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lesliemarie

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I know I have seen on this board from others who have trouble with their parents, I had the biggest heart break last night, well I knew it would be like that, Why I seek love from that loveless woman I don't know, I have always wanted her to love me and I should know I never had and will never have it ever. I have no love for her, I love her for giving me my life but other than that I have no feelings for her at all. She hurts me every time I try to talk to her. Last night was so heart breaking when she hung up on me, I wish I had the guts and courage that some of you have in writting them letters. I am also so angry and hurt that I want to hurt her as much as she hurts me.
My kids don't even know her or my father as their grandparents, they never send my kids Birthday cards or even talk to my kids. They come out to visit maybe once every two years so the only grandparents they know is my hubby's parents. That hurts me so much to know that.
Matter of fact the feelings I feel for my mother "the ice maiden" is of pure hate and anger, no love. I know I am going to get ripped for saying that but if you only knew the whole story behind my mother you would not like her either. She has beaten me raw with a vaccum cleaner cord and cut my head when she broke a glass bowl on my head. and that is just two stories.
Ok enough of venting LOL I feel better now LOL. I do see a councelor ( how ever you spell it LOL) for me and my kids and I do talk about my parents so I do get it out, but I am so hurt over how she treated me last night.
 
Lesliemarie,

I have nothing really to offer in terms of advice, but I feel so badly for you. I can't imagine what it's been like for you. I'm glad you're seeing a counselor. Just focus on your kids and your husband, and take whatever support that your in-laws give. I'll be thinking of you, and wishing you well.
 
No words of wisdom. I cannot even imagine what you go thru or what you have gone thru. From this post and previous post you seem to be one strong lady. Glad to see you and your children are in therapy to deal with this type of behavior from your parents. Your children are extremely blessed to have you as their mother.

Kim
 
My mom's mom was like that. She was a selfish woman incapable of love. She remarried and didn't care about her two daughters. When her daughter, my aunt told her that her new husband was molesting her, my grandmother didn't believe it. My aunt ended up running away at 15.
Later on, my grandmother asked my aunt's family to move from to Washington from California. My aunt sold what little she had, moved herself, her husband, daughter and grandson. My grandmother told them that they could live in the garage. When she was sent to live in a nursing home, she still would not let my aunt live in her house. Bottom line, the state kept her alive long enough to get her house. The interesting thing is that my mom and aunt were two of the nicest people you would ever meet.

You can't change people. Just try not to let it affect you and your family. I know that is not always easy. Good luck!
 
I am finally getting over last night, I am just going to cut off all ties to my family, it is better than a broken heart all the time. I will let them have at the favorite drug addicted and alcoholic baby boy that is in his 30's and can't live on his own LOL. I have a great family now.
Thank you for your hugs!!! ((((((((((((((((everyone)))))))))))))))
 
Big hugs to you..it is amazing that still as adults we so much still want our parents love and approval. My mother is emotional toxic and draining. I am so sorry about the abuse that you have endured both emotional and physical, god is making that up to you now by giving a great family, I am glad. I have seen it time and time again that the screwed up parents tend to favor the screwed up kid(the one you mentioned above). I think it is sometimes healthier to cut ties to the ones who can make you spiritually ill. Enjoy your family you have now...Bless you:D :D
 
Leslie,

I know what you are going through. I have many issues with my mother, who is a very intimidating, manipulative, selfish woman. She is nice to me and then vindicative in the same minute. I try to keep my distance also. Everytime I am with her, I want to yell, scream and shout, she makes me so angry. I am sorry about your story but you are better off staying away. People like that don't deserve your kindness and time. She tries to play me and my siblings against each other. You don't know how I want to say "you are the worst mother in the world!" I am here for you. Sometimes you do have to cut people out. If I could, I would never see my mom again. It is sad but true. I'm sure your mom loves you but can't figure her own problems out. You are a strong lady. My heart and prayers are with you. Cookie
 
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