Lost my friend yesterday....

Jennifit

Jennifit

Cathlete
I know this is probably not the correct forum, but I just needed to vent...
I lost my beloved cat of 11 years named Zeus yesterday. He has been struggling with diabetes for awhile and things started to give out a lot the past few days. When before we would gaze into each other's eyes and lay together for hours, he was distant and his big eyes seemed to have lost his spirit. We decided to let him go yesterday. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. He resigned and just put his little head down as if he knew... I miss him so much and cannot believe he will never come home to me again. I know he was ready, as he was hanging on for me for quite awhile. When will the pain pass? How do I let him go? I want to scream at the heavens and ask them to bring him back. I love him so much. Thanks for listening.
jenni
 
Oh, honey – I’m so sorry. It sounds like you gave Zeus a happy, happy life. Let that thought be of comfort to you during this time. While I don’t completely know what you’re going through, I lost my beloved cat Bobbi three weeks ago and it is a tough thing to go through. I come home from work and still look for her in the window, where she used to greet me every evening.

Again, I’m so sorry for you loss. Keep posting about your grief if it makes you feel any better.
 
Dear jenni, I'm sorry for your loss. A lot of us have gone through a similar loss and I'm sure I speak for many when I say we understand. It's heartbreaking to lose a pet (friend!) but the joy they bring makes any heartache worth while. Try to remember the good times. Hugs.
 
I'm so sorry. I lost my Lizzy on Monday. I can totally understand how you're feeling. She was only 4.

Apparently now is not a good time for kitties:(
 
Jenni, I'm so sorry. I had to put one of my friends to sleep a few years ago and I'll be honest, it was very hard for a long time. I still miss him, but I do feel better knowing he is not in pain.

I hope you feel better soon!

Take care,
Marie
 
I lost my Tigger cat from the same thing. It is a gutrenching thing to watch, I know. He was my little buddy for so long and I completely understand your grief. I wish I had been more active on the Forums at the time, because everyone around me (excluding close family) could not understand why I was so upset. I actually had to lie at my old job and call in sick so I could be there for him. His last night on this earth I was there with him. I held him in my arms until he passed away. I am sure that in time the pain will fade...at least it did for me. It was an awful time. Vent anytime you need to. So many of us have been there and we are all sorry for your loss.

Melissa
Paragonah, UT
 
Jenni,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost 3 pets over the last 2 years and I don't think yiu ever get over it completely. I still think of them often and remember all of the joy they brought to my life. I hope you can take comfort in knowing that you did all you possibly could for your friend.
 
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't know how long it takes for the pain to go away when a pet has to be put down. I do know what it feels like to have to get rid of a pet because of other circumstances that you can not control. I remember looking for our cat, when we had to get rid of her, all the time. I cried and was very sad for about a week. But I'm sure that what you're feeling is different. So, I can't help you on how long the sadness will last. Just try to remember the good things and also remember that what you did was the best thing for her.
When my folks had their dog hit by a car they went out and got another dog about a week afterwards. They said that it helped them get over their grief. Maybe you can get another kitty?;(

Kathy
 
Jenni, this is definitely the correct forum.

I'm so sorry about your loss. The pain will never pass, it'll dull as time goes by but you'll always be sad that you lost your best friend. You don't let him go, you keep a special place in your heart for him always & forever. You'll have other cats, & they'll be special in their own way, but they won't replace Zeus.

So what will help you get through this is knowing you have no regrets. You gave Zeus the best life a cat could ask for. You gave him a good home, cared for him & made sure he knew you loved him. Knowing all the cats out there who don't get that, of course you'll grieve for Zeus but you should also feel good about the life you gave him.
 
Hi Jenni
In time you will feel better. It takes a while. I lost my cat Mirt 2 years ago and I still miss him . He was 18. He had a good life.
I swore I would never get another but since than I have 3 more.
Take it a day at a time. Let yourself cry be sad and remember your cat had a great life and his work was finished here and it was time to go.
Take good care of yourself.

