He is 69 5'4 and weighs 135. Now not to down play the situation but I think he is not a serious threat anymore. I wouldn't get to crazy about it. I would arm yourself like other people said and just be careful. Plus you do Cathe videos, I'm pretty sure you can throw his tiny, old butt around. Just try not to stress yourself out and I'm sure everything will be fine
New man living across the street...
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sparrow13
Cathlete
This thread has put me in mind of something a self-defense woman I knew once said. She was a top cop, DEA, worked her way up, had seen it all, that kind of cop/woman. I took a self-defense course from her and the one thing she reiterated over and over during the two-days was this: never, ever, ever, ever EVER, ever, ever, NEVER get in a car with your attacker. Gun, knife, whatever, doesn't matter. Tell him he'll have to kill you where you stand because you won't get in the car. If he tries to shove you in, fight like hell, vomit, urinate on yourself, whatever you have to do but none of this "If I cooperate he might not hurt me" stuff. She said - and I'll never forget this - "you know all those bodies they find in the woods and along the road? They all got in the car."
Of course, there are some horrifying times when what you do won't make a difference but I always keep her words in mind, and so thought I'd pass them along, for what they're worth. Sorry for the slightly O/T.
Sparrow
Of course, there are some horrifying times when what you do won't make a difference but I always keep her words in mind, and so thought I'd pass them along, for what they're worth. Sorry for the slightly O/T.
Sparrow
Sparrow, that reminds me that there was a show on ABC once a few years ago with tips on what to do to stay safe. Unfortunately, I can't remember all of them. One was if you are on a bicycle and someone threatens you, simply don't let go of the bike. They can't carry both it and you. Another was if someone is in a car and points a gun at you to get inside, run the opposite way. The suspect would have a harder time aiming correctly. The last that I remembered was if you are stuck in an elevator, crouch down as low as can be, perhaps holding an object like a purse in front of you to block any swipes someone may attempt. If at all possible, jam all of the elevator buttons to signal an emergency. It was mentioned that a girl around 12/13 years old was able to ward off an attacker this way.
dani21496
Cathlete
OMG! I'm sorry! I wouldn't be surprised if there were some sex offenders near me too. They are all over! Ugh!
Anyone can see where they are in this website. Just enter your address and zip.
http://www.familywatchdog.us
Then just click on the dots and their picture and offenses/convictions will pop up. (click on the "convictions" tab)
It will give info on the victim's age at the time and the offender's age at the time.
Anyone can see where they are in this website. Just enter your address and zip.
http://www.familywatchdog.us
Then just click on the dots and their picture and offenses/convictions will pop up. (click on the "convictions" tab)
It will give info on the victim's age at the time and the offender's age at the time.
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SirenSongWoman
Cathlete
I'm not getting crazy about it (I know what you mean) but the rape and attempted rape happened when the man was 63. Also, though his stats on the card sound... trivial, he didn't look like a little guy when I saw him. I'm not really worried about my safety (at his hands) but I do want him out of here.
SirenSongWoman
Cathlete
Every expert on this topic says the same thing. If you go with him, you're dead. I used to love when Montel covered this stuff. He always said to never let someone take you to a "secondary location." He also said women should watch themselves when parking next to a van. He said "You get out of your car, the side door of the van slides open, a hanky full of chloroform goes over your face, your sucked into the van, the door shuts, and that's the last anyone hears from you. Freaky. The kind of thing you wouldn't even think about but I bet everyone reading this will remember that the next time a van pulls up next to them in a parking lot...
twinkletoes129
Cathlete
Still Be Very Careful
Stacy, I still think you should be VERY careful. These rapists LOVE women who live alone. That is their perfect target. Don't get complacent just because you don't live right next door. These guys smell opportunity and they know how to case the joint so to speak. So, I say batten down the hatches, get your security alarms, know your surroundings at all times. And keep yourself and your family and your precious furr babies (if you have any) safe and do what you can to make complaints to the rental board and get together as a neighbourhood to watch each others backs and pray he moves. Just because he's 69 does not in any way make him safe. He's still perfectly capable of doing harm. These repeat sex offenders should be in jail for the rest of there lives. They cannot be safely reintergrated into society. There should be laws made that all sex offenders should be in jail for LIFE. It's really sad but it's the truth. We can forgive them but that doesn't make them safe.
Stacy, I still think you should be VERY careful. These rapists LOVE women who live alone. That is their perfect target. Don't get complacent just because you don't live right next door. These guys smell opportunity and they know how to case the joint so to speak. So, I say batten down the hatches, get your security alarms, know your surroundings at all times. And keep yourself and your family and your precious furr babies (if you have any) safe and do what you can to make complaints to the rental board and get together as a neighbourhood to watch each others backs and pray he moves. Just because he's 69 does not in any way make him safe. He's still perfectly capable of doing harm. These repeat sex offenders should be in jail for the rest of there lives. They cannot be safely reintergrated into society. There should be laws made that all sex offenders should be in jail for LIFE. It's really sad but it's the truth. We can forgive them but that doesn't make them safe.
