What my ex-husband said to me this past weekend

dani21496

dani21496

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I was at my son's basketball game Saturday, and my ex-husband (his father) was sitting in the bleachers behind me alone.

He asked me why I got re-married. He told me that I should cut my hair and make it short again like when we were married. He said since I'm short (I'm 5'1'') I should not have long hair. Long hair doesn't look right on petite people.

He told me I could have done so much better than my DH now. He kept asking me why I got married. "Why did you marry him? You could have done a lot better than him you know? When are you getting divorced?"

Whatever. BTW....he's married (got married 1 month before me..when he heard I was getting married he got engaged right away). He married the wildebeest he was cheating on me with. http://www.chittielounge.com/board/images/smiles/icon_rolleyes.gif

Oh, and he doesn't want me to come to the next basketball game because his wife is going to be there and she'll be uncomfortable if I'm there.

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Well, good riddance to him! Go to the game, focus your attention on your son, and enjoy yourself. ;)

Michele
 
Aren't exes so much fun? I'm laughing over the fact that he thinks his wife's sense of comfort means anything to you. Go and smile sweetly at them. He's your son - support him.
 
Well, no surprise as to why you divorced that chuckle-head!!! Did you tell him his opinion doesn't count? And that you will jolly well will continue to go to the basketball games because you do not give a dinker's darn what his wife thinks?

Just Do It! :)
 
Sounds like you aren't missing much!

I am so sorry that you have to deal with that. I know that he feels like crap because he knows how good he had it when he had you. He sees how beautiful and vibrant you are and he is still a piece of sh#t (sorry) so he has to try to bring you down. Whatever.

Here is to you and how much happier you are without him! http://www.smileys.ws/smls/bank/00000003.gif

And if she is so uncomfortable, she doesn't have to go to the game. :7

Missy
 
I would most definitely go to the game. That's your son. I can see why he's your ex! ha ha. I think that the whole hair comment is so weird, don't you?

Dallas
 
Oh gee... we would just hate for the new wife to be uncomfortable!! Better not go..... NOT!!!!

I would go and sit right in front of them again and enjoy your son's game. Make sure you leave you hair down and have a big smile the whole time. Who is he it say those things to you...

My ex can be a real peach like that. There was one football game where my DS needed water - and is was my ex's weekend and didnt bring him any. So I was telling him that he needed it - and he just shook his shoulders and say oh well - his problem!!! HIS problem - he is playing most of a two hour football game and needs water. Some other parents over heard that and one said "boy, isn't he pleasant" They couldn't beleive his reaction. I quickly pointed out that that is why I am HAPPILY divorced.

Good luck and enjoy your son and his game!!
 
Boy, Dani...why you ever let that one get away is beyond me!LOL!!

Personally, my DH LOVES long hair (on women). He thinks it's very sexy! My guess is your DH loves it too! Your hair is very pretty and your a gorgeous woman...your ex is just frustrated that you are so hot and he can't have you.

Go to the game but suggest to your ex to NOT sit right behind you. I've been to HS ganes and gyms are pretty big. If the Mrs. doesn't like it, she should stay home...it is YOUR son, not hers.
 
Man, is this guy a winner. He must really think you look good and he is just jealous. Be thankful she is stuck with him now. I would for sure go to your sons game after all he is your son and he's more important. Let the little misses stay home if she so uncomfortable. Lori BC
 
I'm sooooo lucky. Neither my ex or I ever remarried. We are very close friends. When I hear your stories I feel even more lucky!
 
Hmmmm....I wonder who is jealous??? That's a hard one to figure out!!! :7 }( :7

Don't even THINK about not going to your son's games so that SHE doesn't get uncomfortable!!! What a load of sh*t! :p

Take his remarks as a backwards compliment of sorts and move on!;)
 
Dani,
I say not only should you most definitely make sure you are at the game, but try to bring DH and make sure to sit close by and whenever she gives you the evil eye just throw a little friendly wave her way. My philosophy (when one can actually restrain oneself) is to kill them with kindness. I am so glad DS has at least one CLASS A parent:7

Like someone else mentioned, he is your son, not hers and furthermore if she has such an issue with being uncomfortable around you, perhaps she should never have had an affair with your ex in the first place. You need to make her clearly aware that her sensibilities are none of your concern!
 
>I was at my son's basketball game Saturday, and my ex-husband
>(his father) was sitting in the bleachers behind me alone.
>He asked me why I got re-married. He told me that I should cut
>my hair and make it short again like when we were married. He
>said since I'm short (I'm 5'1'') I should not have long hair.
>Long hair doesn't look right on petite people.
He told me I could have done so much better than my DH now. He
>kept asking me why I got married. "Why did you marry him? You
>could have done a lot better than him you know? When are you
>getting divorced?"
>Whatever. BTW....he's married (got married 1 month before
>me..when he heard I was getting married he got engaged right
>away). He married the wildebeest he was cheating on me with.
>http://www.chittielounge.com/board/images/smiles/icon_rolleyes.gif
>Oh, and he doesn't want me to come to the next basketball game
>because his wife is going to be there and she'll be
>uncomfortable if I'm there.

Hey girl!!

Ex's are idiots...

Here you should love this....

Here is my ex loking like a total ASS!!! Here he is in my Pj's...What an ass!! ROFLMAO..I am crying...LOLOLOL!!

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b102/spinin28/DSC00948.jpg
 
Dani,

I think he should be more concerned about what his wife would think about the comments he made to you. I agree with the others go and enjoy your son's game!

Debbie
 
Don't listen to your ex. Who cares what he thinks and if his new wife is uncomfortable with your presence at the basketball games, too bad. She should feel uncomfortable--she was having an affair with your ex while you were still married.

Go to the games and ignore these buffoons.

Oh and I think your hair looks great.

Maggie :)
 
Oh my GOD!x( That is crazy! I think he just thinks you look super hot with your long hair and he wants you for himself again.I really like you hair and you have a beautiful face.Obviously he is out to get on your every last nerve is he even got engaged before you.,

I hope you are going to YOUR sons basketball game.If she feels uncomfortable then she should be the one staying home.
Lori :)
 
Dani:

First give him the "HAND" and just tell him to "KISS THE CRACK"...

He sounds like a ROYAL JERK....most of the first husbands always WERE!!!!....


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Linda

"From the Southside, finest....."
 
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