More on the soccer coach

[MAYNARDSMOM]

Cleared the air with the coach on stretching the kids after practice, although according to my husband who picks him up they have no idea how to do it properly. DH told another parent his wife should come show these kids how to stretch!! Is that him admitting I know something?!? hhhmmm?

Anyway one day last week my son was telling me how some of the older boys on the team were picking on the coach behind his back (he's a bit overweight) saying very nasty things. Turns out his younger brother was sitting behind them & heard it all. I felt very bad for the coach hoping the brother would not tell him & hurt his feelings.

Yesterday my son then tells me about a boy on the team who is heavy & can't run the laps as well as the other boys. My son made it back first & the coach says to him "I don't know what I'm going to do with that kid?" Later in practice while doing a drill the same heavy boy is lagging behind & in front of a # of the boys he says "I guess I'm going to have to tie a stick out in front of him w/a donut. (There's more) One of the boys says " No, tie it to the ball" The coach replies "No, then he would be getting hand balls" I was appalled that the coach would even say these things let alone in front of other players!! I happen to be friends with this boys mother & she would be livid to know that went on.

Makes me wonder what he says about my boy in front of others. Guess he's not as great a coach as we thought. Very dissapointed

 

[spyrosmom]

I'm sorry you got such a stinky coach! Even if he knows the game, he obviously has no people skills. We all know belittling the slow/overweight/uncoordinated person doesn't help them one bit. And in front of the other kids! I wouldn't want my son picking up that kind of behavior. Does the coach have a boss? I know a lot of it is what you heard from others, but a lot is 1st hand. Can you go to his superiors with it? He really needs an attitude change if he is going to be coaching. I don't agree with the "everyone's a winner!" strategy either, but he needs to focus on coaching the game and the workouts/stretch and keep his comments to himself.

Nan

 

[luckyruns]

I missed your orginal post on stretching. But wanted to share with you what my daughter's team does post game. This is her first year playing on a college soccer team. After every away game the coach takes the girls to mid field and they stretch..it's not a simple 5 minute stretch either. You could only imagine how sore/tight their muscles will be the next day after riding a bus home--(some rides are 5 hours or more) He also supplies them with bananas/gatorade/fig newtons. Home games the girls are required to go into the trainer's room.

I can not believe a grown man can act that way. And he is allowed to coach? Maybe someone should file a complaint. I know if that were my child he was speaking to -- I would be all over that! Know what they say--Don't mess with a soccer/hockey mom I happened to be both

 

[MAYNARDSMOM]

Nan

You are so right on all of your points. We have the chain of command & the next in line is out Athletic Director, he's a piece of work.

I wish I was able to go & watch a practice or two myself but my work schedule doesn't allow for that. I'm sure my son will tell me if anything else is said. It makes me sad & angry at the same time!! I'm proud of this boy for going out there & playing even though he is heavier. I know that he is picked on ocassionally by the other kids off the field as well.

 

[pink_fortitude]

You know, if the athletic director isn't at all concerned about how his teams are run or is as bad as this coach, you know what I would do? Come to practices and games w/ a camera collecting evidence and then take it to the local news station. There is no excuse for behavior like that.

What was DS's reaction to all of this? I would really be concerned that he wasn't joining in on this "fun" to try to fit in or get in good graces w/ coach, especially if he is one of the faster and better players. I think it is so sad that kids have to endure and see this kind of cruelty from people that are supposed to be their mentors. Ugh.

Missy

 

[MAYNARDSMOM]

Missy

You are right about the concern for my son's reaction. We did speak to him on both instances telling him how wrong & sad that was. I will be sure to keep on top of him as to anymore comments.

I don't know about other school districts but I know in ours, if you make to many waves they take it out on your kids. Definately not right but it's the pathetic truth. Our district has had a lot of issues.

We had an incident last year with the music teacher. Basically we could have very easily had this man's job. Being a christian family we didn't feel that was the proper way to react & we accepted his personnal apology & left it. I would hope they will rememebr our kind & forgiving nature in the future.

Back to the soccer coach I'm thinking if I hear anymore especiallly about this student I will talk with his mother & let her handle it. Being a parent is not always easy!!

Thanks for your help

 

[pink_fortitude]

Missy

We had an incident last year with the music teacher. Basically we could have very easily had this man's job. Being a christian family we didn't feel that was the proper way to react & we accepted his personnal apology & left it. I would hope they will rememebr our kind & forgiving nature in the future.

Wow, that is amazing!!! That is such a great attitude to have, and it is absolutely one I *wish I had but obviously do not. I am a total justice seeker for the wronged, especially children. You will certainly be rewarded and blessed for your humility and graciousness.
Good luck!!!

Missy