LaughingWater
Cathlete
Heh...it's funny you guys mention vans. I always avoid them.
Much of what has been discussed here is covered in the IMPACT course. It's not just physical fighting, though that is the main focus. It emphasizes boundary setting and awareness too. Much can be avoided if one can recognize warning signs early.
I have a video of some of my fights, but I don't know how to upload it on to my computer. Here's an idea of what you'd learn though: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBsQGXY4RZ8
In truth, the fights are actually a little rougher and longer than what the video shows. They start from the very beginning, whether it's a guy grabbing you outright or a guy kindly chatting you up at a bus stop. You're taught to look for clues and to clearly set your boundaries so as to hopefully discourage an attack. And then of course, if necessary, you fight. It's mentally and physically exhausting, but it's fantastic.
They simulate all kinds of scenarios. Among others, I had being cornered at an out-of-the-way room during a party, and waking up in my bedroom to find a man on top of me. They cover harmless flirting and simple curiosity too, so that you don't leave the course and kick the shit out of the next guy who innocently asks you for the time.
One thing I don't like about the YouTube clip is the girly, bunny-hopping at the end. *cringe* We didn't do that. We yelled, we screamed, we swore, we pounded on the mats like warriors ~ it was pretty intense. When it was time for Graduation, which is open to the public, those of us on the sidelines had to reel ourselves in a bit.
I should mention that none of us started out like that. They taped our first day as well, so we could see how much we had progressed, and it was like day and night. We were all so afraid to hit, and even those of us who thought we were already tough appeared quite meek. I learned I'm waaay too friendly and trusting, and I can easily miss clues. Other women gave off that shy little mouse vibe, which ain't so hot either.
There's a lot of talking and bonding too. Some tears. The male instructors are wonderful (we had 3). Their job isn't easy, either mentally or physically, but they do it because they have women they love, and this inspires them to help all women learn to defend themselves. In us they see their wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc.
Man, sorry about the long post. If anyone has questions or would like more details, feel free to ask. The IMPACT course really changed me for the better. I'm still very open and friendly, but the main difference is, if necessary, I now have no problem head butting, breaking a nose or gouging someone's eyes out.
Much of what has been discussed here is covered in the IMPACT course. It's not just physical fighting, though that is the main focus. It emphasizes boundary setting and awareness too. Much can be avoided if one can recognize warning signs early.
I have a video of some of my fights, but I don't know how to upload it on to my computer. Here's an idea of what you'd learn though: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBsQGXY4RZ8
In truth, the fights are actually a little rougher and longer than what the video shows. They start from the very beginning, whether it's a guy grabbing you outright or a guy kindly chatting you up at a bus stop. You're taught to look for clues and to clearly set your boundaries so as to hopefully discourage an attack. And then of course, if necessary, you fight. It's mentally and physically exhausting, but it's fantastic.
They simulate all kinds of scenarios. Among others, I had being cornered at an out-of-the-way room during a party, and waking up in my bedroom to find a man on top of me. They cover harmless flirting and simple curiosity too, so that you don't leave the course and kick the shit out of the next guy who innocently asks you for the time.
One thing I don't like about the YouTube clip is the girly, bunny-hopping at the end. *cringe* We didn't do that. We yelled, we screamed, we swore, we pounded on the mats like warriors ~ it was pretty intense. When it was time for Graduation, which is open to the public, those of us on the sidelines had to reel ourselves in a bit.
I should mention that none of us started out like that. They taped our first day as well, so we could see how much we had progressed, and it was like day and night. We were all so afraid to hit, and even those of us who thought we were already tough appeared quite meek. I learned I'm waaay too friendly and trusting, and I can easily miss clues. Other women gave off that shy little mouse vibe, which ain't so hot either.
There's a lot of talking and bonding too. Some tears. The male instructors are wonderful (we had 3). Their job isn't easy, either mentally or physically, but they do it because they have women they love, and this inspires them to help all women learn to defend themselves. In us they see their wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc.
Man, sorry about the long post. If anyone has questions or would like more details, feel free to ask. The IMPACT course really changed me for the better. I'm still very open and friendly, but the main difference is, if necessary, I now have no problem head butting, breaking a nose or gouging someone's eyes out.
That really sounds interesting. I have always been skeptical and I admit I've been trying to develop this characteristic to see how well I can read people for clues. I'd like to invest time into courses like IMPACT, Krav Maga, and others when there's a chance to. There's some Chinese technique--can't remember the name--that someone had described as brutal but effective if necessary. Trying all/any couldn't hurt.
gogigi
Cathlete
And don't second guess your gutt instincts. I've turned right around and walked right back into the mall before just b/c I had the willies. I could have been wrong but who cares...so, I hung out at the mall a bit longer than I planned.
I'm soooo sorry to hear this man is living in your neighborhood. Everyone else's post pretty much sums up my sentiments exactly.
I'm soooo sorry to hear this man is living in your neighborhood. Everyone else's post pretty much sums up my sentiments exactly.