Feeling really misunderstood

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lisaannjam

Cathlete
I posted a question in the Ask Cathe Forum and the title was How's the Presale going? I just want to say that I meant no harm, nor was I trying to pry into Cathe's business ledger with that question. I was mainly congratulatory on her accomplishements and wanted to tell her how much I just love her and so on.

Others, not Cathe, responded and I feel that they were unnecesarily unkind with their response. If they felt my question was inappropriate I can respect that. But there was was no respect for me in their response (basically telling me Cathe was not going to answer because it was a business question and none of my business). If my question was one that Cathe would rather not respond to, I respect that. I understand that. I wasn't looking for sales figures with the question.

I did apologize if my question came across that way. It was absolutely not my intention. I was just really hurt by the curt response I got to a question I posed to Cathe. I didn't think I deserved it.

Just had to get that off my chest. I was pretty hurt and don't feel like I have any reason to return here. It just made me sad because there are so many nice women that I've corresponded with here. I wish them all the best.
 
I understood your post in the Ask Cathe forum. Typing and reading are so much different than speaking in person. So much is left open to interpretation and you know what? How a person responds is often a reflection of them and NOT you. Your enthusiasm was obvious to me and maybe some read the title of the post and hit reply without reading the body of the message. Please don't leave!
 
I read your post too, and I didn't think there was anything out of line at all. I agree with you that sometimes people can be unkind in their responses to a post. Honestly, I think when you have this many women posting on an internet forum the flow of estrogen can be a little overwhelming! LOL!;) Don't sweat it--I agree with another poster who felt that it said more about the responder than it did about you.

Michele
 
Please don't feel like you don't have a reason to return here anymore. I agree that they were rather curt and insensitive to you, but I don't think they meant to sound as rude as they came across.
Sometimes in writing things sound a lot more insensitive than they are intended and that may be the case. But of course since I didn't write them, I can't be sure of the intentions behind them.

Just know that there are many great and supportive women here and maybe you would miss out on some great "e-relationships" if you leave.
I think you have a right to feel hurt but don't let it get you down.:)

BTW, I thought your questions was perfectly acceptable so don't sweat it!

carolyn
 
Hi Lisa ~

I, for one, did not interpret your question about the pre-sale as "pry"ing or out of line. As a former business owner, there actually is no question anyone could ask that would surprise me! I would be both humbled and encouraged by what I perceive to be genuine interest. As a matter of fact, I felt your enthusiasm and excitement in your post. Don't "sweat" over comments/replies that could be construed as negative. The only response that really matters will come from the person to whom the question was directed.

I haven't asked how the pre-sale is going but I hope it is HUGELY successful (and I'm certain it will be!).

Have skin like a duck not a sponge! Chin up!

~ Kim

"Welcome the challenge...Embrace it...Don't fear it." -Cathe Friedrich
 
Okay, here's some feedback for you: I have to admit that I didn't understand that post. I mean, there were two choices. Either you were asking her how business was going, which seemed inappropriate, or you were saying "hey, how's it going Cathe?" in a casual way. You sounded very friendly and supportive. With all the hundreds of posts that Cathe gets, and all the specific questions that people have for her, I wasn't sure why you would add to her email load by just asking how it's going. So, either way, I didn't get it, but I did get that you were being supportive. In any event, it wasn't a big deal. It just seemed like you didn't give it much thought before you posted, certainly not like you meant any harm.

But, hey, I like you very much and enjoy your posts. So please don't leave! Okay?

-Nancy
 
You don't have to explain yourself or apoligize for asking Cathe how she was doing. Many people leave posts telling her what they want to see in her DVDs and demand to know what kind of music she will have on it. I thought it was sweet for you to ask her how she was doing and letting her know how excited you were rather than telling her what you want to see or hope that she includes. Very sweet! :) Don't let a few negative reactions keep you away. Just ignore it and keep on being you!

Missy

ETA that I know at least one of the people who responded did not mean to be rude and that it wasn't her intention to make you feel bad
 
Wow, you ought not be the person to apologize!!! Even if your post was out of line (which hey, it seemed like a "hey how's it going?" to me), there was no need to receive the response that you received. People get a little overzealous on message boards and ilke everyone else has said, their posts may come across wrong in interpretation. I think that when we all went to the road trip, we saw a side of Cathe as our "buddy" and so posts like yours are sweet, not derogatory. Next time, just jet her an email so everyone just she responds to you ;)

Christine
 
Lisa, I just want to say one thing, consider the source.

"How's the presale going?" can be answered in general terms, you're not putting anyone on the spot. I hope Cathe replies to you because some of the replies you got were ridiculous and you should not let them get to you. You have always posted very sweet, genuine remarks and that's a lot more than can be said for a few others.

Marla
 
Lisa,
you said nothing inappropriate. I am sometimes amazed and the the remarks that get made sometimes. I think a couple of those comments were meant to be nasty and that is uncalled for. You seem like a very kind and caring person. Please keep posting.:)

Susan
 
Lisa, you said nothing inappropriate IMHO and I don't understand the "don't pry into Cathe's business" responses you got. Maybe it's something in the air. I don't feel you have anything to apologize for or explain.

Carol
:)
 
Lisa, I've seen other rude comments made by people in the Ask Cathe forum who feel the need to speak for Cathe, or defend her, when in actuality, they are so off base it's ridiculous. Many people who've post here have received sarcastic remarks from time to time, including me. The main thing is, it's a forum on the internet, and what happened today will be forgotten about tomorrow. I hope you don't leave over this! There are a lot of nice people on this board. :)
 
Lisa, please don't go because of a few people's insensitive rude comments. There are more positive people on this forum than negative I believe. Please don't leave.
 
Thank you all so much for your replies. I didn't realize that people kind of know who I am. Thanks for letting me know how you feel and I'm glad I did come across as I intended. I really do appreciate you Ladies. And Nancy, I see your point. And thank you for putting it so eloquently. But you always do!! That's all I needed. I'll think twice and post once from now on in the ask Cathe forum. Thanks Ladies!!! Big cyber hugs to you all.
 
Lisa,

I have witnessed many posts on this forum that I thought were out of line or rude, etc. Some directed at me, some not. In any case, I hate them all and have considered leaving the forum myself because of it. I thought about it though and there are sooo many here who do not do things like this so ignore those that are rude and come have fun with those of us that are not!

There is no harm in disagreeing, etc. but I think some just need to work on the words they use to voice it....

Please stay.:)
 
Lisa:

Strangely, I was thinking about you this morning before I even knew any of this had happened, wondering how you were and I was going to send you an e-mail. Don't you dare let them chase you away with their negativity and nasty attitudes! Like Marla said, consider the course. I always enjoy your posts and I really hope that you stick around.:)
 
Come to think of it, lisaannjam, I was probably just looking at your post yesterday like a lawyer analyzing a brief, and probably spoke too soon because if I were Cathe I probably would have appreciated your post because it was so upbeat and supportive. In other words, my feedback may have been too analytical and unnecessary, and influenced by a couple of glasses of sauvignon blanc. (As several here know, I had a pretty rotten day yesterday).

In any event, I was sincere when I said that I like you and would miss your posts if you left us, and I'm glad you're feeling better. :D

-Nancy
 
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