I have a DATE tonight!!

princessbear said:
...okay, so why send me an eharmony message when you have my number and can call me?
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Maybe he's on the site 'browsing' some more, and it was convenient to contact you from there. Maybe he's gone out with several women in the past few days, and he's contacting them through the one central area.

Or maybe he just didn't have your phone number handy when he was thinking about you, and decided to send you a quick 'hi there' just to let you know he was.

You could definitely drive yourself crazy wondering why other people do things (heck, some of the time, I can't even understand why *I* do some things!).
 
Gayle - I'll keep you all posted. I'll call him in a few days if I don't hear from him - but I'm pretty sure he'll call me. I love hearing stories from people like you who met really great guys online - it gives me hope!!
 
Mary.....why not take your own interview advice you offered Amelia. Just when you stop thinking so hard about it you will meet the right person, and it will just seem so easy and right and there will be no need to sweat the little things. ;)
 
Beavs said:
Mary.....why not take your own interview advice you offered Amelia. Just when you stop thinking so hard about it you will meet the right person, and it will just seem so easy and right and there will be no need to sweat the little things. ;)
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Ahhh, good idea. I'm trying, really I am. I do know if this guy doesn't call me, it's no big deal. Sometimes it's hard for me to deal with rejection though... ugh... I'm trying.
 
I have a DATE tonight!! - UPDATE

Okay - so the guy never called me after our date ... no big. Seriously, the more I think about it the more he is not for me. In replaying our conversations (phone and in person), he is very nice, but he is very focused on "stuff" - cars, nice houses, STUFF ... AND, he never asked me anything about myself really, just went on and on talking about himself and telling me stories about his childhood, etc. Now, once I asked him what kind of music he likes and he told me. If someone asked me that, I would respond and ask THEM what kind of music they liked. Nope. Nada. Nothing. I know I'm picky - one of my friends tells me that the reason that I can't meet someone is that I have a list.... well, she doesn't have a "list" and she goes out with and sleeps with anyone ... she just NEEDS a man in her life. I, on the other hand, don't NEED someone, just want someone to share my life with. Like the Sugarland says "I'm not settlin' for just gettin' by. I've had enough so-so, for the rest of my life. Tired of shooting too low, gonna raise the bar high. Enough ain't enough this time...." So I'll keep living my life and someday it will happen - in God's time, not mine.

BUT - I am meeting a new guy that an acquaintance is setting me up with today - we are going to a cookout of mutual friends and I'm getting a ride on his fatboy to boot. So that is exciting. PLUS, it is the anniversary of my sobriety date - 23 years without a drink and loving every minute of my life!!

Now, if I can just get this shoulder healed so I can get back to my workout rotations.... today is treadclimber again, followed by back and biceps... dr. said I could do anything that doesn't cause pain, but NO dips, overhead extensions, shoulder exercises, etc. UGH.
 
princessbear said:
BUT - I am meeting a new guy that an acquaintance is setting me up with today - we are going to a cookout of mutual friends and I'm getting a ride on his fatboy to boot. So that is exciting. PLUS, it is the anniversary of my sobriety date - 23 years without a drink and loving every minute of my life!!

Now, if I can just get this shoulder healed so I can get back to my workout rotations.... today is treadclimber again, followed by back and biceps... dr. said I could do anything that doesn't cause pain, but NO dips, overhead extensions, shoulder exercises, etc. UGH.
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Oh Mary! That is awesome and yup...so with you on the lyrics of SugarLand.

I hope you have a fabulous time today.

I had some issues with my shoulder a month or so ago and took some weight lifting time off...really helped a lot. I just did my cardio, rode my hores, and stretched. Worked out for me pretty good.

Again! Have a GREAT time today! Ah, the wind in your hair...;)
 
This gave me goosebumps!!!!

celestialtimes said:
Mary, One day at a time.



I met my husband at the farm I board my horse at...I was working a pt job trying to stay super busy...working on a farm down the road and I would come to see my horse...I had just finished cleaning 15 stalls...I was so not the picture of beauty and whew...I couldn't stand my own stink. He said that's the day he fell in love. Sick-o :D. We got married this past March.

Hope it works out...but then...what if it doesn't...so what...you had a nice time...I'm sure you took something away from it.
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This is SOOOOOO sweet! Oh MY GOSH!!!!
 
celestialtimes said:
Oh Mary! That is awesome and yup...so with you on the lyrics of SugarLand.

I hope you have a fabulous time today.

