Oh come on!
DMD, I have to tell you that I was so taken aback by your topic that I had to go find the other thread, print it out & read it from beginning to end.
I am TOTALLY confused by what you call A-Jock's "unfair" behavior. I see her usual sense of humor. She was trying to turn a pi$$ing contest into humor--being a peacemaker.
I do consider myself to be an "old-timer" here I was around before Cathe changed her forum to this one (I don't even remember when that was it was so long ago) & I have been so disgusted with the changes that I see coming about that more often than not I find myself pi$$ed off by how offended others are. A while back someone posted that it seems people need to get thicker skin. Yep, they really do.
Ok, so maybe you haven't been around long enough to know A-J's sense of humor--I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. However, this is just another example of "newbies" coming in & making assumptions before getting to know the lay of the land.
Kathryn very often comes across as bossy (please take no offense Kathryn). However, before telling her off, I got to "know" her & have come to appreciate her knowledge.
Lately I have been reading topics that really make me hate coming here anymore. Actually, I had stayed away for a long time because it was getting bad. Then it got better, now it's bad again.
People need to get over themselves & quit taking things so personally -- even when a response wasn't meant for you.
Personally I think A-J said it best in the "I wish" topic
"Ah, Starrynumeral, I could never stop coming here. And in fact about an hour after I said I'd never post on the Ask Cathe forum, I . . . well . . . did. It usually takes me a lot less time to go ahead and do something I said I'd never do again, so an hour is a record of sorts for me.
Although I stand by my alternately wistful and sullen comment on the thread on Ask Cathe that got this whole thing started that the tone and tenor of these forums have changed, I value them too much to let 'em go. Too many nice people HAVE come on here in days and years past to toss out the baby with the bathwater. Sadly, too many nice people like Honeybunch and Getnfit@39 have absented themselves, perhaps for the reasons we're talking about now.
In fact, I remember when Getnfit@39 first made her appearance to my recollection: after having already lost 147 (that is not a typo) pounds, she was desperate because the scale hadn't budged that week. I and the Real Cathe-Ites barraged her with encouragement and, more importantly, information from personal experience and study. And Donna / Getnfit@39 was and is one kick-@&& broad. I miss her.
There are too many people like her, people who want fitness for its own sake and are willing to work for it, people who come here because of that, to walk away from this forum. These are my sisters; they reflect my values, and they take away some of the loneliness of living fitness in an unhealthy society. From that singular bond arise other life issues to discuss.
I may get impatient with narcissistic (sp? it's too late and i'm too bald to care) infomercial-oids who drift over here, but impatience is all I'll ever get, never my walkin' shoes."
I remember when Donna first appeared too, she was gettinfit@38--wasn't she? Now she's gone & I miss her too. Didn't Donna shave her head in support for A-jock? I remember reading that she was going to or did I dream that?
Honeybunch got fed up & booked a long time ago.
And Trevor, bless his pee pickin' little heart was chased off. I miss his comments--even when they were sarcastic.
My hope is that they still lurk & know that we do miss them.
edited because I spelled a bunch of stuff wrong--don't shoot me A-j! LOL
Ok, I've made this way too long but I think you get the point--I hope.
