Tough love!
The way I see it, is you have two options. You can be pragmatic and say, bad eating days happen and begin anew. You can say, I dislike being disgusted with myself so I am not going to have a binge day again. Better yet, do both. But if I catch you posting like this again I am going to show up at your door and either kick your butt or hug you. I'd like to do the first but that would be mean and you are doing a bodacious beating yourselves up anyway. NOW STOP IT! I apologize for yelling but, come on!
I have loads of garbage in this house. It's for my kids and it won't last but a few days and then they have to wait until the next shopping day for more. My daughter baked homemade cookies last night. I have a chocolate stash in case of a natural disaster. I didn't touch any of it, and it's not because I am the smartest, it's because I know it will satisfy nothing and make me feel like a loser! I ate really balanced, nicely spaced meals yesterday and it turned out I didn't even want the one piece of dark chocolate I eat after dinner some evenings. Since I can have it any ole time I want, what's the big deal? Are you, 1. planning healthy, balanced meals and eating them at regular intervals? If you are and you eat crap on top of it, you need to quit it and if you aren't, and you are letting the crap talk you into eating it INSTEAD, then go back to sqaure one, but leave off the crap.
Here comes the tough love; When I hear a woman say she couldn't not eat a bunch of junk, I think the heck you couldn't, you CHOSE to eat it. You were in control at all times. You ARE smart and you have as much self-control as anyone else, so don't do that to yourselves! I'm not the epitome of self control but once burned, twice shy. You ALREADY know better. I looked at those cookies this morning. (My daughter bakes really well.) I didn't say I couldn't have a cookie, I told myslef to wait and see how I felt after some complex carbs and lovely clean protein for breakfast. I don't want a cookie. It's lovely but it's got butter and white flour and chocolate chips and there's a time and a place but not now and if they are all eaten boefore that time arises, it's not the last chocolate chip cookie on earth.
Now when you work out you are going to be doing so to burn those junk calories instead of for the simple beauty of working out to maintain a healthy lifestyle and and slim figure. You cheated yourselves of the good feelings and you didn't really enjoy the food. Did you? Cheating is for pleasure and uless you enjoy feeling disgusted, don't do it for any other reason. There is pleasure in savoring a small piece of chocolate or whatever it is that floats your boat. I am forever on the lookout for chocolate cake, one slice, devoured with love. I am not a desert martyr, thinking I must never eat a sweet treat again and I am not a junk food binger, out of control, stuffing my face like there's no tomorrow. I am a balanced eater in control of my food intake. Why aren't you?
Bobbi
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