I had some issues with my shoulder a month or so ago and took some weight lifting time off...really helped a lot. I just did my cardio, rode my hores, and stretched. Worked out for me pretty good.

Again! Have a GREAT time today! Ah, the wind in your hair...;)
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More like helmet head as we have helmet law in Massachusetts :( I have not done upper body weight training in two weeks (until today and then only LIGHT shoulders and bis - and abs from SJP)... start physical therapy tomorrow and waiting for the okay to do some KPC.
 
Mary,

I'm too late but just a little input on his reaction after the date (for next time, maybe!). I talked to a lot of people about "internet dating etiquette" when I was out there and from the guy's perspective, it seems as if a lot wait to hear what we are thinking or say before they put their feelings out there. It seems to be for the comfort of the female and leaving it in her court kind of thing. Not my style, but that is what I heard from a lot of guys. I still remember when my bf sent me his phone number (on email) for the first time. When I didn't call, he was confused. I'm traditional and I was not calling him first! When I explained (in a teasing way), he simply stated that he did that so that I could call at my own pace when I was comfortable.

Hang in there! I met my bf on match.com just over 2 years ago and we just got engaged last week :) I had it with the internet and was just about to terminate my account. He had written a short, nice email so I sent him my yahoo email address and then canceled. He wrote right away and we hit it off immediately. There are lots of people out there "shopping," but some that are legitimately looking just like you.

Christine :)
 
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princessbear said:
More like helmet head as we have helmet law in Massachusetts :( I have not done upper body weight training in two weeks (until today and then only LIGHT shoulders and bis - and abs from SJP)... start physical therapy tomorrow and waiting for the okay to do some KPC.
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Oh Mary, I hear ya on helmet head. I wear a helmet to ride...gotta love it. but I pretend...When I was boarded with my mom...top speed on a race horse with your hair just right in your ear...the wind would whistle....that was kind of neat....:cool:

But how was the date?
 
Mary, first off, congratulations on your sobriety anniversary! That's terrific.

I hope you had fun at your cookout today - it was a gorgeous day to go for a ride - helmet head or no helmet head. LOL.

I just wanted to be another to chime in on the internet dating. Like Christine (congratulations on your engagement!) I was giving up on internet dating and was about to cancel my match.com account. Actually, I kept missing the cut off date.

I had met Interesting But Too Intense and Too Far Away Guy, as well as TMI Guy - who told me ALL about his cardiac stent after I'd mentioned I work for a hospital.

So, I get an email from a guy, well, a memo really, and I was exhausted by the whole shebang. So I shot him back a response just being as stone cold honest as I could - friendly, but honest. And he loved it!

That was 5 1/2 blissful years ago. We're still together, still not inching, but I call it milimetering our way towards marriage. Life is good. There really are wonderful, warm, caring, sweet and juicy men out there and I think you can find them online.

So, that's my story ;). Hang in there and good luck!
 
I love hearing "success" stories when it comes to dating ... gives me hope! Today's "date" was really low key ... I'm glad we had a cookout to go to where we each knew other people (along with the couple that set us up)... so alot of the pressure was off. But I swear, I don't know how to read guys...and I think he was a bit nervous/shy. I called the woman who set us up after we all got home and she said he really thought I was sweet (hehehe - ME? Sweet?) and was psyched that I liked sports (we talked about the Pats - now I am new to football and started watching with friends last year and don't understand alot of the game but LOVE watching it). She offered to give him my number (which he didn't ask for when we all parted ways, hence my questioning whether he was even interested). He said he wanted her to ASK me if she could give it to him first, which I think is a really cool thing. Such a very different "type" of guy than the date I was on last week that I met on eharmony. Tom (today's guy) has a real calmness about him. He doesn't have 4 cars an a big house (like last week's guy), and is just a "regular guy"... I like that so much more cuz I can really be myself around someone like that and not feel like I have to measure up.

Soooooo.... I'll keep you all posted. Thanks for taking an interest in my sad little love life:D
 
Oh, Mary. I'm glad you enjoyed yourself today. Please be sure to keep us posted. And..."sad little love life"? It's better than NO love life, right? LOL ENJOY yourself! This dating this is SOOOOOOOO different as adults than when we were younger. I like it better as and adult, actually, since you know YOU now and have a better understanding of life.

GOOD LUCK!

Gayle
 
Glad it went well. Please don't call your love life sad. It is only sad if you are with someone who doesn't really love you. Many of us have been there.

Keep up the good thoughts and when you least expect it (or perhaps already) it will happen. Definitely not worth pushing it or persuing it.
 
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