Susan
 
Thank you so much, Everyone. Your words are very helpful. I just cannot believe how hard it is! I reallly appreciate you all being there for me and telling me your stories.

jenni
 
I am so sorry for your loss!!! I can truely say that I know your pain all too well! Unfortunately, you need to allow the pain, anger and sadness to run it's course! The more you fight it, the more difficult it will be. If you need to cry, cry. Need to scream, scream, just don't fight it.

For me, it took several months. It took longer to get over than it did when losing some family members...but they never let me rub their belly, snuggle with me under the covers, share my pillow or tap at me when they wanted my affection!

Again, I am so sorry! Give it time! Don't rush it and DO NOT belittle your feelings.
 
Jenni,
I too am very sorry for your loss. I lost my lovebird on April 11, 2006 and while I know people dont understand he was my bestfriend. I still cry for him it is very devastating. The pain is different for everyone and I too swore I would never get another bird or another animal-I now have 4 cats and 2 birds. I will never forget my little Calvin and I know I will see him again just as you will see your baby again. I am sorry for your loss you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Lisa
 
Jenni,

I feel for you. I'm sitting here crying, because I've lost pets also. All I can say is time will help as it passes. It is hard to lose a loved animal. I'm also close to my Molly dog, who is now 9 years old. Can't imagine life without her. She is the most precious one I've ever had. She brings so much joy to our lives.

Please take care of yourself and know your little one isn't suffering anymore. Continue to have fond memories. And cry, because that is part of the grieving process. I'm so sorry for your lose.

Janie

"If you can't say anything nice about someone, then don't say anything at all."
-My mother, Mary Cooper-
 
Oh that's sooo sad! I have a precious little dog - I can't even think of anything happening to him. I'm dreading the day... It must be very painful for you. It's painful to hear about. I feel terrible for you.

My friend lost a dog recently, waited a month and got a puppy. She wished she'd gotten the puppy sooner because it helped with the grieving. Not that another cat would ever really take the place of your Zeus, but it might help to have another little one to be excited about.

I'm soo sorry.
 
Jenni,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don' tknow that the pain ever "goes away" but one day you realize you can think of Zues and smile through your tears and remember some of your happy times.

Letting them go is the biggest gift of love we can give them.

Colleen
 
Jenni,

I feel your pain. I lost my beloved dog Jasper last week. He was 8 years old. He stopped eating one day and was gone the next. I still cry every day. I know the pain will ease with time but I will always have that lump in my throat when I think about him. He was born here and was small enough to fit in the palm of my hand. I just wanted you to know there was someone going through this terrible time too.

{{{HUGS}}} to you.
 
OMG Jenni thats terrible:-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( . I have a cat which I absolutley LOVE (when I finish my picture trail everyone will meet her) and couldn't even IMAGINE losing her. Just having a fury friend is soo cool. If you tell it things and won't tell anyone else, and if your feeling down, well, sometimes their love can bring you up. Ok, I odn't mean to make you feel any worse than you already do. Sorry:-(. Sending you hugs and kisses!

~Adri;-)
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Oh Jenni, I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through. I cried when I read your post. Please feel free to vent and let out your feelings. I know how painful it can be as I remember when I had to let my cat Mittens go. I had had her since I was six years old and when I was twenty she developed kidney failure along with some other health issues, but it was literally such a heart wrenching experience to go through. Even at the last moments when I was crying she was still purring, okay now I'm crying again just thinking about it. :( I know it was very hard for me after having her for fourteen years to want to let myself get so close to another animal b/c she was so special, and we'd been through so much together. But after a few years we ended up getting another cat, Junior, which I love dearly. Then last year we got one more, Foxie who is just adorable and who I'm extremely close to. It is so difficult b/c they truly do become like your family. Again, I'm sorry about Zeus and please post if you ever need to talk or cry.
Here for you anytime, Lisa
Wanted to add that Jane, I'm so sorry for you too having lost your dog Jasper :(
 
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