It's finally hitting home...

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gettingfitmom

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I just sent a tuition check for my DDs fall semester. This is the first to "leave the nest" and I'm starting to get sad:( She'll only be an hour away, but still...and she is the independent type, "I won't miss home..." (But I bet she will:)) Anyone else going thru this? Thanks, Kay
 
I'm sending daughter #1 for her 2nd year and daughter #2 for her 1st. I did okay until we left move in day. It took a little while but by October, I was enjoying the increased quiet. And my independent daughter called or texted me more than she ever did at home. We are closer now than before she left. I must admit to looking forward to August this year! I know there will be a little adjustment time, but it's a good thing to adjust to! ;)
Now, if I could get the boys to move out, in 2 years I'll finally have an empty nest! :p
Let yourself feel whatever you're feeling and even grieve if you need to. When you're ready, I think you'll be surprised at how much you enjoy the time with your husband.
Hang in there! :)
Becky
 
I am right there with you!! My DD is packing now - headed out on August 27th. First born and it will be so sad for me. I still have the DS at home, he is headed to Kindergarten!! So I get to do it allll over again!!
She is pretty excited, so I put on the happy face. I know it will be so good for her, but not for me!

Michelle
 
When my first born went off to college - only an hour and 1/2 away - I was sad but we Im'd and talked and she was able to come home quite a bit so it was OK. Now when my last born went away I cried and cried and felt like I was no longer a Mom and was looking at myself and my life like - what do I do now ??

You will adjust. Actually we are moving our first born back home this weekend. 4yrs of college and NO jobs to be found yet. Now that's scary. So they will return !
 
My oldest ds is heading off to college this fall, too. He'll be three hours away. We are going to miss him terribly. He is very, very close with one of his younger brothers and I'm worried about how they'll adjust to being apart. I have this feeling like life will never be the same and that the time went way too quickly. :(

Erica
 
My daughters are only 6 and 4 but reading all of these posts make me very sad. I am NOT looking forward to those days.:(

These posts also remind me of when I first went away to college. I was the independent type in high school and could not wait to get away from home. Then moving day came and I begged my parents to take me back home. They wouldn't and I remember the tears in my father's eyes. I cried for a few days, too. At that time I had to use a PAY PHONE. For those of you who are younger and don't know what a pay phone is, it's a machine you put coins in and dial the number in order to talk. When the money runs out your call gets cut off. :p

We all adjusted and you will, too. I hope you enjoy a little more of your free time. Maybe you could send your daughter some letters and packages in the mail. My mother did that and I loved her for it.

Good luck and hugs to you!
 
I'm not a Mom, but reading all of your posts about what it was/is like, makes me wonder - imagine how it was for all those Moms before cell phones and the Internet!!! Must have been difficult!
 
Yes, we're in the same boat. My oldest starts college in about a month; she will be 3+ hours away. Overall, I am excited for her and know that she will have a wonderful experience. But I do feel likes it is an "end of an era", and that time is going by so quickly. I think it will be a more difficult adjustment for my DH since he has been the stay-at-home parent over the years.

Our DS is starting high school and I keep reminding him that now we'll be able to focus much more attention on him... which thrills him to no end :)

I wish everyone well during this transition. Though we will miss them, I think we should be happy and proud that they are ready to start an exciting chapter of their lives.

Now let's see if I'm this philosophical on moving day...

Michelle
 
We fought a very long, very expensive legal battle with the county mental health/mental retardation department to get my DS, who has Prader-Willi syndrome, placed in a group home. It was hard the day that he moved out, but the home has been such a blessing for him and us.

After my DD left for college, I had no trouble adjusting to an empty nest. DH and I enjoyed the four months between when my DS moved into the group home and my DD came back home with a surprise grandson with severe handicaps. Sigh.

I would love to experience an empty nest with my DH again. It will be years....
 
Kay, My son goes off to college this fall also. Aug 18 is his move in date. He leaves early since he will be playing soccer. he is only 45 min away, I am already thinking of times I can go over for lunch etc!
 
My youngest moves back to his college apartment late August. He will be a junior next year. I still have my 26 year old son at home. He works full time and goes to school full time. I want him to finish school before he moves out and has to worry about bills etc.
I think it's going to be a long time before I have an empty house.:eek::eek:

I hear a lot of kids move out and then move back home. Oh well, my oldest is taking his time.:) I don't mind really. He lives in our basement. It is nice to have him around because he can fix just about anything around the house and my computer.:D DH is really not all that handy.
 
Yup! I'm right there with you. DD leaves on the 17th and DH leaves for Korea on Sept. 3rd. It's just going to be me and DS until summer break.

Diane
 
I hate to admit this but...I was happy when mine were finally gone and out on their own. Could be because I was married and a mother at a young age, and am the oldest of five children. However, my oldest daughter was back home for a year, along with my grandson, and it was hard when they moved out. It takes time to adapt to change.
 
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