not all writers.

Keep trying to communicate, (don't give up) because I don't want to miss out on a thing/learning. There are so many great suggestions/experiences and knowledgeable people here.

Janie
 
janiejoey said:
Well, I have to tell ya, everyone who posted to this thread is doing a really good job on listening and giving their opinions beautifully. This is good, wish everyone can get along so well everywhere else.

I have noticed from all the postings I've done during the years, that sometimes not everyone behaves well, but I think the majority tries hard to give a respectful debate/opinion. It's hard sometimes to write what you mean and get it across the way you meant to. Like someone said here, you don't see their eyes, or expressions, or hand movements. And we're not all writers.

Keep trying to communicate, (don't give up) because I don't want to miss out on a thing/learning. There are so many great suggestions/experiences and knowledgeable people here.

Janie
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So well said, Janie. I AM a writer, and I often feel I didn't represent my thoughts well. I am guilty of being one of the debaters on the political forums too. But I am just one who loves a good debate... as long as it stays a debate and doesn't turn into an argument. I don't think it's about changing another's person's mind as much as opening up to other thoughts. I like it when others understand WHY I believe what I believe, and vice versa. I think if we all understand where everyone is coming from, it makes it easier to accept differing points of view. That's why I enjoy a good debate...

I think the forums were great two years ago when I joined, and I think they are great now. Just different. I haven't noticed an increase of venomous posts either. Maybe I'm just oblivious to it...

I love the way strong women from all over this country can join together for a meeting of the minds on these threads. It's been very empowering for me! I don't know what I'd do without the mommy thread on the Fit Moms forum. :)
 
and why was this thread given a less than five star rating - all sincere and genuine posts. I don't understand???:(
 
cakebaker said:
Who rates the threads?
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Hi Cakebaker

I believe anyone can rate a thread. You just need to be a registered user who is signed in. Along the top of the thread in a blue bar there are a number of options: thread tools, search this thread, rate this thread and display modes. When you scroll across "rate this thread" a little drop down menu appears and you can place a vote, only one per user. :):)

I like your user name - I love to bake and cook.:D
 
Well, I can only speak for myself when I say I use "in my opinion" b/c I don't want anyone to think I believe I'm the final authority on anything, or that I feel like what I write is the truth with a capital "T."

If I've come off as rude or disrespectful, I apologize. I admit there are times my temper gets the better of me, but I certainly respect others' right to have a different opinion than I do. I just want others to be respectful of that as well. :)
 
I am another in agreement to this I was flamed big time and I even aplogized and explained and to top it off someone felt compelled to interject with comments about my run on sentences and punctuation. I only lurk and only ask questions! There are always going to be clicks and that is the bottom line here they all just egg eachother on and add fuel to the fire.

The only solution here, to stop it, is to remove open discussion and keep it strictly fitness and if you want to maintain friendships thats what your email, blogs, twitter and facebook are all for.

Or have a moderator for topics that are out of control or going to cause flaming.
 
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janiejoey said:
Well, I have to tell ya, everyone who posted to this thread is doing a really good job on listening and giving their opinions beautifully. This is good, wish everyone can get along so well everywhere else.

I have noticed from all the postings I've done during the years, that sometimes not everyone behaves well, but I think the majority tries hard to give a respectful debate/opinion. It's hard sometimes to write what you mean and get it across the way you meant to. Like someone said here, you don't see their eyes, or expressions, or hand movements. And we're not all writers.

Keep trying to communicate, (don't give up) because I don't want to miss out on a thing/learning. There are so many great suggestions/experiences and knowledgeable people here.

Janie
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I totally agree! It is fortunate that the majority of people are respectful - unfortunately it is sometimes the "bad apples" that stand out.
 
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