I found out late yesterday that a girl I work with was killed in a car accident. Someone ran directly into her and she died instantly. She was only 27yrs old and such a nice girl. Always had a big smile on her face and she had the brightess blue eyes that just sparkled when she came into a room. She also was suppose to get married in 4months. We were just talking about her wedding on tuesday morning. I couldnt sleep lastinight, I kept thinking about her and why this had to happen to her. I lost my sister in a tragic accident yrs ago and every since her death I have a hard time when someone else dies.I am almost afraid to drive, I worry when my kids are with someone else that is driving and It makes me a nervous wreck. I know you cant stop these things or live life worrying about that every single moment but it is hard not to when you feel like death is all around you. I have had so many people I know die with in the last yr and a half that it scares me. What is going on in this world,why is there so much death? We will be closing our dept at work down for her services. The sad thing is she was a speech therapist that was helping people who had illnesses or injuries from accidents. she was very good at it too. I dont mean to bring saddness here, I just wonder how others get past this feeling when things like this happen all around you,it just makes you afraid all of the time. It passes a little but then boom someone else you know or love dies. It just so sad.
Life can be so cruel
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penguinchik
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Oh Laura, I am so very sorry. What a horrible thing. There are no words for something like this. My thoughts are with you.
--Jennifer
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luvtorun
Cathlete
Awww Laura, I'm so sorry. Death is always hard to deal with. My DD has had to deal with the death of many friends through high school and college one of which was a suicide. That still haunts her to this day. Sending {{{{HUGS}}}} your way and I'll be remembering you and her family in my prayers.
Timber99
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((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry to hear this awful news
Many times life throws in some very weird curve balls. I remember when my father passed away (young, healthy, fit, unexpectedly, giving, loving, etc.), everyone was in awe that he was gone and everyone was left with that empty "oh god why?" feeling. It's awful and unexplainable and sad. I know right where you are right now.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. Most often you don't know that reason when it happens and it doesn't make it any easier. The only thing that you can do is grieve, feel your emotions and try to remember her for the young, helpful, ambitiious person that she was.
Many times life throws in some very weird curve balls. I remember when my father passed away (young, healthy, fit, unexpectedly, giving, loving, etc.), everyone was in awe that he was gone and everyone was left with that empty "oh god why?" feeling. It's awful and unexplainable and sad. I know right where you are right now.
I believe that everything happens for a reason. Most often you don't know that reason when it happens and it doesn't make it any easier. The only thing that you can do is grieve, feel your emotions and try to remember her for the young, helpful, ambitiious person that she was.
Fit_mommy
Cathlete
That is very very sad Laura. I feel for you. I don't understand it either...
During the summer a young boy in our town..he was 11 yrs old I think...was hit by an Academy bus and killed instantly. Gives me chills every time I think of it. There has been a large memorial at the site where the accident occurred (including a pic of the boy) ever since.
I can not imagine the pain a parent must feel when they lose a child wether that child is 7, 27 or 70! ;(
My thoughts will be with you, your coworkers and ofcourse that poor girl's family.
Why don't you try to take this horrible event and create something positive from it? Instead of being AFRAID to go out for fear of thes things happening, start living life as if it were your last day here on earth..make the most of every day!
Tim McGraw has an excellent song out about that...The name escapes me currently but I well up with tears every time I hear it...
Take Care!
During the summer a young boy in our town..he was 11 yrs old I think...was hit by an Academy bus and killed instantly. Gives me chills every time I think of it. There has been a large memorial at the site where the accident occurred (including a pic of the boy) ever since.
I can not imagine the pain a parent must feel when they lose a child wether that child is 7, 27 or 70! ;(
My thoughts will be with you, your coworkers and ofcourse that poor girl's family.
Why don't you try to take this horrible event and create something positive from it? Instead of being AFRAID to go out for fear of thes things happening, start living life as if it were your last day here on earth..make the most of every day!
Tim McGraw has an excellent song out about that...The name escapes me currently but I well up with tears every time I hear it...
Take Care!
DebbieH
Cathlete
I'm sorry Laura! Death is sooo sad. I have lost both of my parents and a brother at young ages (well, young to ME!) and it is so hard to understand why. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.
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scm
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That is really sad. I'm so sorry to hear about your sister also. Life does seem unfair at times but these incidences happen for a reason, even thought it seems impossible to figure out at the time.
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Elaine Keller
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I'm so, so sorry. In C.S. Lewis book A Grief Observed (he lost his wife to cancer) he said he was very surprised by how much grief felt like fear.
I like what Wendy said when she suggested that instead of being afraid all of the time try to live as if today might be the last.
I sort of understand the fear part because my cousin and a friend recently died of cancer and now my brother is struggling with it. For a while I was at times almost paralyzed with the fear that I would get cancer too.
I'm sorry, I obviously don't know what to say to make you feel better but I feel so bad for you that I wanted to at least try......
I like what Wendy said when she suggested that instead of being afraid all of the time try to live as if today might be the last.
I sort of understand the fear part because my cousin and a friend recently died of cancer and now my brother is struggling with it. For a while I was at times almost paralyzed with the fear that I would get cancer too.
I'm sorry, I obviously don't know what to say to make you feel better but I feel so bad for you that I wanted to at least try......
Miss Lee
Cathlete
Laura,
I'm so sorry. I do know what you are going through right now. I've lost several friends and family over the past 2 1/2 years: my mom, 2 aunts, 2 uncles, a friend to suicide, and the wife of one of my DH's college friends. It's been a lot to take in and deal with.
I think you just have to stay focused on the friends and family you still have and appreciate them every day. Love them the best you can because you just don't know when they will be taken from you. That's what I've tried to do anyway.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers
Michele
I'm so sorry. I do know what you are going through right now. I've lost several friends and family over the past 2 1/2 years: my mom, 2 aunts, 2 uncles, a friend to suicide, and the wife of one of my DH's college friends. It's been a lot to take in and deal with.
I think you just have to stay focused on the friends and family you still have and appreciate them every day. Love them the best you can because you just don't know when they will be taken from you. That's what I've tried to do anyway.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers
Michele
I am so sorry. Must be tough to go to work and see that empty seat or sit in a meeting knowing that person should be there. Hugs out to you.
Whenever there is a big car accident on TV or I see one on the road, I am the same way with driving. It is very natural and will hopefully wear off with time. Again, I am so sorry and thinking about you.
Melissa
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Whenever there is a big car accident on TV or I see one on the road, I am the same way with driving. It is very natural and will hopefully wear off with time. Again, I am so sorry and thinking about you.
Melissa
Keep your head in line. Your butt will follow.
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