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Cathlete
I can't believe it. Well, I can, but I can't.
She had a massive heart attack. I got the call that they were trying to revive her. But to no avail. She was 75 yrs old. She had surgery scheduled for Thursday to remove a suspicious lymph mass in her neck. She had to go off her blood thinners for that. Now we wonder is that what killed her. Makes you think someone would have told her the risks, I mean if that was a REAL possibility. She was scared about the surgery, but I figured the docs weighed the risks of taking her off her blood thinners vs. not getting the mass out. Maybe they knew it was cancer and never said. I don't know. Grandma could have kept that hidden I guess. But I don't think she knew yet. It just did not look good.
She was the hippest, coolest, most caring grandma ever. She was a little italian fireball who always had something interesting to say
but she was soooo cool. She always kept it real. She stood up for herself. She stood up for other people. Every time I'd go to her house she would ask me "Oh, I forgot I had a grandaughter" (LOL) and then she'd give me a new shirt she had purchased for me. She was always giving you something, even food. That was so her. She was a big part of my life all my life and she will be very missed by all who knew her.
What really breaks my heart though is her husband of over 30 years. They had the perfect marriage...true love..they wrote love notes to each other every day even the week before she died. She cooked for him, did all the cleaning, paid the bills, etc. She did EVERYTHING. Other than us, he doesn't have much family that cares about him and he always joked that "you won't want me around" after my grandmother died. Last night he was just in shock but also his usual personality, acting like, "well, this had to happen sometime" and talking about selling the house, what furniture he would get rid of, etc. It was absolutely heartbreaking. I know he is in shock, but when the reality of this loss hits I am afraid he will struggle to find his way. I wouldn't even rule out suicide. After years of not drinking, he drank last night. ;(
So, what can we do to help him? My mom asked him to stay at her house last night but he refused. How sad! What else can we do? I know many of you have elderly parents. Please share your story if you can relate and what you did for the other parent when one died.
This is so surreal. My funky grandma is gone. She seemed so young. Too young at heart to die.:-(
She had a massive heart attack. I got the call that they were trying to revive her. But to no avail. She was 75 yrs old. She had surgery scheduled for Thursday to remove a suspicious lymph mass in her neck. She had to go off her blood thinners for that. Now we wonder is that what killed her. Makes you think someone would have told her the risks, I mean if that was a REAL possibility. She was scared about the surgery, but I figured the docs weighed the risks of taking her off her blood thinners vs. not getting the mass out. Maybe they knew it was cancer and never said. I don't know. Grandma could have kept that hidden I guess. But I don't think she knew yet. It just did not look good.
She was the hippest, coolest, most caring grandma ever. She was a little italian fireball who always had something interesting to say
but she was soooo cool. She always kept it real. She stood up for herself. She stood up for other people. Every time I'd go to her house she would ask me "Oh, I forgot I had a grandaughter" (LOL) and then she'd give me a new shirt she had purchased for me. She was always giving you something, even food. That was so her. She was a big part of my life all my life and she will be very missed by all who knew her.What really breaks my heart though is her husband of over 30 years. They had the perfect marriage...true love..they wrote love notes to each other every day even the week before she died. She cooked for him, did all the cleaning, paid the bills, etc. She did EVERYTHING. Other than us, he doesn't have much family that cares about him and he always joked that "you won't want me around" after my grandmother died. Last night he was just in shock but also his usual personality, acting like, "well, this had to happen sometime" and talking about selling the house, what furniture he would get rid of, etc. It was absolutely heartbreaking. I know he is in shock, but when the reality of this loss hits I am afraid he will struggle to find his way. I wouldn't even rule out suicide. After years of not drinking, he drank last night. ;(
So, what can we do to help him? My mom asked him to stay at her house last night but he refused. How sad! What else can we do? I know many of you have elderly parents. Please share your story if you can relate and what you did for the other parent when one died.
This is so surreal. My funky grandma is gone. She seemed so young. Too young at heart to die.:-(
