LIFE QUESTION
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SirenSongWoman
Cathlete
It took me 8 years to put myself through college (lack of money had me always dropping out to work) and I wish I'd gotten a job with a great retirement account instead, since you can always go to college nights but those early years are crucial to retirement investing. That's what I always USED to say. But then the economy tanked...
My biggest regret now would be living my life on the sidelines, fat and sad, for 18 years. Sometimes I see a heavy woman with thick glasses, a long ponytail, and elastic waistband pants in her 20s and I want to go up, shake her, and scream "Snap out of it NOW!" I finally did, but those years where I withdrew can never be gotten back. What a waste.
My biggest regret now would be living my life on the sidelines, fat and sad, for 18 years. Sometimes I see a heavy woman with thick glasses, a long ponytail, and elastic waistband pants in her 20s and I want to go up, shake her, and scream "Snap out of it NOW!" I finally did, but those years where I withdrew can never be gotten back. What a waste.
chefkate
Cathlete
Aw, Stacey!
That breaks me heart! But look how you're doing now!
I can honestly say I wouldnt change anything. I had my ideas about how things should go, mostly regarding children, and I couldnt be happier with the way things turned out. Turns out God knows what he's doing a whole lot better than I know what I'm doing!
That breaks me heart! But look how you're doing now!I can honestly say I wouldnt change anything. I had my ideas about how things should go, mostly regarding children, and I couldnt be happier with the way things turned out. Turns out God knows what he's doing a whole lot better than I know what I'm doing!
gidget1978
Cathlete
I would have tried harder in high school....hinch...having a higher paying job, instead of relying on DH to make the money (although, thats fine to) High school was just fun for me, and even though I passed each grade of course, I still could have done better!
I think the best year I did was in Grade 12 and thats cause I was pregnant ( I can't wish that never happened b/c that would be like wishing DD wasn't here) and knew I had more then just myself to take care of.
Other then that, I don't think I would have done anything differently.
Lori
(although, thats fine to) High school was just fun for me, and even though I passed each grade of course, I still could have done better!I think the best year I did was in Grade 12 and thats cause I was pregnant ( I can't wish that never happened b/c that would be like wishing DD wasn't here) and knew I had more then just myself to take care of.
Other then that, I don't think I would have done anything differently.
Lori
I would not have wasted about 15 years partying and going out all the time! Although I had a great time, and learned lots about people during that time, I wasted a lot of time, too. I used to have this idea that I needed to go whenever anybody ever asked me to go do anything. I should have stayed home more often and saved my money. It's very hard now, later in life, to 'make up' all the dollars that I blew away when I was young. I often console myself that my situation financially isn't much different than most of my friends who did stay home because they blew their money on lots of other 'things' - like shoes and clothes and cars, etc. At least I can say that I had a good time and made lots of friends.
zoesmom
Cathlete
and just to add one more than. I think I would have made more friends. I would not say I'd a shy person but it's hard for me to make friends. It's hard for me to trust people. Me and my dh r total opposites. He can go into a room knowing nobody and come out knowing everbody. me I go into a room and come back out. I often tell him he could talk to a blind and mute person. TRUST me he would find a way. he just has the gift of talking to anybody on nothing and any where. but i'm learning as I get older it gets easier. I often tell him that if he did not ask me to marry him, I would still be at home with my mom ;0). And this is no lie....
I believe this forum helps me alot. For months i would not post anything or even start a thread. now look at me.... I'm typing away.........
But overall I would not change a thing....
I believe this forum helps me alot. For months i would not post anything or even start a thread. now look at me.... I'm typing away.........
But overall I would not change a thing....
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I would have gone to college and become a lawyer and then started a foundation and took on cases where the normal joe was being taking advandage of and took the cases pro bono and fought the good fight for people without the means to do so.
Or... I would have avoided my 30yr depresssion of wasted years and enjoyed life and laughed more.
Or... I would have avoided my 30yr depresssion of wasted years and enjoyed life and laughed more.
allwildgirl
Cathlete
I wouldn't have had the sex change operation...
HaveFun
Cathlete
Liann
Cathlete
Bwahahaha! No regrets here. Everything I've ever done in life has made me who I am and brought me to where I am. The mistakes and dumb arse stuff I have done (and trust me, I've made some huge mistakes) has taught me the most about life, so no regrets, no changes.
I've got to ask - what does the word "hinch" mean? I'm lost on that one.
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spyrosmom
Cathlete
Wow! A lot of mine are the same as yours!
I would have found fitness/health earlier. 18 and over 200lbs is no place to be. Canned lemonade and Ho-Ho's do not make lunch. A PB sandwich on white bread and a huge bowl of ice cream do not make an afternoon snack!
I wouldn't have quit college. I was pre-med. Shouldn't have quit, but I had a lot of family stuff going at the time. However, in all that I married DH and had DS, so I can't say its a complete regret. Who know what would have happened if I spent another 10 yrs in school?
I would keep in touch w/ old friends. I have a very hard time doing that, and I often wonder what they are up to. All I need to do is pick up the phone, write a letter, or send an email, yet I don't do it.
But, we can't regret what we've done bc we can't change the past, and have to work with what we have now. I'm happy where I am now, and who's to say that making any of those other choices would have made me happy. Can't change it now, so just keep on movin' forward!
Nan
I would have found fitness/health earlier. 18 and over 200lbs is no place to be. Canned lemonade and Ho-Ho's do not make lunch. A PB sandwich on white bread and a huge bowl of ice cream do not make an afternoon snack!
I wouldn't have quit college. I was pre-med. Shouldn't have quit, but I had a lot of family stuff going at the time. However, in all that I married DH and had DS, so I can't say its a complete regret. Who know what would have happened if I spent another 10 yrs in school?
I would keep in touch w/ old friends. I have a very hard time doing that, and I often wonder what they are up to. All I need to do is pick up the phone, write a letter, or send an email, yet I don't do it.
But, we can't regret what we've done bc we can't change the past, and have to work with what we have now. I'm happy where I am now, and who's to say that making any of those other choices would have made me happy. Can't change it now, so just keep on movin' forward!
Nan
LaughingWater
Cathlete
Ha.
While getting a college degree wouldn't have hurt, I honestly think all things work out in the end. It's up to us to find the value in what we've accomplished so far.
While getting a college degree wouldn't have hurt, I honestly think all things work out in the end. It's up to us to find the value in what we've accomplished so far.
Jennifit
Cathlete
I would have slept around more when I was single. Kissed a few girls, mixed it up a bit, ya know?
That is GREAT!! Damn, that would have been great! ha
