Feeling really misunderstood

[intensitylisa]

Lisa, don't worry about it! I have seen you post here for awhile and know you are a big Cathe fan. With soo many members reading the forums sometimes misinterpretations are bound to occur. I know you meant well and certainly wouldn't be disrespectful. Just curious and excited. Take care!

 

[materialsgirl]

Lisa, don't leave the forums over this! I read your post and I agree with many others - it was upbeat, supportive, in a "how's it going?" kind of way. I never once thought you were trying to pry into Cathe's business figures. The people who responded to you were unnecessarily rude and harsh in their responses. Fortunately, the majority of people on this forum are not like that, so please don't leave just because of 2 people. We've all got your back.

 

[benvonwojo]

Lisa:
You said nothing inappropriate at all. Please do not leave the forums because of a few rude comments from a handful of people. Dont let them push you around.

Suzanne

 

[red_mct]

I think the main thing is to keep your perspective and not let other folks get to you. I don't know that the responders meant to be rude; sometimes messages are just direct and that makes them seem short. In any case, only you can control how you feel, so it's important to learn to let that stuff roll.



Take care,
Marie

 

[Venus]

There was nothing wrong with your post. To quote my father, "don't let the turkeys get you down." :7

 

[kathryn]

Lisa,
Please don't feel you shouldn't post anymore or that you "need to leave".

As one of the "bad guys": ie: one of the responders to your post, I feel I was misunderstood as well. In part, due to my not thinking things through before I posted. Rather than just typing 'I agree' to the previous post (which I did because I was in a hurry), I should have been clearer myself. Like you, my intent was different from what the post was interpreted as (maybe we need some sort of "psychic, mind-reading" software application here, so we can see into a person's intent rather than just go by our interpretation of their words.;-))

I can't speak for the other poster, but from the title of your thread and the repeated question in your post, I WAS under the impression that your question was business related (ie: "How many new DVD's have you sold so far"). I admit that may be reading into things, but I've seen similar posts over the years, and remember one thread from maybe a year ago where someone directly asked Cathe how many X DVD's they had sold. SNM simply responded that they did not release that information. I was pretty sure Cathe wouldn't respond, and thought maybe she wouldn't even read the thread (I don't know how busy she is these days) because of the title. That's what I was agreeing with.

I also saw the enthusiasm and support in the rest of your message, and I think Cathe would appreciate that very much.

Now, I'm getting beat up and slapped around on that thread by a few people who go beyond giving you support, and some of those posts--a very few--I find to be overreactive and more rude than the response to your post!

Wanna just let that thread drop off the front pages, and start a new one? It really is getting rather nasty, and doesn't look like it will get better. A new thread with a fresh start will be more apt to catch Cathe's attention as well.

 

[Miss Lee]

Kathryn--Your're a class act all the way. You're one of the most intelligent, well informed, and helpful people ever to post on this forum and I have benefitted many times from your wisdom.

I agree with you, let's drop this thread and everybody start over again. I think sometimes, unintentionally, a mob mentality starts to build up in an effort to be supportive and things just get carried away.:-(

Michele

 

[pink_fortitude]

I agree! It didn't think that you, don't know about the other girl, meant to come off rude, but I do think that we can all benefit by being more sensitive and make sure our posts don't seem short or rude or presumptuous.

Missy

 

[swimnfit]

Hi Lisa,

I understood your post too. To me, you were asking a rhetorical question. Asking "how's it going?" is usually met with a response like "fine" or "great" without any elaboration on how one is really doing. Usually the person asking doesn't really want to know the details of how the other is doing and is just being polite. That is how I interpreted your post.

I enjoyed reading your post...so full of enthusiasm! I could certainly use a dose of that everyday!

Nicole

 

[lisaannjam]

Kathryn,

I in no way intended to cause drama. I understand how the title of my thread could have come across and I appreciate what you are saying. I don't want anyone to get "beat up". If you know anything about me at all from previous posts....that's not what I'm about.

To get something positive out of this...we can all think twice before we respond to something or in my case what I post and how I phrase it. I know my intentions, but others are not mind readers.

Thanks Kathryn.

Lisa J.

 

[hippahips]

Lisa, I sent you an e-mail. Hope you don't mind.

Pinky

 

[Roses]

Lisa J.,

You're question was just fine. I know Sophia once posted about if Cathe even ran in marathons and I responded that I'd like to know too. We got shut down pretty quick. So, I know how you feel, again its a typed language so we can't read anyones body language into it, but I felt pretty "scolded" also.

Let's keep our chins up together, anyway we posted to Cathe and she can respond herself!!

Sami

 

[rednek8]

Hi!

Just going to let you know that Cathe responded to your post on the "Ask Cathe" forum! I caught your enthusiasm as well!

Kris

 

[merrybaker]

Awww Cathe is just the best !! Hugs to Lisa and Cathe.

 

[smoogy]

Cool. So Cool!!!

Marla