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[jdimascio]

Just stop. If you don't like the posts, block them. "This person in particular" is a dear friend and knowing the obstacles and how hard she's worked to be able to do the things she does, leaves me inspired and motivated when I read her posts. I get it you don't, but stop being lousy to people I care about on a very public forum.

In addition....I agree! I mean I understand why people would get annoyed with certain posts, but you aren't going to like everything posted on Facebook. Everyone uses Facebook for different reasons too. All I know is that I have gained more from Facebook than anything....

 

[complik8td]

Most part though i realize lots of people seem to still need acceptance, even though they are old enough that shouldnt be a factor. Its sad but its just the way some are. I try to make some of them feel accepted by likeing some stuff...what does that hurt? To make someone feel good once in a while? Thats how i see it now. I guess different prespective then i used to.

Bingo! Nicely stated.

 

[complik8td]

In addition....I agree! I mean I understand why people would get annoyed with certain posts, but you aren't going to like everything posted on Facebook. Everyone uses Facebook for different reasons too. All I know is that I have gained more from Facebook than anything....

True, true!

 

[jodijodi]

I'm sure we all have complaints about some posts on Facebook. I know I do. And we all feel the need to vent about whatever is bugging us. Fair enough. I'm happy to provide a sympathetic ear. I think that's what most in this thread are doing.

But when you come to complain about a specific person's posts in a public forum, particularly one where that person is a member, that becomes inappropriate. And you may want to consider that you might be making certain incorrect assumptions as well.

Add me to the chorus of friends of that "particular person." She is an amazing person, an inspiration, and a good friend who means the world to me.

PS--I see that while I was typing this, the posts in question have disappeared. Oh well. I'm leaving this here anyway.

 

[Shantabulous]

I agree with you all and would like to apologize. I'm in a really dark place right now and I took my anger out on someone I don't even know, probably out of jealously. My words were unacceptable and unnecessary. This is why I have removed my posts. I'm sorry to those I have offended.

 

[jodijodi]

I'm sorry to hear that things are rough for you right now. I hope that things improve soon. Thank you for your apology.

 

[jacmar]

I agree with you all and would like to apologize. I'm in a really dark place right now and I took my anger out on someone I don't even know, probably out of jealously. My words were unacceptable and unnecessary. This is why I have removed my posts. I'm sorry to those I have offended.

We have all been there. It will get better. Sending good vibes your way.

 

[jdimascio]

I agree with you all and would like to apologize. I'm in a really dark place right now and I took my anger out on someone I don't even know, probably out of jealously. My words were unacceptable and unnecessary. This is why I have removed my posts. I'm sorry to those I have offended.

No worries...it takes a lot of courage to apologize. We all have rough and dark times in our lives, I totally get it. I hope things turn around for you!! We are all here for you!!!

 

[dreamyjeanie]

One thing that we all may seem to forget from time to time is that it can be easy to let our emotions take over our typing on public forums. It can be easy to judge someone from their posts, even though we know little about them in person. Posts on Facebook or any forum can easily be taken the wrong way or cause us to react in ways we are not proud of. When the earlier posts were going today, I'm glad I was at work and couldn't jump in. I would probably have let my emotions get the better of me and I could have typed some comments that aren't normally me. I, too, know the person things were directed at and could easily have taken a defense mode and I am glad things softened by the time I got off work. I can totally relate to the being in a dark place and I hope things improve quickly. I have admiration for someone who takes responsibility and can apologize publicly.

As for Facebook, we have to keep in mind that when people post something on their page, it is just that, something on their page. We can chose how it effects us. If we do not like it or agree, we have options; ignore it, block it, unfriend the poster, etc. We all use fb for different reasons and will never agree or be excited about every single post. I know that I have unfriended people because their posts just didn't fit what was important in my life. It wasn't anything they did, we just had a different way we lived our lives and I did not want to see certain comments when I logged into facebook. Did I unfriend these people in the proper manner? No, probably not. I could easily have sent a message stating "hey, it's not anything you did. We just don't have a lot in common or see eye to eye (or what ever the reason was for the individual cases), so let's go our separate ways". But I didn't, I just hit the unfriend button. So if any of you fellow Cathletes have been unfriended by me, please accept my apology if it caused you to question why I did it. One problem with facebook is that it makes it easy to hurt other peoples feelings without even doing it on purpose. Over time, I am learning from Facebook, that I need to pay more attention to how I respect people.

 

[Utah Gal]

What Melissa and Jodi and DreamyJeanie just said! I'm adding my voice to the chorus as well. I love every word that particular person has said, and for those of us who know her, I am inspired and motivated by every one of her posts.

Thanks for the follow-up Shannon. It took courage to apologize and take the notes down, but I respect that you did. Sending good vibes your direction.

-Cheryl

 

[elsie3]

I like Facebook and I love the Cathe Forums. They are very different tools for me.

Facebook helps me stay in touch with friends and former neighbors, and is also an easy way to communicate with family and current neighbors. I can know when someone has a child in the hospital and may need help, or when someone has had a baby or other major life event where I can express my congratulations. I really like the convenience of the messaging (especially if I don't know a person's email address). I can communicate with several people at once if we're trying to plan something or get the word out about something. It has been a fabulous tool. I enjoy re-connecting with people and staying in touch with others who might otherwise 'drop off my radar'. Yes, I have some friends who post excessively; but I love them, and I just skim past.

If I want/need support, advice, and a connection to other like-minded exercisers; I come here.

And, of course, I've been guilty of over-posting things on both sites. I try to be careful, but sometimes I think we all 'overshare' when we feel strongly about something or if we're in a certain mood. I'm glad people understand.

Edited to add: Even though we on the Cathe site share a love of her workouts and of fitness in general, we are a very diverse group. I thoroughly appreciate hearing other people's opinions on a variety of topics. And I enjoy the trivial--it usually brings a smile to my face and makes my day.