Wow, really interesting discussion. The last comments about the smoking reminded me of my very first potential client. She wanted to sell her house and move "to the country" because her young son had astma which she traced to the pollution in the city. Mind you, the whole time I was there she was smoking one cigarette after another, the whole house was filled with smoke - yuck. But yeah, it is the big city pollution that causes her son's health problems. Good grief!!!
Elaine, I don't think you should second guess yourself. You did what you thought was right for your son. I hope your son will get better soon. Incidentially I was just talking to a friend about a mutual friend's daughter which I thought sounded awfully similar to your son. The girl was diagnosed with asthma a few years ago and put on medication, she almost immediately developed side effects (suicidal thoughts, depression, etc.), the doctor claimed there was no correlation and added additional medication for the "depression". They went from doctor to doctor, medication and dosages were changed, it didn't get better, it got worse, much worse!! Eventually, in their desperation, they went to a naturopathic doctor. For weeks she had them journal everything the daughter eats, while decreasing the dosage of the medications.
To make a long story short, not to say that the girl was only eating junk but a LOT of processed food and it turned out she had allergies to certain foods and food additives. They changed the diet, she did get some supplements, they had to change some of their cleaning products, etc and now 24 months later, the girl is off all medication, no depression and in fact, NO asthma at all!
Now, I am not saying everyone who has asthma or whose child has asthma is eating/feeding junk. I just can't help but notice that as the healthy eating for us as a society has decreased over the years, certain diseases like asthma, diabetes, high blood pressure, cancer and even depression etc. have increased exponentially. The more sick we get the more drugs are coming on the market to "treat" these conditions, a lot of them causing potentially very serious side effects and making us even more sick.
I think many doctors are quick to prescribe a drug. To give you an example, this weekend I was breaking up a dog fight and got bit. No big deal, just a couple of cuts and scrapes. I cleaned it out and it looked okay, however, I was overdue on my tetanus and went to urgent care to get the shot. The doctor insisted that I HAVE to take a 10-day course of antibiotics as a "precaution". We had a lengthy conversation where I voiced my concern that antibiotics are powerful drugs and I didn't want to take it unless for good reason, a precaution on a couple of scrapes and cuts didn't sound like a compelling reason for me. Boy, did she read me the riot act! I am it doesn't come as a surprise that I didn't fill the prescription and I am still alive
and without infection.
I am sure I will get flamed for this but I do think that medicine as it is practised today has conditioned us to see doctors as somewhat omniscient. Deep down we know that this is not true, doctors make mistakes, drug companies make mistakes, pharmacists make mistakes and not all drugs help. However, when we or a loved one gets sick we want to trust in an authority figure to tell us what to do.
I do NOT condemn conventional medicine and drugs alltogether, and I think a lot of progress has been made. What I do find disturbing, however, is the overprescription of drugs without addressing the underlying cause. I think modern day medicine and drugs are catering to our culture's take-out-window quickness. I have found a lot of doctors and people to avoid "complementary" medicine or a holistic lifestyle because they are afraid of it because it is different from what everyone else is doing (especially difficult with teenagers as I am struggling with my 12-year-old who doesn't want to take bag lunches anymore and instead eat the not-so-healthy school lunch :-() and they don't know or understand the underlying theory of naturopathic medicine.
I am very aware that "conventional" medicine loves facts and data, everything that can be explained by a chart or double-blind study. However, this disregards the fact that we are a whole organism and not parts patched together, there is no one-size-fits-it-all! One drug may work without any apparent side effects for one person whereas the other person reacts with serious side effects. However, just because there are no obvious or visible side effects in one person doesn't mean that it had no negative effects that may only be found at a later time.
I don't want to tell you what to do, as I am sure you know what is best for your son. I just want to give a different perspective, hopefully it helps, maybe this is not for you.
Just because someone is considering holistic or naturopathic care doesn't mean they need to abandon conventional care or disregard medical advice. In fact, the naturopathic doctors I had were very much intune with modern medicine, they did run blood tests, sent me out for x-rays, mammograms, etc. Much more willing to include the best of both than some conventional doctors that I have encountered in my neck of the woods were willing to consider "alternative" medicine.
A naturopathic or holistic approach doesn't mean we have to trade our common sense for a tambourine. A holistic approach is all about individuals, not one size fits all. There is no singularly "right" way. I hope you will find something that is right for your son. Keep us posted on how he is doing.