Negative People

gidget1978

gidget1978

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Sometimes do you feel like you are turning in to a negative person. I hate negative people, so needless to say I don't want to turn into one! LOL But here is what was bothering me yesterday!

1) Back to the whole "friend not inviting me to NY" again
2) Girls at work not doing their jobs right and me having to finish it yesterday.
3) Something a co-worker said.
4) The co-worker who never cleans up after herself
5) My SIL (who doesn't work) gets invited to my MIL's for dinner while DH and I rush home to make dinner for 2 kids while we are both working!
6) DD taking my face wash and not returning it
7) Not going to dance class but DH hanging out with his guy friends doing electrical work until 10.
8) Going to the recycling place at 12:15, when they take lunch from 12-12:30:mad: LOL

I could go on and on. Sometimes I think I am turning into a proper you know what...but I would resort to saying that TTOM is coming and I was tried:(;)

Anyone else ever get like this???

Lori:)
 
I'm like this most of the time unfortunately. I'm pretty negative. I rarely see the good side of things. It sucks and it's hard to change.
 
{{{{{Lori}}}}}, i was like that last week! Remember my "omg,i have to drop of out school drama" that same day was one thing after another:confused:

A workout cured it for me:D with the workout you've got planned today,im sure you will feel better afterwards:) it will get rid of all those negitive vibes.....
 
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The current political and economic situation has definitely soured my general mood. My tolerance level for BS is extremely low.

I'm hoping it will get in better in five weeks or so... :p
 
I hear ya on this. At work it's a regular "bitch fest" all day sometimes it seems. I was driving home the other day and just felt all this negative energy because we griped at work all day about who wasn't doing their jobs, nasty clients, etc...I decided to try and let some stuff go. It's so hard, but I'm trying hard not to get bogged down with gossipy crap at work - it really drains you.

I sometimes try to put things into perspective and think about how minute my problems really are when there are people who were just diagnosed with cancer or someone who just lost a loved one in an accident -- morbid, I know, but really our problems seem so silly compared to what others are truly going through.

I'm not saying I wanna be Miss Perky-Smiley - those kind sunny-all-the-time people are irritating, lol, but I am trying to be less negative as well.

Good luck with that - but vent here anytime - not that things haven't gotten negative around here lately:rolleyes:

Heidi
 
I catch myself being negative when I fall into that "me,me,me" train of thinking. When all you think about is yourself - what so and so did to ME, how so and so treated ME, how MY feelings were hurt, how I wasn't included - it's easy to become a pretty negative person. When I turn my focus back onto OTHER people, my outlook changes a lot and I start to realize things aren't so bad for little old ME. That's just me though. I'm not saying you are being like that. :)
 
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I could write something about my personal life BUT I WON'T due to an almost certain flame job. However, all of the above is agreed with.

I think all our plates are full as my friend would say . . .
 
I"ve been feeling the same way lately, I ask myself if maybe I"m just a capital B....a "friend" calls me constantly whining about her loser family always buming money and stuff from her, its been going on for YEARS, I find myself this week not answering her calls as I am sick to death of listening to it...I feel like all I am anymore is a sounding board. About a month ago, a co-worker moved onto a different position in the company leaving me with the co-worker who has been a slacker her whole career...I have picked up the x-co-workers work and carry this slacker...I really don't know how much longer I can take it. My boss does NOT like to deal with these types of issues..but in this economy I hate to walk out on a good job...but I"m starting to be angry and resentful these days and I don't like that about myself. Of course I realize thats my choice and its up to me to change my attitude but dang its hard!
 
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Here's an inspirational message from sparkpeople.com. I thought it would fit in here...

Do you seek revenge when someone has wronged you?
When someone wrongs you, it's easy to go to that place in your mind and conjure up ways to get back at them. Our lives are in a constant state of change, and yet our hearts hold on to hurtful memories with a tight grip. Remember the girl that was mean to you in high school? She could have evolved into a very pleasant, kind woman, but your mind is fixated on what she did. Truly, the idea of revenge is bittersweet and foolish. Don't waste your time and energy stewing. Inevitably you will come across someone who is flat out mean and inconsiderate, but the best approach it to simply let it go and move on. Focus on the positive things about yourself or rethink the person's motivations. Maybe he/she is the one who is hurt or insecure, trying to deflect his /her own bad experiences onto someone else. Try your best to forget about it.

I guess the bottom line here is to do your best to avoid or ignore the toxic people in your life. If that's not possible, then try to empathize with them. I keep trying to remind myself not to sweat the small stuff b/c it's ALL small stuff. Unfortunately it usually takes something big, tragic, and painful for us to realize that.:(

Now, instead of writing down all the negative things, maybe write down all the positives. That'll certainly make you smile and feel better too.:);):D

Angie
 
i go through phases these days because of where i live....among some of the most inconsiderate, selfish, self-absorbed, rude, mean people i have ever encountered....if i allow myself to dwell on it, i get VERY irritable and negative about everything....i pop in some john denver (hokey i know, but his music just makes me smile) and he always sets me back in the middle...or i might listen to the soundscapes music channel and that really centers me...
 
I'm generally a pretty upbeat person (except for those certain days each month) and bounce back well from setbacks. I had a lot of practice as a kid, fortunately or unfortunately.

I try to find humor in my day and try to do something positive for others. That helps a lot. My DH is more of a generally negative person but finds that humor and just admitting how he is helps a lot. Doesn't really change him - but makes him more 'accessible' to others if that makes sense.
 
Liann said:
I catch myself being negative when I fall into that "me,me,me" train of thinking. When all you think about is yourself - what so and so did to ME, how so and so treated ME, how MY feelings were hurt, how I wasn't included - it's easy to become a pretty negative person. When I turn my focus back onto OTHER people, my outlook changes a lot and I start to realize things aren't so bad for little old ME. That's just me though. I'm not saying you are being like that. :)
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Amen to that sister! I totally agree 100%!!! I've learned how to just shrug my shoulders and say "Oh well." It isn't worth my stress because all those people you get so mad at could really give a hoot about why your so pissed at them. Trust me they sleep just fine at night not really giving a rip. Don't get me wrong. I used to be like that A LOT of the times till my husband pointed it out to me.
 
Lori -

Right there with you.....some days it is tough to be positive. Hang in there. You can come and vent any time. I don't mind. We all need to unload and sometimes feel better for just unloading. Hope it getting better for you.

BTW, Connie, I have your boss's twin. But the boss is the one who doesn't do any work. Oh well.:confused:
 
i tend to be a negative person as well. i get this from my mom. she is sooooo negative and i hate it but i catch myself being just like that. my husband is a very positive person and always sees the good in everything no matter how bad the situation. sometimes he'll ask me why i'm so negative when subconciously i say a negative comment. it makes me feel so bad:( i'm trying to work on it. i have to be mindful of it to control and i think i'm improving but when i get around my mom for any length of time i go right into the crapper again. i think my husband balances me out a bit with his positivity and sometimes i'm really jealous that he so easily can have such a great outlook.
 
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