Exercise and libido???

spyrosmom

spyrosmom

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This may be a bit TMI, but I need some help. I'm only 29, I should be hitting my "stride" in the bedroom department, right? Um, no. I've noticed over the last 6 months or so as my cardio and weight workout intensity has increased my desire for nookie has nosedived into nothingness. Hubby has been understanding so far and we are trying to figure it out, but I can't imagine his patience will last forever. I just am not interested - its not him - George Clooney could wander into my basement now and sit on my lap, and it wouldn't matter.

I originally attributed it to work stress, as things were kinda hectic for a while, but that has calmed down. Prior to that I broke my kneecap and was kinda just a grouchy uncomfortable mess for a while, so I thought that maybe as well. But all that is (mostly) back on track now.

There are no other marital issues going on, I just don't feel like it. There are a million other things I could be doing. Anybody else experience this and how to fix it?? I'm kinda thinking its a use it or lose it thing, so we need to get back in the groove (so to speak) and it'll work itself out. Desire begets desire. I do have my annual gyno exam next week as well, so I am going to ask him, too. I'm fairly certain there's nothing physically wrong with me, I feel fine. Any insights?

Nan
 
All I have to add here is that you are not alone. My poor DF takes a backseat to Cathe most days. I am so focused on my fitness (and so tired most of the time from working out) that I don't have the time or energy to think about it.

It's definitely an important issue, I hope you and DH can figure it out!
 
I'll send you some of my libido. It's ridiculous. I hit my mid-thirties and it hasn't stopped since. My SO (who's 10 years younger than me) can't keep up. Sorry if that was TMI.

Maybe you can try scheduling some time with your DH? I know that sounds kind of clinical, but I think it's one of those things that, once you get going, you get going:p
 
Hi Nan,

IMO you should talk to your doctor and see if there is any physical reason for that ( maybe hormones???). Usualy,the more I excercise the more DH "gets". I fell strong and fit and hot (except when I'm PMSing). I hope it gets better.

Alini
 
OK....this is about the MOST personal info I've offered up on these boards to date....but I'm with Shelley.....I need to share some of MY 'energy' as well! lol My new BF isn't complaining, though!

Personally, when I'm consistant with workouts and clean eating, the libido goes into HYPER-drive.....increasing self-image, confidence....EVERYTHING!

Gayle
 
I have the opposite problem. I am a total horndog-always have been. My DH is 18 years older than me, so when we met he could keep up, now, well, not so much-plus the stress of work and stuff doesn't help, plus he does not exercise.

So I take out my "aggressions" on my workouts!I think the older you get, the more you want it. And the more you do it, the more you want it! :p Oh dear, I want some right now darn it!:7 Uh, peanut butter that is!}(
 
I also notice when I workout more I am more interested in sex. I feel sexy and look better so I tend to want it more. I would def. talk to your dr. It is very simple to do some bloodwork and check to see if your hormone levels are normal.

That being said I think it is normal to go through spots where you are less intersted in sex.
 
Nan, it's good that you are seeing your gyn soon. I hope he or she has some good ideas for you.

I have to add myself to the horndog list. I'll be hitting the big Four Oh in a few weeks - haven't I heard that 40 is when women "peak" sexually?

My poor BF! He's 46 and I've been wearing him out for almost 5 years now. I keep wanting to say, "Honey, did you eat your Wheaties today?"

As my fitness level increases I find my desire increasing too, and I didn't think that was possible! But just feeling my belly flatter and my muscles stronger... it's good!

Good luck and please let us know what your gyno says.
 
Oh yeah! The 40's are fantastic! I had a low libido in my 20's and 30's but I'm making up for it now! :7

And yes, the more I exercise the more I want it!
 
I'm surprised to hear of a 29-yr. old with the same problem I have. My thirties were by far my best years, and I just assumed it would last forever. Then, at some point in my mid forties, my libido just rolled over and died. :(

I would definitely see if your doctor can help. I went to a specialist who said my testosterone was a bit low, and she wanted to give me hormones. She said I should speak with my gyn and see if it was okay with her. My gyn said absolutely NOT. She doesn't believe in taking hormones unless you absolutely have to. Since I feel fine, I really don't "have" to. I'm still searching for something a little less drastic. I've heard that fish oil supplements can be helpful. I may try that next.

Good luck!!
 
I second (third, fourth?) the advice to mention this to your doc. I have experienced a similar problem, but at 51, adn with 3kids, feel like I have an excuse :eek: . But I also agree with you that "just do it" and you will want to do it more! Scheduling time, as previously mentioned, is good way to start. We can be so busy and overworked, that sex falls way down on our "to do" list:7
 
For the ladies that have a high sex drive do you also have a lot of energy throughout the day?

I'm tired a lot but I am also in the category where my drive has been low from late 20s to present...5+ years now.
 
Diva - I have more energy than most people half my age. However, I went through phases in my 20's and early 30's where my sex drive wasn't that high. Of course, that could have had something to do with my partner at the time:p
 
>I'm surprised to hear of a 29-yr. old with the same problem I
>have. My thirties were by far my best years, and I just
>assumed it would last forever. Then, at some point in my mid
>forties, my libido just rolled over and died. :(

I hear that!
 
I have been nicknamed "super woman" cause my energy levels are so high, granted there are those days that I just need a nap, but generally speaking I am a little powerball-thank goodness, or else I couldn't handle the chaos that is my lifestyle!:7

However, when 10:30pm rolls around I am ready for bed!;) Oh, and I am 41 years young.
 
Diva I guess I would have to say that I'm high energy. Or, rather, my lifestyle demands it - single working mom with two challenging kids.

So much of it is outside the realm of what can be measured or "fixed" by any direct means.

It has a lot to do with my partner and a lot to do with how I view sex - as my reward at the end of a long day it's a wonderful way to relax and reconnect.

If my libido were to dry up, so to speak, I would not hesitate to seek medical attention.
 
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